Oh for heavens sake, please remind me that two Inferiorettes is enough!

[motherinferior]

I am very, very bad at pregnancy - hate it from start to finish, not including the SPD. I am also appalling at dealing with small babies. They reduce me to a snivelling wreck on the constant brink of ringing Social Services. I find parenting a constant struggle which is only negotiated by dint of constant whingeing on-line and in person to everyone I know. Now that my younger daughter has turned two - and I indeed have turned 42 - I am finally reclaiming some sense of my life As It Was Known Before.

Please remind me that I don't want another baby and that my current broodiness is just a pre-menopausal blip of insanity!

Babies are quite easy though, I wouldn't mind another 10 week old now. This one has just fallen asleep on the changing mat. The problem is that they grow older, finding an 8 year old very hard work.

It's the no answering back bit batters (oo, say that out loud!) that helps.

Yes, not looking forward to a mobile baby particularly...

marina, the chicklet was most sad not to have a cuddle for you. but dino, kayleigh & bundle stepped into the breech admirably .

go on, go on mi, tiny babies are yummy. if a little insomniac.... and then i can give you some of your clothes back!

There is definatly a broody bug going around i think.

I want another too and like you I have bad pregnancies and don't cope with the 3 I have.

Just really really want one.

i got another reason imagine if they are all brainy and go to university.

you will be sooooo financially screwed

you can potentially be a MIL to 4 or 5 partners.

hmmmmmmm

The biggest pull for me is my own daughter who is 13 months. Trying to walk etc, I am constantly thinking "Is this the last time I'll go through this" and I can't bear it...she is so lovely, they all are of course, I just keep wanting to see them develop, but I think my hubbie might leave if I push for a 4th. Personally, I think if you can make it past the 1st year, the broodiness subsides a bit plus the babies get a bit easier and you DO get your life back a bit......

Go for it if you really want to MI but here's another reason not to: I like NOT being outnumbered by children. As someone (here?) said, once they realise they outnumber you, you're screwed! I definitely don't want any more but even I have my broody moments. Dp indulgently says 'yes darling, ok then' and waits for the moment (which is it) to pass. The advantage of going for it would of course, be sex without contraception for 9 months plus however long it takes you to get pregnant. And babies are cute, I aaahhed at Janh's pic, how sweet!

I feel fairly broody all the time but without actually wanting to go through the whole shebang again - now I just enjoy looking at other people's babies.

In another life though I would have liked to have 6 children ( even inc. a couple of boys )

MI if you really want to be talked out of it, put the inferiorettes into private school - the fees will act as an efficient deterrent/contraception

I would like another one but Dear Parents have got both boys for a holiday (4 and 2) for a week. Would they take another one on for extreme grandparenting duties - too much of a risk !

One thing to bear in mind and related to Kaz33s post - it is much harder to farm them out. Its reasonable to ask grandparents to take 2 but 3 is a big ask for older people. I also suspect a few of my friends with smaller families find my lot a bit too much. You can't just drop round the way I used to with 2 because you can't reasonably keep an eye on all 3 all the time. I suspect I don't get invited to all the gatherings/outings...but maybe thats just my kids!!!

Mother
Think: there are only two window seats in the back of most cars. If you have 3, someone has to sit in the middle.

Think: another 9 months in which you will get to share your body. Piles, vomiting, SPD, extreme fatigue. No prawns, brie, wine, hot dogs from street vendors, Mr Whippy, nuts, pots of hot steaming tea.

And then there's breastfeeding.

By having just two, you are bucking the trend. Being novel. The rebel. 'That Motherinferior! I'm so jealous of her. Everyone else was having 3, but she stuck to her guns. Now they get to go on holiday AGAIN and we're stuck here, in this over-crowded house.'

That's an extra two, maybe three years you won't be a slave to the school schedule.

Tell you what, MI, I've still not really, definitively decided that I'm cut out for motherhood myself, so if my scrap turns out disappointing in any way, you can have her. Will save advertising her on ebay.

Otherwise, just remember my gran's sage advice: it gets ever so much easier after the first four.

no one would have any if they were thinking logically about it!

i'm broody (for number 2) cause i loved pregnancy....the acknowledgement that there is a baby at the end of it (wonderfully amazing tho ds is) is what keeps our plans for another in a holding pattern that may or may not become a permanent state of affairs...

at least you're hankering for the end product (a child that can interact) rather than the process...

you'd have to be careful to favoritise the middle one ...

primal urge broodiness accompanied by razor sharp clear headedness about the consequences is a tough one isn't it???

oh go on soph, have another .

Oh do! You'd be mad not to!

You could be me sophable.....

sucks dosn't it?