We’ve a dd 21 and ds 18, dd has been paying board since she was about 17 as she left college to full time work. DS stayed in education and finished last summer, whilst at college he has had a job which is only contracted to work 8 hours but he picks up lots of extra shifts.
Both of them have a minimum take home wage of about 1200 but some months if he has worked loads it’s more like 14/1500. Dd is only contracted to work 20 hours and overtime isn’t frequent.
DD has been paying us £100/month board, child benefit for DS finished last month now that he has finished his education. We broached the subject with him that it’s only fair if he starts paying the same amount as his sister and he has gone into a right mood. He says he doesn’t understand why his parents are charging kids to live at home, he has extortionate car insurance to pay for etc.
I told him I paid his nan £30/week 30 years ago and I’m asking for less than that!!
At 53 I work more hours than both my kids as do a lot of overtime a lot of which is night shifts, I can’t seem to get him to understand that whilst on paper I earn a lot more than him but he has far more disposable income than me!