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i need to get rid of dog she has gone too far and dp is adamant :(

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muma3 · 09/08/2006 23:21

where do i start?

we have a puginese called tilly . she is just turned one and i have posted on here a few times about her . she is so naughty. she is a theif and is destroying everything . i have all the patince in the world for her and time but she is so disobidient that dp has had enough. she ran off today and he was chasing her for 30mins . she crossed a dual carraige way and nearly got hit 2 times. she takes everything she can up the garden and eats it . we have holes anout a foot deep all over garden . she keeps weeing on ours and dd2 bed even if the door is open for 2 secs she is there . we have tried cage training her and it has made no difference. she has had a smack on her nose a few times and nose rubbed in wee but she does it again . i give her loads of attention when i get the chance but she is always up to something that she is never being good.

when we got her we wanted a toy dog (which she is ) which would be soppy and loving , tilly is boistrous and playful . you only have to move a foot and she will think your playing and eat it .

my friend has got some kittems that she needs to rehome and i have been bugging dp for ages . he said today that we can have 2 if " we get rid of the devil dog "

i just feel awful about it and wont forgive myself but i know its the right thing to do . the guilt is killing me and she hasnt gone yet . the kids have said that they dont care if she goes either . i think we all have had enough tbh.

pleawse tell me dp is right and that i need to be sensible about this ??

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TambaTheDragonSlayer · 09/08/2006 23:25

Its not the dogs fault though....

She needs training. You made a commitment to her when you got her and cause shes not meeting your expectations you want rid.

Cant you take doggy training lessons or something?

colditz · 09/08/2006 23:26

If you don't like her, find her a new home, but be warned - if you haven't got time for 1 dog you certainly don't have time for 2 kittens. They crap everywhere and roll in your hair at 4am.

WigWamBam · 09/08/2006 23:28

She obviously sees your bed as her toilet ... once they wee somewhere, the scent marks it for them as a toilet spot and they continue to go there. Rubbing her nose it it won't help, and neither will smacking her as she hasn't got a clue that she's done anything wrong.

Would you be able to consider taking her to obedience classes? They would be good for you too - most cases of badly behaved dogs are down to incorrect handling. Otherwise rehome her - let someone take her who really has the time for her.

But don't get cats if you're expecting them to behave better than the dog. All pets take time to house-train and settle in and train into good habits.

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muma3 · 09/08/2006 23:30

we have a cat and she has never been a problem .

tamba i know what your saying and thats my opinion too . things have got so bad now though i dont think he will budge on the subject and i know in my heart its for the best but will feel so guilty . noone is happy with her here and i need to respect my family wishes too

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muma3 · 09/08/2006 23:31

dp wont spend money on classes he thinks that they are a waste of time

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WigWamBam · 09/08/2006 23:34

And there's the problem.

The dog is untrained - which is not the dog's fault. With proper handling and the right treatment there would be no problems - and it's unfair on the dog to take it on without being prepared to take on the training as well.

expatinscotland · 09/08/2006 23:36

but he was willing to spend money on a pedigree dog?

i don't have a dog b/c they are a HUGE commitment.

not willing to make that commitment, so don't have a dog.

brimfull · 09/08/2006 23:38

If you don't want to train a pet to behave and settle into family life then maybe you shouldn't have a pet at all.
Sorry if that sounds harsh but having a dog means committing to train it.
The RSPCA kennels are full of dogs like yours.
She's only one yr old ,that's the adolescent stage for dogs .How about getting a dog training book from the library .

NutterlyUts · 09/08/2006 23:54

Its not a pedigree dog, its a designer dog (aka mutt sold as "pedigree") but thats beside the point. Have to agree with GGirl but would go as far as to say that maybe rehoming her IS for the best, more for her sake then yours. Dogs need pack rules and she clearly doesn't

swedishmum · 10/08/2006 00:33

Can't you keep the dog out of the bedrooms. Agree with everyone about training and commitment. It is only recently that I've started to enjoy our year old labrador. Our ds really wanted a dog (or a brother) so he did the training class with his dog. Ds was 8 when he started and it was good for both of them. It wasn't very expensive and it was certainly money well spent.

GrinaFraud · 10/08/2006 00:41

Sory if this offends but AAAARRRGGGHHHH!!!

this really aggrevates me. if you look in any newspaper youwill see lots of dogs for sale at about 12-18 months old.
they are past the cute puppy stage and the ownes can't be bothered to properly train the animal. the dog behaves like a dog and so they get fed up of clearing it up.

i am tired of people saying the can't afford to train thier pet. then DONT BUY IT! what did your /your Dh think...that it would come pre programmmed to fit into your lifestyle?

when your kids were born did he ask you to rehome them if they woke crying at night? no you had to persevere and sought help if you couldn't manage alone or to get hints and advice.

your household clearly isn't right for this dog so yes, you should rehome her.

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muma3 · 10/08/2006 11:50

we never brought her . i do want to train her and i have all the time for her but dp isnt happy about her behaviour at all . i dont think he has the patience to spend time on her and wait for her to be trained iyswim . i have to admit that she is more of a handful then we imagined but im not willing to give her up due to "cant be bothered " its a bit unfair to assume that of me . i love her to bits but it is about what the rest of the family want too . i spend loads of time with her and take her out loads . i play and groom her and i would do anything to keep her but i have to compromise with dp and thats my problem . neither the dc r dp wants her anymore so i have no other option really do i?

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alicemama · 10/08/2006 12:00

Training is the key..I have a 6 month old springer spaniel and he destroys everything he can get his hands on and up til last week wee'd everywhere.
But he's calming down now and I've had a clean kitchen floor each morning for over a week now
You do need a lot of patience but if its too much and you need to find him a new home please take your time finding him a good one. Don't let him go to the first person that wants him. They need to be made aware of temprement and lack of training and be willing to take this on.
I know I'm stating the obvious

Enid · 10/08/2006 12:01

she sounds like a nightmare

sorry but I would agree with your dp

WigWamBam · 10/08/2006 12:03

She's better off with someone else. Someone who actually understands about training dogs, and someone whose family actually want her.

It makes me sad that this animal is being referred to as "having gone too far", "devil dog", "naughty", "thief", "never being good", when none of it is her fault. She simply hasn't been trained properly and hasn't been made aware of her boundaries. I'm sure it's not that you can't be bothered, but it doesn't sound as if you have much idea of what dogs need.

She will make someone a lovely pet, and I hope for her sake that you give her up very soon.

Enid · 10/08/2006 12:04

some dogs are untrainable though

unless you literally give uo pyour life to do it
(my parents had one)

I could never be bothered

alicemama · 10/08/2006 12:06

oh dear...are we going to have a heated debate about dog training?

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muma3 · 10/08/2006 12:07

thanks enid , i really feel bad honestly. i love her to bits but she is a nightmare and it seems its only me who wants to keep her . if i had my way i ould take her behaviour classes and get her well trained but dp wont wait for that and just says she is too much /too boistrous and too much bother . like i said even the girls dont want her anymore its going to break my heart . i am the biggest animal lover you will find and i dont want her to be shoved around from home to home . i worry how the dog will feel and i know i shall find it hard to find someone who will have her so untrained and playful .

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Tenalady · 10/08/2006 12:07

Lets all Campaign to 'ditch the kittens and keep the dog'

Enid · 10/08/2006 12:08

I feel for you

but if she is making your life misearble and your families life she should go

don't feel bad someone will take her if she is cute

compo · 10/08/2006 12:09

I don't see the point of this thread. we can all give opinions as to how you can train her etc etc but you seem unale to go against your dp. So do you just need numbers of places to give her to? Or does your dp want to sell her? as he is the one wanting rid maybe you should ask him to deal with it?

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muma3 · 10/08/2006 12:10

i do becasue it really is not the way i want it to go , im crying at the thought of it she is adorable and cried when i first saw her she is lovely but im on my own in this i think , it really isnt my choice

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Enid · 10/08/2006 12:11

I think she knows she has to get rid of the dog (and come on, you lot surely arent suggesting she keep the dog and stay miserable are you) and is upset about it?

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muma3 · 10/08/2006 12:12

i just needed to talk , we have asked friends about having her but noone will , i dont want her to go to a kennel so will look into other options . i dont believe in selling animals .

i can see this getting heated so i will leave it now

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compo · 10/08/2006 12:14

sorry, don't go!! I understand you're upset Could you have another word with you dp about how miserable you are?

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