i need to get rid of dog she has gone too far and dp is adamant :(

[muma3]

where do i start?

we have a puginese called tilly . she is just turned one and i have posted on here a few times about her . she is so naughty. she is a theif and is destroying everything . i have all the patince in the world for her and time but she is so disobidient that dp has had enough. she ran off today and he was chasing her for 30mins . she crossed a dual carraige way and nearly got hit 2 times. she takes everything she can up the garden and eats it . we have holes anout a foot deep all over garden . she keeps weeing on ours and dd2 bed even if the door is open for 2 secs she is there . we have tried cage training her and it has made no difference. she has had a smack on her nose a few times and nose rubbed in wee but she does it again . i give her loads of attention when i get the chance but she is always up to something that she is never being good.

when we got her we wanted a toy dog (which she is ) which would be soppy and loving , tilly is boistrous and playful . you only have to move a foot and she will think your playing and eat it .

my friend has got some kittems that she needs to rehome and i have been bugging dp for ages . he said today that we can have 2 if " we get rid of the devil dog "

i just feel awful about it and wont forgive myself but i know its the right thing to do . the guilt is killing me and she hasnt gone yet . the kids have said that they dont care if she goes either . i think we all have had enough tbh.

pleawse tell me dp is right and that i need to be sensible about this ??

I'm sorry that you're getting upset by the replies muma3, its obvious that you are distressed by the situation but I think that people are concerned that you got into this situation by not appreciating how much training dogs need and are worried that you might make the same mistake again. Its a common mistake people make with small dogs, that they are lap dogs and will sit around the house not doing much when small dogs can be every bit as boisterous as bigger dogs and need every bit as much walking and training.

I agree with the others that an organisation rather than a home is the right way to go. It make seem kinder to place her in a home to you but in the long run it will be much better for her to be professionally assessed and placed.

we have other animals. we breed gecko lizards have a large newzeland white rabbit who the girls feed and water and i groom twice a day and as i have said we have a cat who is 4 and we love them all and dedicate to them 100%

think im not getting my point across at all am i ?

I don't think its about having other animals - none of the other animals you mention need a fraction of training that a dog does.

Is this close by?
Country Kennels (Dog Boarding & Rehoming)
01933 665315
Long Lodge Farm, Main Rd Grendon
Northampton Northamptonshire
NN7 1JW

You are muma3.
Its just that animals are one thing that people get really passionate about as you are with yours.
I understand why you feel that you have to rehome her and why it upsets you so much.
But just think of how happy he/she will be when she is in a home where he can get all the training, love and attention that he needs.
IMO you are being responsible by doing the hardest thing for you in rehoming you.
I hope you're ok

i was just saying that i do have other animals and they dont need trining but take alot of time and care . im being seen as someone who is bored of an animal because i cant be bothered to train it and i want kittens its soooo not like that at all . I want the dog and am willing to do anything but i have to appreiciate that my dp doesnt and is not willing to wait for her to be trained and the dc arent bothered as they dont like her behaviour either . please stop thinking its me wanting to "get rid " as its not at all but i have been left with no choice , i accept others opinions completely but it is getting a bit personal imo

thanks bubble i will phone now but they all have lengthy waiting lists too , the longer i have her the better imo but not others

believe me she gets love from me , no end i can assure you of that

sympathy about the dog. Just a word about the kittens - your older cat may not like the idea of boisterous new youngsters on her patch.

have phoned and have to phone back in 10mins when a lady will be there to talk about taking her in think they will as she is young and is microchipped and has her vaccs and we have spent alot on her teeth too

Poor Muma3 there are some really mean and uncalled-for remarks on this thread.

I'm sorry you are being forced by circumstances to get rid of your dog. Could you perhaps call the RSPCA and ask them to help you find a satisfactory rehoming centre? I don't really know how these things are done - but I don't think it's your fault it hasn't worked out. It happens, unfortunately.

Some of you who are judging Muma3 and her family should see the state dogs are left in - abandoned, diseased, malnourished - when they haven't got an owner responsible enough to accept that their pet hasn't fitted into their family and find a suitable rehoming solution.

well said

Have not read the whole thread but you have my symapthaties.

My dp ha a springer spaniel that I love to buts but really struggle with and mainly because do is so sift with him. I am allergic to him as well that doesn't help which I did not realise the severity of this allergy until we started living together. I have to spend at least two days a week sleeping at my mums as my allergy is so severe I do not get a proper nights sleep as dp allows the dog to go into our room both during the day and even at night. Some nights I end up sleeping on the sofa bevasue the dog has been in our bedroom and I can't sleep in there. I spend my life cleaning up dog hair, removing it from cushions etc which I have to dose myself up on antihystamines so I can do it, although I sm still left ill for the rest of the day.

Our back garden is a no go zone for dd because of dog poo and also because the dog has to stay in the back garden all day as I can't stay in the house for a prolonged length of time with the dog. But id dd goes in the back and leaves the gate or a door open the dog could escape so she has to plat at the front of the house. So even though we bought our house partly because I loved the garden for dd we can't use it.

I have looked into getting our dog rehomed through a springer charity last year mainly because it was getting to the point where I was having to spend mroe time at my mums than at home due to the dog and dp and I were on the verge of splittin up. I know the sensible thiing to do is to rehome the dog, but I also know that the probelms are not the dogs fault, they are caused by dp lazy self indulgence and perhaps an unwillingness to put my needs first. I also knwo that perhaps I should ahve spent mroe time with the dog before moving in with dp as I had allergies to animals as a child but ahving lived with cats for mnay years with no problems I assumed I had grown out of the allergy and had been told this was possible. I also do love the dog and hate the thought of him living somewhere and not being happy, despite our problems with the dog he does have a good life here, I walk him every day on the beach and we take him rambling every weekend. Dp also adores his dog althougb this love in my view is not always expressed in the right way. If I could go back in time with the knowledge I have now I would not have formed a relationship with dp because of the dog, and that is a big thing for me to say as dp and I love each other to bits, he is a fantastic father figure to my dp and with the exception of the dog is the perfect man . But it is easy to say that after the event and it is too easy to follow your heart rather than our head.

Howver in your case the dog is not making you ill and from my admittedly limited knowledh=ge of dogs they can and should be trained properly to behave. Before getting rid of him I would go to classes together to give him a chance.

Did you not know what puginese dogs were like before buying one? I thought they had a reputatio for being difficult and temperamental. From experience lots of "toy" dogs are difficult when I am walking my dog we have more problems with little dogs who seem to have soemthing to prove!

I personally would not get a cat, especially 2. Kittens are difficult and as cute as they are I don't think they mix that well with little children.

alicemama young springers are a nightmare, ours has calmed downa lot since turning three. As a puppy ours used to bury anything he could find in the garden and he even managed to chew a hole in a wall!

he's calming down a lot now...now he knows who the boss is

muma3 have read all the thread now which I probably should have done befreo replying . I dont think you are cruela nd don;t love animals, when I spoke about getting my dog rehomed last year to people they made out that I was a cruel animal hating bitch and I wasn't I love animals, I even love our dog but he doe smke my life unbearable and by default he threatens ( not through his own fault) the quality of life for my dd as I am permanently ill. Sometimes despite all your best intentions a pet does not work out and for the sake of your whole family the dog does have to go because a smuch as you love your pet your family have to come first.

I will be thinking of you because I know what a horrible dilemna it is.

alicemama I love the expressiveness of Springers, ours even has a sulking face! He is also the softest dog you could ever meet, our cat bought a mouse in once and we sent the dog to get it and he lay on the floor looking scared while the mouse ran over its nose.

What colour is yours? Our is black and white? Is he an English or Welsh Springer. Ours is English.

He's black and white as well...no idea whether he's welsh or english???
Dug a nice big hole in my veg patch last week, he went and hid in the greenhouse after tho as he knew he'd been naughty
very boistrous but sooo gorgeous and full of personality

Ours skulks about - walking about really slowly with his head and tail hung low looking nervously around him when he knows he has been naughty, his other trick which he does if dd has let him out by accident and I catch him trying to run away is he lies down flat with his legs spread as far as he can manage as if being flat will mean that I won't see him.

toby's fav trick is jumping in the water butt at the bottom of the garden and running straight in the front room to dry off
needless to say dh is putting a fence up at the week end

has the lady rang you back yet muma3???

It will be English. The welsh have a reddish brown colour and smaller ears. I also think Welsh springers are supposed to be have more energy which I think would be impossible as ours never runs out of energy unless we go on a really long ramble. I think English Springers are also slightly more sociable and people orientated as well.

Ours does that with water, when I bath him he goes wild when he gets out trying to dry himself on the floor. When I take him to the beach and throw sticks/ rocks in the water for him to fetch he will spend ages with his head under the water only coming out when he can't breathe any more.

no still waiting

going out for 10mins so might miss it too will phone back later

I wish people would be more responsible when getting a dog. It is not a thing, it has feelings. It also has a personality, some dogs are suited to some people/families and others are patently not.

I feel sad that so many dogs get rehomed due to poor research and lack of training by the owners.

CD, how is Roo?