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i need to get rid of dog she has gone too far and dp is adamant :(

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muma3 · 09/08/2006 23:21

where do i start?

we have a puginese called tilly . she is just turned one and i have posted on here a few times about her . she is so naughty. she is a theif and is destroying everything . i have all the patince in the world for her and time but she is so disobidient that dp has had enough. she ran off today and he was chasing her for 30mins . she crossed a dual carraige way and nearly got hit 2 times. she takes everything she can up the garden and eats it . we have holes anout a foot deep all over garden . she keeps weeing on ours and dd2 bed even if the door is open for 2 secs she is there . we have tried cage training her and it has made no difference. she has had a smack on her nose a few times and nose rubbed in wee but she does it again . i give her loads of attention when i get the chance but she is always up to something that she is never being good.

when we got her we wanted a toy dog (which she is ) which would be soppy and loving , tilly is boistrous and playful . you only have to move a foot and she will think your playing and eat it .

my friend has got some kittems that she needs to rehome and i have been bugging dp for ages . he said today that we can have 2 if " we get rid of the devil dog "

i just feel awful about it and wont forgive myself but i know its the right thing to do . the guilt is killing me and she hasnt gone yet . the kids have said that they dont care if she goes either . i think we all have had enough tbh.

pleawse tell me dp is right and that i need to be sensible about this ??

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WigWamBam · 10/08/2006 12:16

I don't think anyone thinks muma should keep the dog. It's making everyone miserable at the moment - the dog included - and it's for everyone's good that dog goes. Sorry if my post sounded argumentative; it wasn't meant to.

Where are you, muma3? Can we help you find a rehoming centre?

cupcakes · 10/08/2006 12:18

I really want to sympathise as my puppy drives me mad and I have frequently wanted to rehome him - but dh and the children love him.
However, I can see that his behaviour is improving with age and I know a lot of his 'problems' could be resolvable if we put more time into training him.
I feel he is our responsibilty - we chose to get him and give him a home and it is our responsibilty to train him. Your dog does sound completely untrained.
If you cannot afford or commit to training her (frequently and consitently at classes, not just from a book) then I think she and you will all be happier if she was rehomed.

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muma3 · 10/08/2006 12:19

its so hard but my kids come first and ob dp too . i love the dog to bits and im not just a lazy dog owner that cant bebothered its a matter of my family doesnt want her anymore . im sorry if some dont agree but i know its for the best and it doesnt happen to matter how upset i am it is the only option now and i need to get my head around it i think .

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cupcakes · 10/08/2006 12:20

Try contacting the Dogs Trust - they will probably be able to take her and rehome her.

cupcakes · 10/08/2006 12:21

Dogs Trust

Tortington · 10/08/2006 12:22

MUMA dont ever get a dog again if you et rid of this one - and make it clear to your family members.

i dont know how children couldnt love any dog personally.

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muma3 · 10/08/2006 12:28

dogs trust dont have kennels near me and i would prefer her to go to a home rather then kennels tbh
thanks though

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Scoobydooooo · 10/08/2006 12:30

muma3 - i have been through exactly what you are having to do now.

when ds was 2 yrs old dp had been wanting adog for a long long time, so i gave in & we ended up having a dog, i loved he, we adored him being with us, but he was so so boistorous, he was well house trained one thing we did manage, but he would just bolt around the house knock ds flying & he also became very over powering to ds he wanted to be the boss of the house & because ds always came first he did not like it, i became very stressed & very upset & then i fell pg with dd as soon as i found out i was pg i new we could not keep him, he was to over powering & waaay to hyperactive, he would probably kill a baby from his power,we decided that we could no longer have him because there was no way i would be able to leave dd as a baby on the floor or even in a bouncy chair, so we made the descision & i went to the RSPCA i really did not want him to go there because i hated the thought of him being locked in the kennel bit, but i spoke to them & they said that because of his breed & because he was a stunning dog he would be snapped up , i made it totally clear he had to be with someone who had a garden & time for him because this is what he needed.

I then toke him there & passed him over i cried & cried i was totally devastated & gutted, i will never forget him but i know it was for the best i know now he is with a loving family having the time of his life which makes me feel very happy.

It is hard but then it will get easier, i think in your situation it will be for the best

WigWamBam · 10/08/2006 12:32

Muma - what area of the country are you in? There are other rehoming centres.

A rehoming centre gives your dog the best chance of finding a new home - they have proper vetting procedures to ensure that the home is the right one for the dog, and that the new family are prepared to commit fully to her. Some of them will even start the training process so that she doesn't go to her new home until she's able to live with a family.

expatinscotland · 10/08/2006 12:32

'your household clearly isn't right for this dog so yes, you should rehome her.'

Yes, and please, please be FIRM about NOT getting another dog.

Dogs are a BIG commitment, hence, why some of us don't have them.

suejonez · 10/08/2006 12:32

how old are your kids - its not a good lesson for them to learn that you can ditch pets if you decide you don't like them. Better lesson for them to learn that things whcih take some effort can be more rewarding than those which come easily. Can't they come to dog training with you?

She's probably bored, a lot of smaller dogs were bred to be working dogs, rat catching etc and go a bit stir crazy without something specific to do. For example with spaniels its recommended that you hide some of their food inside things out in the garden and teach them to find it etc - it keeps them interested and wears them out at the same time.

Sorry, don;t know why I'm saying all that as it is obvious that you feel you have to give up the dog and agree that is best if you cannot train her, and better now whilst she is still more easily trainable than when she's older.

alexsmilitantmum · 10/08/2006 12:33

so how long do you think before there is another thread on here saying " these two cats are out of control, they are so naughty,they pee evrywhere, and dp wants to get rid of them"
sorry to be harsh but seems like you've got bored with one toy and are on to the next.

alicemama · 10/08/2006 12:33

It is true that he'll get snapped up.....a few years ago when my mom lost her sight she felt that she couldn't cope with our Boxer and we to him to b'ham dogs home. By the time we got home (15mins) she got that upset that we had to turn around to go and get him back but he'd been rehomed in 20 mins by someone who had already had all of the checks done.

expatinscotland · 10/08/2006 12:34

Also, PLEASE neuter or spay your dog. Any dog trainer will tell you many, many behavioural problems, particularly w/male dogs, can be aided by neutering, not to mention keepin the unwanted pet population in check.

Bozza · 10/08/2006 12:35

I do see sue's point about the lesson it sends your children. Especially if you then immediately get some cutesy little kittens. Perhaps you should pass on these kittens and get a cat at a later point.

Scoobydooooo · 10/08/2006 12:36

I must also add that wigwambam is right because we tried to rehome our dog ourselves there was a friend of a friend who really really wanted him so we went & checked out there house where they lived & what sort of life they had & people they were & were very happy, we then handed our dog to them & were pleased, 4 weeks later they phoned up & said they could not cope & could we have the dog back or they would find him a home, of course we had him back but thats when i said he had to go to the rspca he needed a good home & i was so fed up & upset that he was being thrown backwards & forwards,

Bozza · 10/08/2006 12:36

And same with the cats when they arrive expat...

bubblerock · 10/08/2006 12:38

Please contact Pug rescue here - DON'T give her away she will only end up being passed from pillar to post, if you contact pugwelfare then these people are experts and you have a better chance of her being found a home for life!

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muma3 · 10/08/2006 12:38

thats is so not true and why has this become about me i dont want to get rid of her and i LOVE her to bits . sorry but i needed to talk and get support not conflict and negative comments to me personally , its hard enough without the 'blamegame' too

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yeahinaminute · 10/08/2006 12:38

I have 3 dogs currently and the youngest is 18 months old all have been trained and cage trained when puppies, they are working dogs but more importantly part of our family dynamics.

When dd was born we had to re-home a cocker spaniel that I had rescued as a pup. She became very aggressive toward the babe and it became apparant that she would NOT tolerate her at all ( pet psychologist was brought in etc)and it broke my heart but it was necessary to do that - she is now having the time of her life with a retired, fit widow, they have made each others lives complete.

IMHO if you cannot get your DP to support you in training and involving the whole family in helping your dog integrate and become a member of the family then you must re-home her for her sake - there will be a family out there who will be able to give her the love and discipline she needs.

A pet is part of a family and it should not be left to one member to do everything.

So, please re-home her and don't feel too bad about it - The Dogs Trust or RSPCA will make sure she goes to a family that will be able to handle her.

Good Luck

Scoobydooooo · 10/08/2006 12:38

You must be mad to want cats though because they can be just as bad, we will never be having another animal again because i would never want to go through any of this ever again!

alicemama · 10/08/2006 12:40

nobody blames you...well I certainly don't.
At the end of the day you need to do what is best for you and your family. And for the dog in the long run.....it's not your fault, thats life unfortunately

expatinscotland · 10/08/2006 12:41

Too true, Bozza.

I was really shocked when I moved here and found out you can adopt a pet dog or cat from an animal shelter and take it home unneutered/spayed.

Not the case in the US - for most it's a rule that the animal is spayed/neutered before going home, the animal has wound up in a shelter as it is, and the price of the procedure is included in the adoption fee. Many also send them home microchipped. Another good idea.

I've never had a tiny kitten, but my ex SIL is a vet from one of the top schools in the world and it is known now that neutering at around 12-16 weeks does NOT stunt an animals growth at all.

Personally, I've only ever had grown cats, although my ex h has a cat we adopted when he was 14 months old. His previous owners labelled him a 'behaviour problem' b/c he looked like a fully-grown cat who was still exhibiting kittenish behaviour.

Well, yes, b/c he was still in that stage.

Neutering and a spray bottle of water helped sort out his issues w/i days of taking him home and he's still w/the ex 7 years on.

daisy1999 · 10/08/2006 12:46

if you HAVE to get rid of the dog then do it but don't get another animal immediately. I can't help thinking that the reason for getting rid is in order to get the kittens. Have some time without a pet to think about the time you have to commit to another pet.

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muma3 · 10/08/2006 12:47

its not to get the kittens

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