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Am i over reacting?

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Littleblue · 15/05/2010 09:58

My little girl was held down while a leaf was forced into her mouth and she was made to swallow it by 3 other girls..all 6 years old.
Shes weepy,and complaining of tummy aches and nausea..obviously very upset by this..
I intend raising hell about this monday morning..i want the other girls parents told etc..

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FiveGoMadInDorset · 15/05/2010 10:00

Your poor DD.

waitingforbedtime · 15/05/2010 10:00

Where was she when this happened?

waitingforbedtime · 15/05/2010 10:01

Where was she when this happened?

If school then yes Id be pretty angry and raise it with the school. Hope she's ok.

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Littleblue · 15/05/2010 10:07

It was in school on the field,she's had some problems integrating at breaktimes cos she finds it a bit over whelming,shes quiet and shy..then this happens,shes pale and teary..im really upset for her.

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Mumof2x · 15/05/2010 10:27

Yep your right, I would go into school and demand something be done about it! Thats so cruel I really hope your DD is ok xxx

cory · 15/05/2010 10:28

First of all- yes, you must go into the school and ask them to sort it out. That sounds very upsetting for your poor dd.

But you must also accept that the school will have to deal with it in their own way: that is their job and they are the professionals. You can complain and make a big stink if they do not deal with it efficiently, but you should not try to dicate to them how they do it.

I had to go in when ds was being knocked down in the school playground; their way of dealing with it might not have been exactly what I would have chosen, but the point was, it worked- the other boy learnt he mustn't behave like that, and they are now very good friends. My way, with hindsight, might not have worked that way, because I didn't have the teacher's experience of the whole group.

It was obviously right that I went in, but also right that I then let the teacher deal with it. And if she hadn't, then it would have been right to go to the head.

HousewifeOfOrangeCounty · 15/05/2010 10:31

I was all ready to tell you that you were being all pfb, but you are most certainly not. I would be livid and definately go to the head teacher.

Poor dd, I hope she cheers up and you have a nice weekend.

compo · 15/05/2010 10:31

kids are so cruel

yes tell the teacher and get the other parents informed to
shame it was on a Friday really as should have been dealt with immediately
does she know to tell someone? Even if it's an older child who could get someone?

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Littleblue · 15/05/2010 11:00

The teacher was told..checked what sort of leaf it was..etc,but nothing seems to have been done about it,i expect to be told if theres an incident of a nature like this..they tell you if theres an injury,well to me there was here,shes never going to forget i don't think..pale as milk the girl that forced the leaf in her mouth was also scratching her arms with a stick.

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Littleblue · 15/05/2010 11:01

She came out of school in floods of tears,but her Dad picked her up and she didnt tell him what was wrong properly til they got home.

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Littleblue · 15/05/2010 11:03

Cory I have had troubles with the school dealing with bullying before..zero tolerance translates as "in a minute" its a busy and well stocked school..but still.

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mankymummymoo · 15/05/2010 11:05

No you are not over-reacting.

What horrible little children. Honestly, it makes my blood boil.

Is this an isolated incident or has she been bullied before?

JaxTellersOldLady · 15/05/2010 11:06

littleblue, go and see the teacher but if i were you I would also put it in writing to the head, that way they HAVE to reply to you and there is a record of it on file.

hth

belledechocolatefluffybunny · 15/05/2010 11:06

There's no excuse for this. Ask to have a look at their bullying policy and take this to the governors.
I wouldn't leave my child in a school like this to be honest, a child's safety and well being is far more important then anything else.

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Littleblue · 15/05/2010 11:08

She has,but it wasnt MEAN like this..just a lad with mild SN (imo) who pushed her about and chased her...it was dealt with eventually,but this is horrible,my daughters a gentle natured little soul who hasnt many friends cos she keeps her own counsel alot..

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Littleblue · 15/05/2010 11:20

I might keep her off monday...

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Al1son · 15/05/2010 13:55

This is a very serious incident and I think the head should be informed. What if it had been an object which blocked her airway or something poisonous and she'd not told anyone?

This is serious bullying and needs dealing with in no uncertain terms for the sake of your daughter, other children in the school and the children who did it.

Maybe the teacher was aware that your DD had swallowed a leaf but not aware of the full circumstances.

Your DD needs to know that she is safe in school and she is certainly not going to be or feel safe until this has been dealt with properly. These girls parents should be informed. If the head doesn't take it seriously tell him/her that next time it happens you will involve the police.

This needs knocking on the head straight away and these children need to know that they can never do something like this ever again.

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Littleblue · 15/05/2010 14:07

Thank you..that was my reaction..

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Littleblue · 15/05/2010 16:46

What makes it even worse is that her best friend moved away last term,and she struggles to adjust to playing with other children,who have formed other close friendships and she's found it very hard to mix..I agree on the police threat,we are viewing this incident as assault,despite the ages of the children involved.

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thisisyesterday · 15/05/2010 16:51

how do you know the other children were not disciplined and their parents weren't told?

hocuspontas · 15/05/2010 16:53

Well I think I would get the facts first in that case. It could be a game that got out of hand. Your dd may have been playing along until that moment, or the other girls may have thought she was. I agree that you need to get to the bottom of it and understand you are upset, but it is also important to get the context right before making threats about police etc.
I hope you get it sorted and that dd feels better soon.

AndieWalsh · 15/05/2010 16:59

Your poor DD

I don't think the children are 'horrible', though. They are children. And children (especially in groups) can sometimes do cruel things to each other.

But I do think it is understandable that you are very upset about this, and you are absolutely within your rights to be furious. The parents of the girls involved need to be made aware of what has happened, and the girls need to be spoken to and disciplined.

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Littleblue · 15/05/2010 17:00

I wasn't told,so I'm only assuming they haven't been either..as for discipline etc..of course I will,its my intention to ask whats been done..if nothing has been,i will take it from there,but as for police etc,i will not tolerate my daughter being physically assaulted,end of.

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Littleblue · 15/05/2010 17:03

These girls held her down,she would have been really upset..and they laughed at her..to me thats pretty bloody horrible. Like Lord of the Flies!

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