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Thread 46 - GCSE Covid Cohort , Searching for Summer Solstice

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OrangeCinnamonLatte · 24/04/2023 22:12

This is a support thread for our young adults post GCSEs 2020, regardless of their educational setting, and their results ( or life updates for those who went into work or have had results earlier). It is respectfully requested that all are supportive and helpful to each other. If you want to start a debate, e.g state vs private, uni vs employment please don't within this thread.

Some of us have been here since first thread back in yr10, some will be new. Everyone has been friendly and helpful in the past. Everyone is welcome. It is hoped this will continue. We were previously on the secondary board and then further education, now we shall be here in 'Parents of Adult Children' gulp

Our DS/DD may continue down various pathways ( employment, apprenticeships, higher ed). Be warned there might be lots of 'Uni Freshers' chat this time of year. My experience is that everyone is welcomed wherever, whatever their child is doing we have some in work, gap years , apprenticeships etc too. Lots of contributors with different experiences and always sympathy and advice to be had.

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mummyinbeds · 26/05/2023 12:55

@crazycrofter I wonder if my DS and your DD ever bump into each other with their nocturnal Rutland study habits. If memory serves me correctly, they're both in A block?? I hope her exam is going well.

cariadambyth · 26/05/2023 13:03

Congratulations to ds1 @Monkey2001 .

crazycrofter · 26/05/2023 13:03

That’s right @mummyinbeds i think your ds is the floor above my dd! No idea if they’ve even met 🤣

Shimy · 26/05/2023 16:07

@mummyinbeds Well done him! and a lovely day to finish everything for the year. Hope he has a nice snooze.

mummyinbeds · 26/05/2023 16:37

Thanks @shimy I fear it may be dark by the time he wakes up. Just need to see if he has to resit anything now although he would actually like to repeat the year and actually engage with it.

Heifer · 26/05/2023 19:04

Fantastic news @monkey, well done to your DS.
DD has decided to go back to uni on Sunday for 2 weeks whilst she sits her exams. Hers seem to be quite short at 1.5 or 2 hrs. (4 in total). She had lots of 24 hr tests during the year, well they were open for 24 hrs but still had a time limit of 2 hr etc to complete them, so not the same thing really.
I think its a good idea to go
Back as far too many distractions here, all her friends and bf have finished so she has been treating the time at home like a holiday for the past 3 weeks with some study every few days but not lots. First exam on Tuesday then 3 the following week, then home for the summer.
I've had the joy of dealing with student finance today. We sent proof of of final years income for 22/23 (current year income assessment)!and DD received a letter saying she had been overpaid etc, which can't be right as we actually earnt less than we estimated. DD now has to request a reassessment to
Make sure our figures were inputted correctly etc as I can only check with them the figure I entered on my form as same for DH and not what was actually entered into their system - only DD can do that apparently. I will have to log into her account and sort as no way could she cope with dealing with that.

She seems positive for next year despite not enjoying this year which is something.

@Piggywaspushed it's good that your ds1 has received a diagnosis maybe he will tell you about it sometime over the summer? I think my DD will tell me less and less as she gets older. I can already see a change in that she is confiding in her bf and asking his advice and telling me about it later.

@crazycrofter how is your DD finding the exams?

@OrangeCinnamonLatte good luck with Winchester and Sussex, it's great that your DD is completing the year. Fingers crossed for her.

Re on the Wirral - I couldn't find a decent explanation in google but have to admit to having brain fog as still for labyrinthitis symptoms as 2 days after going back to work I picked up a cold and chesty cough so dizzy all over again.
Just can't seem to get well at the moment but compared to what a lot of people are going through it's all
Pretty minor.

What plans for half term?

ExtremelyDetermined · 26/05/2023 20:34

Is it because it is short for "on The Wirral Peninsula"?

Congrats to DS1 @Monkey2001

Hope Winch and Sussex make a decision for DD soon @OrangeCinnamonLatte

Half term is going to be stressful here I think. DD (y12) has mocks straight after and we have got builders in. Last time we had building work it was over summer and she didn't like having them in while she was off school so we went for term time this time, also we deliberately chose the year without real exams in it, we didn't have exact dates for her mocks and unfortunately it clashes. Most of the noisy stuff is done but just having people in the house is distracting. Plus she is change averse and doesn't actually want us to improve the house. DS comes home for summer tomorrow too, just to complete her state of woe. Going to be a long week.

mummyinbeds · 26/05/2023 21:26

Half term plans here will be A level revision. Last ever half term 😭

crazycrofter · 26/05/2023 22:47

Good luck with all the exams! Ds just had his year 12 ones… barely any revision was done. He assures me he’ll start working next year but at the moment his time is too full with socialising, playing the piano, going to the gym and running .. and he’s just decided to re-start ju-jitsu, as he still really wants to be a UFC fighter 😩 Apparently there’s a place where you can do up to 78 hours a month 🤔

Shimy · 27/05/2023 10:09

@crazycrofter You are so blessed, how I wish ds1 would be active like that. Ds1's idea of active is going for a walk down our street. It's been a long running worry in our house.

PhotoDad · 27/05/2023 10:14

Out at some leaving drinks last night, some again this evening! DW and DS are away windsurfing, he has 8/24 GCSE papers left. I am spending the day snoozing and doing the washing. DD is crafting something (I think a set and puppets for some stop-motion stuff, just for amusement).

Next week we'll drive down to uni and pick up all her stuff (she came back earlier than planned, by train) and then she starts her internship (wfh). I have a lot of marking to catch up on, but otherwise low-energy for a few days!

ExtremelyDetermined · 27/05/2023 13:22

I'm sitting in the car while DS brings all his bags down. I dropped the bags off earlier and went off for a potter round town while he packed them, fortunately you can park right under his window at weekends and there is no one else about, it's very peaceful.

Thread 46 - GCSE Covid Cohort , Searching for Summer Solstice
ProggyMat · 27/05/2023 14:22

Congratulations to your DS1 @Monkey2001!

Well done to all of ‘our Corona Cohort’ that have completed Yr1 and positive vibes to all completing end of year exams 🍀

DD has survived 5th week- only 3 weeks more to until she’s home- and is off to watch Summer Eights in a fab summer frock as the weather is glorious!

DontCallMeBaby · 27/05/2023 14:26

We are driving a carful of empty boxes and suitcases up north to move DD out of her flat. I do not recommend the M6 today, it’s not a fun place to be.

Not that it exactly counts, but it seems she has a First for her first year. I’ll take the small brag given she got CCD in her A levels. If it’s a return to form it’s a form. It seem since primary school …

Shimy · 27/05/2023 14:38

@DontCallMeBaby Well done her Smile.

PhotoDad · 27/05/2023 14:39

Congrats to @DontCallMeBaby DD!

Monkey2001 · 27/05/2023 15:11

Great news on the return to form@DontCallMeBaby. Is she in Preston? That is where DS1's hospital is next year. Has she enjoyed the city?

DontCallMeBaby · 27/05/2023 15:23

@Monkey2001 she is, and she has! She’s even checked out the hospital 🧐

Delphigirl · 27/05/2023 17:01

Ds2 very pleased with himself as has found a job paying £15phr, time and a half on bank hols and Sundays, 10amto 8pm so no early starts and no late nights. It’s as a barista/wine waiter in a very upmarket brand new restaurant/cafe/bar/hotel complex in a stately home, catering mostly to Americans so there should be big tips too. And if he stays 3 months he gets a £250 bonus. Should enable him to save a lot before he starts uni in sept…

dd2 also got a Sunday job in a local farm shop so all 4 of my kids are in paid employment hurrah!

PhotoDad · 27/05/2023 17:06

That's a great job, @Delphigirl!

We're a little puzzled. We keep reading about the shortage of workers, the desperate need for people in hospitality etc. DD applied for quite a few short-term minimum-wage jobs about three weeks back, when she came home, and hasn't had replies from any of them even to say "no" (apart from the one she landed, the internship). Given it's all online/webforms, how hard would an automated "sorry" be?

ExtremelyDetermined · 27/05/2023 17:08

Lots of good news 😀. My DD has just gone off to start her first proper job too (she had a paper round previously), serving at tables in a local pub as she's under 18.

crazycrofter · 27/05/2023 17:24

Good to hear about all the jobs! It’s puzzling @PhotoDad but it seems to me that lots of the jobs advertised online are actually filled by people turning up in person with their CV. At least, that’s worked a couple of times with my two after hearing nothing online.

Great result @DontCallMeBaby !

@Shimy you’re right, it’s a good thing really, but I would like to see a little more academic work going on! But I’m sure I’d worry too if mine weren’t active (although I wasn’t at their age!)

Piggywaspushed · 27/05/2023 17:27

It's all very area dependent. Really hard to get summer jobs round here if you don't drive and nigh on impossible to get student type jobs in Lincoln. Huge competition.

crazycrofter · 27/05/2023 17:30

Yes, it must depend on where you live. I really thought this small town we’ve moved to (around 10k people) would be harder than Bham, but it seems not. There’s a small industrial estate on the edge of town where both my kids work and there’s a Tesco and Co-op and various pubs.

PhotoDad · 27/05/2023 17:35

Yes, I can imagine it depends on the area (and DD would have to rely on public transport). Which makes it even better that she found something where she can work from home! We won't push her too hard to look for other work after that, especially it was originally to fund travel plans which have since fallen through.