Thread 40 - Corona Cohort , Falling into Autumn 🍂

[CinnamonOrangeCremeBrulee]

This is a support thread for our young adults post GCSEs 2020, regardless of their educational setting, and their results ( or life updates for those who went into work or have had results earlier). It is respectfully requested that all are supportive and helpful to each other. If you want to start a debate, e.g state vs private, uni vs employment please don't within this thread.

Some of us have been here since first thread back in yr10, some will be new. Everyone has been friendly and helpful in the past. Everyone is welcome. It is hoped this will continue. We were previously on the secondary board and then further education, now we shall be here in 'Parents of Adult Children' gulp

Our DS/DD may continue down various pathways ( employment, apprenticeships, higher ed). Be warned there might be lots of 'Uni Freshers' chat this time of year. My experience is that everyone is welcomed wherever, whatever their child is doing we have some in work, gap years , apprenticeships etc too. Lots of contributors with different experiences and always sympathy and support to be had !

SallC welcome. I was on your thread. Makes me so sad to think of the damage that this will do to his confidence and such a shame to ruin his start of uni life.

Piggy's ds1 is a legend. And others have had exploits.
My ds1, who rarely drinks - on these very threads, when we all first met here years ago when our dc doing GCSE's - went out celebrating after GCSE's, got so pissed lost his newish iPhone and also left his £250 (2nd hand from a car boot sale) carerra bike on the middle of the path, and crawled/stumbled 6 miles home from near Esher racecourse.

Heifer cheers for the heads up on the insurance. Ds1 has only just found it, directed by your post.

I've enjoyed today. Not a royalist at all but respectful of Queens duty and service. Thought today was beautifully done, magnificent. Ds1 enjoyed it too. Dh has to pop to work later (water emergency) and will drive past the Golden Mile.

@PhotoDad for future reference it is ok to watch live on a device which is not plugged into mains if you have licence at home.

@Monkey2001 That is utterly bonkers! Thanks.

DS2 has tracked down someone who DH taught!

He wanted to find someone else on Mealplan ( I have no idea how he achieved this? Did he hand out fliers? Hang around looking hungry??)

He couldn't be less like DS1. He has been to the library...

I'm watching the funeral. Only here for the bagpipes.

All DD’s flat watched the funeral - she has now headed out to the beach at Tynemouth with the Hockey girls.

DH and I walked up to watch the cortège pass at Hammersmith. Absolutely chocker.

Watched the funeral this morning but now need to move on. With all of DD’s angst and trials I need an uplifting mood . Please tell me the radio and TV will resume normal service tomorrow. I can feel myself spiralling into a low. I keep repeating DH’s mantra: She’ll either like it or come home, we will be here either way. I wish I could’ve so simplistic. My mind is exhausting me!
@SallCymru I feel for you and your DS and commented on your thread . Stay with us, we’ll get you through. 💐

Lots of traffic on here. Our darling girl was so exhausted by getting there, that she texted us after we left to ask if it was ok not to go out with some others because she was tired. She had an early night then got woken with a start by the Fire alarm. Then she told us at lunchtime today she was still in her room hungry and desperate for the loo, because she wasn’t sure which was her bathroom, sent message JUST USE ANY BATHROOM. Cystitis would not help. It is comforting that others are equally deranged.
@CinnamonOrangeCremeBrulee so sorry, that is really tough. You know your girl best. Calling our ones bluff wouldn’t work, she would dig her heels in, but it would have with the others. If we had said, you are right, it’s your life. Withdraw, get a job and we want £400.00 per month board, they probably would have at least given it a go.
It’s a bugger, because Cardiff is so brilliant for music, my friends son, also a singer , went and had outstanding opportunities, soloing in the Cathedral and wedding singing and jazz ensembles, made loads of money, enhanced his CV, fell in love with Wales, and with a wonderful girl, and probably ruined himself for the real world for ever! These opportunities truly are wasted on the young!
welcome to @SallCymru . Sorry haven’t read your thread, but whatever happened to your boy was just rubbish, hope he’s ok.

@Oblomov22 I used to drive past Esher race course daily when I lived in Kingston and worked in Hersham. I expect everywhere down there has changed a lot as I moved to Suffolk in the mid 1990's.

You all speak of insurance. I missed that post

Now I've pressed the word post too 🙈

@icanbewhatiwant Turns out that some unis who use Endsleigh for student insurance require the student to activate the account, but this was hidden in briefing info.

@Fiddlersgreen did you manage to resolve the endsleigh verification issue? My DD has just tried to do hers and got the same problem - error page when she clicks on the verification link? Note I only checked the insurance issue thanks to you all - York doesn't specifically say you need to register but if you follow the link for more details it takes you to a page to register with endsleigh...

@PhotoDad thanks. I have no idea what insurance they use at Sussex. Will have to investigate. But as Ds can't even finish enrolling on his course I don't suppose he knows much else.

@SallCymru Sorry your DS has had such a rough start. Hopefully as he makes proper friendships they will all look out for each other.

I've watched the funeral most of the day. Not sure I'm up for a second round of the Archbishop of Canterbury. The pall bearers have been amazing. I read they go back to Iraq. More mums worrying.

www.ucas.com/finance/managing-money/how-save-money-uni/check-if-youre-covered-your-parents-home-insurance
Our political covers DD.

Policy

Well it's my turn to feel absolutely sh*te today and DD hasn't even left yet. Had a massive row earlier and she called me controlling and that I hadn't let her do anything for herself and now she can't do anything as I have all the info. I have been trying to hand it all over to her for ages. It really stung tbh as I really did feel I was doing her a favour by doing it all for her and had asked if she wanted me to at every point but now suddenly she is remembering things differently and I've interfered and taken over. I feel so hurt and also sad that it might be true. I don't want to be controlling but I generally did think it was what she wanted. She has taken so long to do the things I did leave for her. Now left in limbo as I do need to go through everything to show her where she (me) is up to..

I went into her room a while ago and apologised and said I hadn't meant to take over, had thought it was what she wanted and had asked at the time and she said it was easier to say yes you do it to stop me talking about :-( said it didn't matter and she was absolutely fine. She doesn't get at all that it really hurt me and she just moves on. I don't want her to think of me in that way at all though.

Really sorry to hear about your DS @SallCymru Hope he (and you) are ok.

Glad to read all your DD/DS getting on ok (even if it's taken a day or 2).

@Heifer DD told me earlier in the phone that I had chosen the worst accommodation. As it wa late and through clearly I have agree to pay over the odds so she can be central in private accommodation as the h I offered out of town. You can’t win!

Oh sorry for typos.

I hate predictive text! I have paid over the odds for centrally located private accommodation as the uni offered out of town halls. But as it hasn’t worked out as she hoped, it is my fault.

Thank you 😊

Yes it’s true that’s the most important thing. Thank you.

@icanbewhatiwant Thank you.

@Benjispruce4 Thank you so much.