At what age does it become unreasonable for a brother and sister to share a bedroom?

[FrazzledDad]

What do you think?

Fair enought that council have guidelines for that...

But surely as long as they are happy sharing there is not really a problem?

And since when did boys have a monopoly for 'playing with themselves'??

dd is 8.6 and ds is nearly 6, they are happy to share. We have a spare room, though, so they don't have to share, I am willing for them to have their own rooms..

Was just giving the OP an answer to her query. I'm not in social housing myself, just in case that is what you were ROFL at.

The council guidelines are for allocation of housing - I think that after the ae of 7 they don"t expect different sex children to share a bedroom. But it's ONLY so that they can decide which family gets which number of bedrooms - there aren't any "shoulds".

It's after the age of 10 I believe for housing allocation.

No, roffling at the idea you are overcrowded if you cannot accomodate your children in separate bedrooms according to sex. Thus you are overcrowded if you have a girl and boy but only two bedrooms. Its such nonsense.

bibbity - if you are applying for social housing there have to be some criteria for allocating based on need.

Yes, I understand that.

bibbity, if you have two children of the different sex sharing a bedroom around the age of puberty then you are overcrowded. That makes sense.

My DD is 8 and DS2 is 6 and they share.

Actually atm DS1 (10) is asleep in DD's bed (and so is she). It's rare at the minute for all of them to be asleep in their own beds tbh.

Do I need someone to call ss?

Seriously, I think what we have is fine, when DD gets to about 10 or so we'll have to move I reckon.

But what can you do about it if you are overcrowded and not living in social housing? This is my point.

You either live with it, build an extension, move house, or apply for social housing.

I don't know what you would do. I do know of a family that owned their own house and the parent [single] slept in the lounge. Not good if you are a couple so guess one child could sleep in the lounge in that case.

Just think it's not ideal to share a bedroom after a certain age.

bibbitybobbityhat - you siad what I was thinking. There was no way we were over crowded when I was a child, and was sharing with my brother.

I'm a bit bemused by this over corwding thing. We could have bought a 4 bed house in a crappy area, and all of my DC's would have had thier own (all be it tiny) room. We chose to buy a large(ish) 3 bed in a lovely area. If my boys were made to share a room there would be a murder before too long (we did try it when we moved in) so that left the younger two to share. (They're close in age, so still play with the same toys and the room is very large, as it already part of an extension.)

I find the thought that we will soon be technically be over crownded a bit odd...nobody would think we are poor, we have a big garden, and lots of living space, but maybe I should start panicing.

Maybe DH and I should sleep in the dining room, LOL.

in any case, if you are in social housing and become technically overcrowded because your kids get to 10, there is about a cat's chance in hell that you could get another place because of it.

It just means that when someone becomes eligible for an offer, the size of property they 'need' is guided by the ages and number of their children. And nobody takes account of the actual size of the rooms, which of course you can do when you are renting or buying your own choice.

Living & dining rooms are counted as bedrooms anyway for the 'overcrowding' measurement.

x-p with stewiegrffinsmom, although I thought that kitchens don't count.

My ds and dd shared until ages 9 and 10 and would fight every night. Now they have their own rooms life is calmer, and I don't have to yell at them so much. Although I know it's not easy to upsize for everyone - especially right now.

:Just think it's not ideal to share a bedroom after a certain age."

Mot ideal. Certain age. Could you define your terms, please?

I certainly know of cases where pubertal boy has involved younger sister in sexual exploration- not an ideal situation, I'd say. Depends on the maturity of the boy, of course, but it wasn't something the parents had foreseen at all and the damage done was quite considerable. I'd rather not risk it if there is a big enough age gap for the older child to be considerably more knowledgeable.

Cory, in such a case, I don't think it would make a difference if the siblings were sharing a room, or had rooms next to each other...are you going to stop siblings spenidn time together in each others bedrooms?

Fore heavens sake, there was an 8 year gap begtween me and my brother...I loved sharing with him.... it was so cool.

The thought that it might have been inapporpriate makes me very