My DD20 a long term boyfriend who is away at university. He is a lovely lad and comes from a bit of a shit background and he’s found out he has nowhere to live back home anymore.
I have always welcomed him into our home but my older DD22 is not happy about him staying with us. It would only be occasionally as he lives up at uni, he has a job and living accommodation there but obviously he has my DD20 and all his friends here during holidays or weekend breaks. My DD20 is upset for him and feels bad (it’s not his fault he has nowhere to stay here anymore) and has asked if he can come stay with us sometimes. He wouldn’t be moving all his stuff in.
I would do the same for DD22 if she needed help with something like this but she doesn’t want to share the house with a teenage lad. He is respectful, helpful and doesn’t cause any problems. I think DD22 just feels generally uncomfortable as we only have 1 main bathroom but DD20 and her BF just stay in their room most of the time or go out, so they aren’t invading the house.
Both my DD’s pay a small rent as they both work but they can’t afford to move out yet. DD20 will probably go off with boyfriend when he leaves uni as they plan to travel/work so she’s only going to be home another couple of years.
I just want everyone to be happy and can’t turn my back on a young lad who doesn’t have supportive parents it doesn’t feel right? WWYD?