Oh for heavens sake, please remind me that two Inferiorettes is enough!

[motherinferior]

I am very, very bad at pregnancy - hate it from start to finish, not including the SPD. I am also appalling at dealing with small babies. They reduce me to a snivelling wreck on the constant brink of ringing Social Services. I find parenting a constant struggle which is only negotiated by dint of constant whingeing on-line and in person to everyone I know. Now that my younger daughter has turned two - and I indeed have turned 42 - I am finally reclaiming some sense of my life As It Was Known Before.

Please remind me that I don't want another baby and that my current broodiness is just a pre-menopausal blip of insanity!

We don't have enough bedrooms (but we could move). Childminder has another baby coming to fill DD1's slot, Blu. Yes, I know I keep wavering. I am trying to keep wavering and havering till it's just not a reproductive option any more, I freely admit. I would probably be able to stomp firmly on the impulse if DP hadn't gone and got that job, which increases his income by, well, a lot.

What do I enjoy about it? Well, apart obviously from the stress and lack of sleep and lack of money and constant feelings of low-level guilt...they're just adorable, my two, funny and beautiful and entertaining and totally loveable. I look at them and I sigh with delight. They make my days shine.

Oh, and I love having a four year old. And a two year old.

Oh, but three is so lovely. I'm sure you've got space for one more soft little fuzzy-headed, milky-smelling baby. And the older two will be thrilled. And the new one can be the joy of your old age.

Actually, I'm with dino. Third time round I know that I don't want any more, so rejoice with each 'last time'. Incredibly glad I had dd2. But so knackered.

may I politely remind you of your 'swimming uphill through custard' thread

I'm really enjoying having my baby and feel heartbroken to think all her lovely outgrown things won't have another use in our house. I really do. Ah well!

don't apologise, dino, it's fair comment... i feel we are running at capacity with two, another one would break us...

Thank you, Frogs and Dino. You are bringing sanity back to me. Seriously.

Winning the lottery is essential though to pay for the nanny/mothershelp/housekeeper etc necessary to maintain sanity. I think three would make me die of tiredness if I'm completely honest.

But babies are so lovely!

Tee hee. I'm watching fom the sidelines here and enjoying this one, MI.

one of my sisters has 3, she says that the jump from 1 to 2 is nothing compared to the jump from 2 to 3 .. and I believe her

Aha!
You see, you and BK are both extremely organised and good at sorting things out - i am terribly disorganised, and working f/t with TWO kids would do for me, let alone 3.

But I do think that 3 kids plus 2 working parents demands either capacity-building or down-sizing.

SO if DP's new job can support a less-frantically-working MI, AND a new house with extra bedroom, then that might work (otherwise, bang goes your study!) then bob's your uncle!

Beats me how you have the energy for the conception bit, never mind anything else!

get a puppy

And what if it was a boy? can you get boy inferiorettes???

Snap bk re the twins, but with the further proviso that it would have to be a boy and a girl to make maximum use of all old baby gear. Was just mulling over Fabian and Rosamund for names...
MI,

1. you are not supposed to be on here until 4.30pm, I am watching you...
2. How hungover precisely are you today?
3. Did you incapacitate dp in a sinister way at all over the weekend perchance
4. or are you ovulating?
5. What if you had a BOY... Listen to the voices of wisdom on here bk knows her stuff and so does everyone else who has weighed in. And amidst all the light-hearted banter here, can I just be a right misery and say that as we all square up to our early 40s, there is a bigger statistical risk of a successful conception going wrong at some point further down the line. I know, I know, I'm sorry, but that risk speaks louder to me than any other downside of trying for another baby than any of the money/it'll have to live in the shed/dp will leave me/my bosoms will descend to my shins this time arguments...

you won't be able to give your existing children the same level of attention.

hows that for a reason

they poo and wee everywhere and wake you up at night, look at you with big beautiful eyes, slobber all over you ... yup seems quite similar to me

Snap Blu. Us proud owners of boys and their axes know what's what...

She's already got an exploding population of cats!

cats aren't the same IMO .. they are too haughty and independent to resemble a baby

LOL marina at your post of 1.34.

She asks some very pertinent q's there, MI....