Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Parents of adult children

Wondering how to stop worrying about your grown child? Speak to others in our Parents of Adult Children forum.

22ds and 23ds driving me crazy

26 replies

mozza99 · 13/08/2017 18:06

DFB has been living back at home for a year since he failed an MA and was re-sitting whilst living at home but has failed again. DFB has a 12 hour minimum wage job but has not had any job interviews and not sure how much effort he is putting in looking for work. ds2 home from uni with no work. Wasn't so bad with one at home but they spend all day playing computer games just coming down to make "snacks" and depositing copious amounts of dishes. They do load dishwasher but generally don't speak to me much except to ask me to bring home crisps, biscuits or telling me off for forgetting to bring home bread. I work 60hrs plus and dp more. It feels like I am just a meal ticket to them. Before they left for uni I had 2 wonderful ds's and I missed them so much but now I feel more lonely in my own home and can't face making yet another meal that all three males in the house will eat or seeing my hard work returned un-eaten. Have been crying today and keeping to myself since dfb walked off not wanting to speak to me this morning. Don't know what to say as it's nearly dinner time and no Sunday roast on the go.

OP posts:
mozza99 · 29/10/2017 11:15

Since ds2 has gone back to uni everything has calmed down, ds1 does clean the kitchen and empty/refill the dishwasher, his contract has been increased in hours until Christmas and because most of his shifts are evenings mostly cooks for himself. I hadn't realised the weekend I started this thread was the first weekend of the football season and they were glued to the tv making their behaviour feel rather more annoying. It doesn't help that all my friends have daughters who are buying their first homes, qualifying as doctors etc. The main problem I have is stopping myself from taking control, treating them both as children and filling out job applications, working out budgets, savings plans etc. Maybe the modern way of pushing them out of the nest would be to engineer a fault with the wifi that can't be fixed for a month?

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page