Why is it on mumsnet?

[Howcouldyou]

That if you wish to feed your children healthy food,
not smoke when you are pg,
look after them and make sure they are safe
I could go on and on..............
you are ridiculed for basically being a responsible parent?
I do hope that the views on mumsnet do not reflect society as a whole, what a scary thought.
I have changed my name as I know that if I said who I was as usual I would be shot down in flames.

My Venezualan nanny wants to follow DH into the loo because she thinks it's not safe to leave him alone on the bottom floor of our 14 bedroom house, especially since we just got some Green & Black's organic chocolate in and it's got lots of sugar in so might rot his teeth which is bad since he's a fat cat corporate director, plus we bought it from Tesco which isn't an ethical supermarket, is it?

Question: Should I sack the nanny for wanting to eat all the chocolate herself?

how did i miss this one last night. was online all evening, and never saw this.
hmmppphh.
cant you add something to the thread title to tell is its goijg to become a good ruckus?

also, am bit thicko, why isnt tesco an ethical supermarket?

the balance on here must be about right because half the people seem to think it's all too smug and mumsy and the other half think it's all too lax and weheh, or to put it another way all opinions are either too pc or not half pc enough...and the other half manage to be both...

So how many of Custardo's comments do you all fit?

Shop on line at Saisburies

Don't use the word Chav

Read the times

Don't think most people on benefits are scroungers (there are a few, but you find bad folks everywhere)

Have the odd dinner part , if you can use the term for throwing some food at mates and drinking lots of wine

Drink wine, but am typing this sipping a larger

My garden is a complete mess

Dh and I are both profesionals

Have a cleaner who is a godsend and awards herself payrises as she sees fit and I greatfully pay them

I'm a lardy arse couch potato and dh and I are too tired to fcuk anyone!

Do recycle

Shop for clothes in asdas and M and s

Smack if I have to

Bottle fed

Don't smoke

Never bother with 'organic'

Have yelled and then broken down sobbing that I was going out of my mind

How about every one else

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Just about all of it

Not the gym (pilates though ) and hopefully not to DH f*cking around. (Have had Exh who did that though, so that probably counts).

Have never ever posted any threads looking for relationship help though

Oh and have never every had Venezulean cleaner or even ever sacked one.

I eat organic sometimes, shop at Tescos (sorry), couldn't give two hoots whether someone is a chav or not.

I don't smoke, they breast fed, and have no problem with people on benefits. I read the Times, have a herb pot, and am a complete and total amateur as far as being a mother is concerned. I don't work at Tesco, but if the shifts allow when dd goes to school, I'd never say never.

I don't have diner parties, and when I start a BAR thread, it's always full of people drinking meths and ogling strippers.

I recycle, but wouldn't touch Boden with a barge pole. I am aware of societies divide and can see perfectly well why not everyone can afford a house in the burb. I don't go to the gym, and I'm not on a diet ... although I probably ought to be.

My husband isn't fcking anyone else, although he might be thinking of it when he's fking me, and I've never had to ask for advice on it.

I don't have a nanny, an au pair, a cleaner or even a window cleaner, and I've never met a Venezuelan either.

I don't smack but I do scream, I often curl up in a ball in the corner because I can't take any more, and I have posted about it but never under another name.

Everyone new might well be a troll but I prefer to give them the benefit of the doubt before pushing them back under the bridge.

happymerryberries on Tuesday, 28 June, 2005 5:59:13 PM

So how many of Custardo's comments do you all fit?

Shop on line at Saisburies no

Don't use the word Chav yes exactly describes members of the family

Read the times no but yes sunday

Don't think most people on benefits are scroungers (there are a few, but you find bad folks everywhere) I don't

Have the odd dinner part , if you can use the term for throwing some food at mates and drinking lots of wine don't do that

Drink wine, but am typing this sipping a larger snap

My garden is a complete mess non existent builder yard

Dh and I are both profesionals no

Have a cleaner who is a godsend and awards herself payrises as she sees fit and I greatfully pay them no

I'm a lardy arse couch potato and dh and I are too tired to fcuk anyone! !!!!

Do recycle try

Shop for clothes in asdas and M and s hardly buy any clothes but do have per una jeans

Smack if I have to have done

Bottle fed two out of three

Don't smoke interesting did, then didn't for 20 years (apart from a few) but lapsed and gave up and do occasionally

Never bother with 'organic' sometimes do (for many years was a wholefood vegetarian)

Have yelled and then broken down sobbing that I was going out of my mind have gone out of mind

How about every one else

Come on - roll up roll up!!!!!

We need more confessions

So how many of Custardo's comments do you all fit?

Shop on line at Saisburies - no, Waitrose, and only when Soupy isn'#t there

Don't use the word Chav - not out loud, anyway hehehehehe

Read the times - Independent and Observer (shoot me now)

Don't think most people on benefits are scroungers (there are a few, but you find bad folks everywhere) - Agree

Have the odd dinner part , if you can use the term for throwing some food at mates and drinking lots of wine - Used to, when I ahd friends and a life

Drink wine - yes

My garden is a complete mess - yes but the herbs are fragrant and bushy...

Dh and I are both profesionals - I will be, give me a few years

Have a cleaner who is a godsend and awards herself payrises as she sees fit and I greatfully pay them - Nope

I'm a lardy arse couch potato and dh and I are too tired to fcuk anyone! - yes to lardy arse cp, no comment to the rest!

Do recycle - hem hem try to

Shop for clothes in asdas and M and s - nope

Smack if I have to - nope but realistically, never say never

Bottle fed - nope

Don't smoke - used to

Never bother with 'organic' - yes if possible but I don't rend my garments if I can't afford it

Have yelled and then broken down sobbing that I was going out of my mind - more times than I care to remember

well let's see

• organic: milk, yes, nervous about the hormone overload;
• tesco, oh no, ocado all the way;
• chav, isn't that the people whose waistbands don't come up to their bums? How do they manage to walk?
• smoke, did my best to but it gave me the runs;
• breastfed, well yes, for a bit;
• benefits, monster complicated system, I can't believe that people who are entitled are getting what they ought;
• BBC website is my source of news;
• we have no garden but dh has done a lovely herby windowbox for the kitchen;
• professional, yup, and wine, yes please;
• dinner parties, no, kitchen free for alls yes;
• recycling, in theory;
• Boden NO. Oh I lie, I got some blue linen summer pyjamas there 10 years ago, in fact I love them;
• gym/diet, no, but t'ai chi and muscles, all down to the fabulous inspiration of Mumsnet;
• have a nanny and am scrupulous about taxes so there.

Don't generally air the miserable moments (seem to recall a discussion about differing personalities & whether airing helps or hinders) but oh yes I have them.

Don't smoke, have always breastfed, sometimes eat organic, do have a cleaner (feel like a lazy arase for it, though). Do try to buy ethical, hate gyms and eat like a pig. Do recycle, couldn't possibly afford boden (or a nanny). Wouldn't mind working at Tesco if it paid enough to cover childcare.

Would def. fck dh over if caught him fcking anybody else, would not take any time 2 ask 4 advice about it on mn.

Er, what's a dinner party, then??

ps: am v. annoyed by the term chav, seems 2 apply 2 99% of the population, the way some people use it.

anyone been on the website "chavscum"?

Their discussion forums are hilarious

my pushchair is sitting oout in the pouring rain.

organic - for some things
shop at tesco - prefer waitrose but can't get everything i like there
"thought everyone else in society was a chav" - you mean they aren't?
don't smoke,have always breast fed, and i do think that a lot of people on benefits are no good low life spongers.
I do read the daily mail and think that the daily mirror and the sun are for those that can barely read.
I have a herb garden ( which is growing nicely thank you)and i am a "professional" (professional mum)
"everyone recycles and shops at boden. everyone is politically aware of societies divide but can see no reason why everyone cant afford a house in the burbs if they try hard enough." yep, thats me
I go to the gym (having 3 kids ruins your body)
But i do admit to "losing" it sometimes with the little ones (and feel crap afterwards)

stitch, ds2's wheelchair is as well

Hello you again.
Should have left this one.

Ooooh, do my liberalpinkocliche credentials cut the mustard?

Ahem, have organic delivery, all frightfully right-on and non-air freighted

Tesco - I go to the one round the corner sometimes, also have Waitrose delivery

Oh I couldn't possibly use the word chav, really I couldn't, perhaps I'd say 'there's a lot of social diversity round here' (here meaning deepest Sahfeast Lunnon), and, you know, you'd understand what I mean

Haven't smoked anything for ages, and can't remember when I last smoked tobacco

Breast fed - yep, you've got me there

Benefits - nope, don't agree about low life spongers

Paper: Guardian, natch

No herb garden - well, there is some parsley in ours, does that count?

Professional - spose so

Dinner parties, good god no, can't be arsed and I wouldn't know what to talk about and I'd drink too much and get gobby, that's what I used to do

Recycle, oh yes massively

Boden - has been known although I am so much the girl that Johnnie Boden hates that I always despise myself for it

Good god, don't think I can afford a house in the burbs, it's not a matter of trying hard enough anyway

Don't go to the gym, think vaguely about eating less cake, do cycle and swim but if I don't I seep into tedious depression (and I am also a very old person of 42 who needs upkeep)

I don't have a husband.

Don't smack, do scream and shout and bellow and am quite frequently seen admitting in my own inferiority to being a totally inept, incapable and unwilling parent.

been thinking: I think custo missed just one MN cliche, which is excess of formal education ... leading to, well, what exactly? Debating grapes, perhaps.

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Sorry, a crusade!

So how many of Custardo's comments do you all fit?

Shopping - never food shopped online. Shop at Sainsburies sometimes, if not Asda. Never stepped inside a Waitrose let alone shopped there.

Never buy organic unless it is reduced (unless I happen to be near a farmer's market - once or twice a year)

Don't use the word Chav **

Read the Telegraph or Guardian** online

Think most people on benefits are fully entitled to them

Don't have dinner parties

Prefer lager to wine most evenings as I gulp not sip my drinks

My garden is full of no mainenance shubs and weeds

I am a professional** Dh is a manual worker.

Never had a cleaner

Dh and I dally with no one else (too busy cleaning the house)

Do recycle **

Buy clothes from ebay, Primark - and Spitalfields and Greenwich markets. Do ebay searches for Boden clothes but never buy them.

Can see many reasons why everyone can't afford a house in the burbs even if they try hard.

Don't go to the gym

Not on a diet

Smack sometimes

Breast fed** but not exclusively

Don't smoke**

Shout at children, shout at husband, shout at myself, shout at life

** = the pathetically small number of mumsnet clique traits I possess. Must try harder.