Graduates returning to the nest, a new start for all!

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Carrying on from the 2019/20 Uni students thread let’s talk about what it’s like to have our fresh graduates home, for some of us invading our nice empty nest, for all of us creating a new household dynamic…….

*qualified not quality

I agree @Benjispruce4 - DD’s job did not require a degree although most colleagues are graduates, but it’s in an area she wants to be in so - as you say- a foot in the door is valuable.

I wrote a long post there and it didn't post...very frustrating . So sorry if i don't reply much, i am finding this thread invaluable though.

@Benjispruce4 that must be frustrating for your DD but yes, you are right. She has a foot in the door that is the main thing. And if she's really good, she's sure to get promoted swiftly, I would have thought?

I think the logistics of rentals have clearly changed a lot over the years. Sure when I flat-shared, the landlord was just happy as long as the rent was paid on time. Sure we found our own new flatmates when someone wanted to move out.

I'm most impressed at your DH @Notagardener . DH is not entirely happy at continuing to be DS's guarantor (if they ever find a flat).

I really do NOT want to be guarantor again! When does childhood end?

Its an insult to the young people too. I'm sure they don't like asking us to do that for them either.

@FayeGovan and @Benjispruce4 quite agree.

DS pretty much emptied his savings (some inheritance money from his great grandpa) and paid 3 months rent upfront for him and his girlfriend's flat, as he didn't want to need us to be a guarantor yet again He's just started work now, but she's going to be an NQT so not earning over the summer. Not quite sure what they're living on at the moment! But it will all get paid back into the savings and they should feel pretty flush really once they are both earning normally.

And yes to still being the sponge, although fortunately for me, it's generally only one out of the four. Dd2 has just been in France on an exciting work trip - dh and dd3 were getting all the updates and gossip, I got nothing except "I think I've got covid" at the crack of dawn one morning! (She didn't.)

Yes, us mums are the backbone of it all....

Is anyones house messier and mind blown ?! Great to have both home but it is hectic ..!

Yes!!! And energy bill was a bit of a shock yesterday as up £65 and that's just from showers as he barely cooks more than eggs!

Oh yes. I’m trying to be zen about it. The mess and additional noise (chatting on phone, music, telly)…..

I know what you mean . Our food bill has tripled and we are on a tight budget.things keep running out all.the time.
I crave to watch tv alone in an empty house.😀

Food not increased too much. DD isn’t a huge eater as she’s mainly veggie but my espresso coffee goes down quickly as does the hummus 🙄
Today was her first wfh day and I was home for a large part of the day and DD2 for part of it. DD2 was a bit miffed at having to keep quiet during a few Teams meetings but luckily she will be out working a lot this week.
Her workspace is on the landing as we don’t have a study so a bit tricky at times.

@CrikeymaccrikeyI must admit it’s nice when both DDs’ work aligns. 😁
Also with food bills, we were paying DD £100 pm at uni for food so no longer having to do that .

Omg the food bill! I've started shopping twice a week as if I do it all in one go it's gone in 3 days 😱

Messier, definitely. We have all of dd's uni stuff around too!
Food bill, she's probably the smallest eater in the family, so haven't noticed too much a difference.

i am covering my ears - DH and I are away on holiday so spared from the food/energy/work issues - I dread to think what’s going on at home!

I’m jealous @bigTillyMint ! Just been harangued by DD asking what we have planned for the weekend as she is free. But, DD2 is working so we weren’t planning a family day outs Honestly, we so want some time alone!!

We are making the most of having a holiday on our own and the DC are making the most of having the house to themselves 😃

Actually DH has a few days off at the end of this week so we might get away for at least a night if there’s anything available!

Have to confess, I love having mine back home post-university. Don't normally admit that here as MN seems to favour the 'they're adults, kick them out' approach, but I feel like the audience might be a bit more sympathetic on this thread 😂

ahh I have just read the whole thread. Interesting about London as Dd1 toying about living here. Out of interest, how much do you think you need to earn to live in London (in a shared flat)? Some graduate jobs seem to start at £25k but I can’t see that’s do-able here.

I am in the centre of London atm with my younger Dd. We could usually go for days without seeing anyone except the postman where we live so this is a culture shock! I could count on two hands the number of nights I have spent in London previously. We are in an airBnB £150 a night. The idea was it has a kitchette so we didn’t have the expense of eating out. Then Dd2 tested out the deliveroo app (she had it downloaded but no one delivers at home) and found to squeals of delight, there were hundreds and hundreds of choices. This is going to be expensive!

@ZandathePanda, I know one young person on over £30K who is living in a houseshare, but £25K may be enough.

DH can never grasp when Uber Eats/Deliveroo don’t deliver when we go on holiday in U.K, despite never ordering at home!

DD is currently sunbathing……. err …. Wfh apparently! DD2 has taken my car to work . Tomorrow they are both working out of the house! Can’t wait!! Sorry @thing47 .