I am the most stupid mother on this planet :(

[Neel1411]

I jammed my LO's finger in the morning in the bathroom door . I didnt even check he was there. I am so stupid. Feeling so guilty ....

DH made me feel worse .. said it happens only with me. He always falls when I am around. I think my reflexes dont work on time ... I try so hard to watch LO, but something always happens ... and that too because of me ...

Sorry rant over.

WV it wasn't hard! Tbh, I think there are some MH issues going on with my gran. She's had the odd 'go' at me over the years, but I tend to laugh at it rather than get wound up.

There was the time (err... the two year period) when my DG was obsessed about Pampers. Went on and on about how I had such great laundry 'facilities', why did insist on wrapping my child in a 'plastic bag disposable nappy' . Would slip off the nappy on the sly (yes, resulting in confused and wet-trousered toddler)! Suggested, 'does she really need a nappy at night' .

Then there was suncream-gate when my DGs fixation on the dangers of pore-blocking suncream unfortunately coincided with a bout of chicken pox. She walked into the house, Dd wandered by smothered in calamine lotion, and Dg screamed. She still talks about the time that 'they put so much sun cream muck on the baby I could babrely recognise her'.

It is quite sad really. Very damaging to family cohesion.

Oh, boy. Okay, I take it back: you would have to have been out of it indeed, not to notice things like that?!

Neel I'm glad your holiday went okay. But this situation with your husband, it needs to be sorted somehow. Either he's just blindly supporting his mother, in which case he's being totally disloyal to you, or he's making up for his own feelings of inadequacy (does he spend much time with his son alone?). But it's just not on. It's completely disrespectful, and such a shame.

Oops kif! All these small useless naggings do your head in, dont they?! I hate to be told all the darn time what I am doing wrong! Why are people so cynical?!

As about DH, I have asked him to stop critisizing me of anything and everything coz it isnt doing our relationship any good. He seems to be taking it seriously since he has stopped whining now! Sometimes I wonder who is more difficult .. my 18 month old or his dad and gran!

"Sometimes I wonder who is more difficult .. my 18 month old or his dad and gran!"

Ha ha. Good comparison to keep making to yourself!

Thanks again to everyone! You guys are lovely!

You sound much more cheerful and confident, which is exactly the start you need to continue pushing the changes you need.

Very good to hear!