Thread 40 - Corona Cohort , Falling into Autumn 🍂

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This is a support thread for our young adults post GCSEs 2020, regardless of their educational setting, and their results ( or life updates for those who went into work or have had results earlier). It is respectfully requested that all are supportive and helpful to each other. If you want to start a debate, e.g state vs private, uni vs employment please don't within this thread.

Some of us have been here since first thread back in yr10, some will be new. Everyone has been friendly and helpful in the past. Everyone is welcome. It is hoped this will continue. We were previously on the secondary board and then further education, now we shall be here in 'Parents of Adult Children' gulp

Our DS/DD may continue down various pathways ( employment, apprenticeships, higher ed). Be warned there might be lots of 'Uni Freshers' chat this time of year. My experience is that everyone is welcomed wherever, whatever their child is doing we have some in work, gap years , apprenticeships etc too. Lots of contributors with different experiences and always sympathy and support to be had !

Thanks @Monkey2001 i wouldn’t contact them, DD would have to . She phoned and emailed on results day. We still haven’t had their £200 accommodation deposit back!

Did you put in for any remarks @Benjispruce4 ?

Dd had her history back today and she’s gone up to an A! She’s very happy to end up with A*, A A exactly as predicted!

@Benjispruce4 I'd try Cardiff as well.

Good for her Crazy!

@Benjispruce4 gosh it doesn't sound very nice for your dd. I hope she can make a decision soon. But probably no point staying if she's really unhappy.

@Alsoplayspiccolo it is strange going in their empty room...ds2 never has touched his curtains. They usually stay open. Occasionally in winter I go in and close them, then they stay closed. Is it only my dc that is like that?

@icanbewhatiwant ds is like that. At the moment he just keeps them closed all the time but about a year ago his curtain rail broke and he said he didn’t need curtains, so he went for about 6 months without them!

Oh, @Benjispruce4, that's rough for your DD. No words of wisdom, I'm afraid, but much sympathy.

That’s great @crazycrofter DD1 got AAB in2019 which is what she needed for Durham but she wasn’t happy and neither were teachers. She went up to A, A, A. Same thing happened with GCSEs and she went from an8 to a 9 in maths(was 2 marks off and teacher put in) they found 8 marks!
Dd2 was in top half of. B but not close enough really.

Up to A A A

A star A star A. It won’t type a star.

I am enjoying my house staying tidy. DD2 always has her blind down and light on and she has a big room over looking the garden so such a waste. So it’s nice to have extra daylight.

She is going out to a fresher event tonight with a group she went out with on Sunday night. Girl is a school friend of her bf. Really nice of her to keep asking her along. Keep hoping against hope.
It’s hard enough even if you’re at your dream Uni and making friends.

DS has discovered that we-somewhat accidentally due to bonkers booking system- booked him into a quiet flat.

This is fine, really, as he is not a party animal and likes sleep and works hard and can trash other people's flats. However, the only girl who knowingly booked a quiet flat says she has sensory issues and hates loud noise. He plays euphonium...

I have told him he needs to agree with her times to practise and find out when her lectures are.

It really makes you wonder if freshers week is a good idea. Maybe if they arrived Saturday, start lectures etc Monday then at the end of the week a freshers long weekend when they can actually put names to a few on their course.

@Benjispruce4 What a rubbish start your DD is having. Full credit to her for still trying.

I tend to agree sprouts

I agree. NTU freshers is 10 loooong days!
@Piggywaspushed how unfortunate! Mustn’t laugh .

I know, and apparently someone else plays a tuba !

Oh crikey, a full band!

Somewhere on WIWIKAU there'll be a mum going 'my DD signed up for a quiet room...'

UEA did freshers and lectures etc all in the first week. I dropped Ds on the Saturday. I think the first party was the Sunday night, with the welcome talk at 9am Monday. Tuesday the lectures/labs started. So Ds met those on his course quite quickly. But no parties first week might have been a better idea as he was exhausted. Biology was very full on with contact time every day.

After several messages from me, Ds did reply to my question of have you sorted the tuition fees out. All I got was a yes. I also asked if he can now view his timetable and other stuff, he liked my comment, so I take that as a yes. I'd like to know more about how he's getting on, how many contact hours in his time table etc. but I guess I'm not going to find out.

Sorry to hear this all Benji. I in my nature am an absolute sticker, and would always implore people to stick it out and see if it gets better, but even I wouldn't advise that for your dd.

The flatmates are bad enough. The gum swapping and talking through a lecture at course introduction pissed me off reading about it!

The drugs thing wouldn't bother ds1. I admitted to him trying literally a couple of minor things at Uni. He was unimpressed, He is totally anti and uninterested. Some of his fellow workers at his job that he's held for the last year occasionally talk of Coke, and last week he went out at a bar then to a house party with them and some had some, so he just left.

I'm assuming our lot will meet all sorts of people: heavy drinkers, and drugs, at Uni, but will find their tribe soon enough I hope.

I have already spotted her mum...

Yes she wasn’t that shocked and is not into that and doesn’t smoke. The quiet, possible drug dealer is more worrying.
DD has nothing else this week now that course intro is done. Next week it appears to be 6-8 hrs contact. That’s not much is it?

Oh @Benjispruce4 nightmare ! 😢 keep strong as you both can.

@Piggywaspushed Go anon!