going to be a 'bad' mummy later.........

[QueenOfQuotes]

have to take DS1 to his induction afternoon (2nd one - hoping he doesn't throw up like he did last week LOL) at his new school.........thing is DS2 has his sleep at 1pm-3pm - and the induction afternoon starts at 1.30

So I'm going to put DS2 down for his sleep as usual, at 1.30 on the dot grab the monitor, lock the front door and whizz round to the school to drop DS1 off - then whizz back again

It seems to me that quite a few parents would leave their child alone for a short while, as many have said on this thread and others.

I am sure QoQs is in her right mind and doing what she feels is best in her situation. I certainly don't follow my dd around the flat every second and I think that I am a 'good' mummy as I am sure QoQs is also.

Everyone does what is best for them and their children in their own opinion.

"I am sure QoQs is in her right mind "

me??? in my right mind????? no you've got the wrong person - I'm stark raving bonkers

Exactly QoQs!

Now where is my cotton wool...?

lol, QoQs, crossed posts!

Sorry to assume you were a sane human being, my mistake!

LOL - well at least someone is brave enough to admit that I'm a loony

Everyone is entitled to their opinion - i wasnt questioning your sanity it was just a comment...

I do not wrap my dd in cotton wool (very funny tho...........)

I do not follow her around the house every second of the day.........

I just wouldnt leave my child alone in the house for any amount of time whatsoever.

I too believe that i'm a good mum - i am sure we are all good mums. Just giving my opinion on this rather silly thread.

Anyway, time to move on and be a mum instead of continuing this thread.

"I just wouldnt leave my child alone in the house for any amount of time whatsoever. "

Genuine questions here -

Do you put the bins out, regargless of weather conditions, with your child in tow?

Do you put washing on the line with your child in tow?

Do you take your child with you EVERY time you go out into the garden?

oh - and do you take them with you while you go for a cr*p????

Now you are winding me up!

DH takes the bins out (bless him)
Yes DD DOES come out into the garden with me most times but she also stays in house sometimes too - you know what i mean but just being picky
And strangely enough i dont actually need to leave my house to have a c**p as you so nicely put it as we have a toilet just upstairs

I take my kids age 2 and 4 to the loo with me and lock them in til I finish! They might not like the smell but at least I know where they are and what they're doing! I also take them to the laundry room with me, sit them at the dining room table with crayons and paper when i'm cooking or washing up, and take them outside if i'm pegging out the washing! It's not hard to do because I love them and care about them - its just avoiding potential danger.

Thank you Hannah Boo - what you wrote is so true. For the sake of something taking that little bit longer, it really is worth it just to ensure that our children are safe.

DD does soemtimes come to the loo with me or she will go in her room to play if she's in the mood. She actually likes helping me to peg the washing out and we are always out in the garden playing.

I think maybe QoQ is being argumentative MandyMoo, because she knows it is wrong. It would be so much more sensible to keep him awake for an extra half hour and take him. Sure u'll have a grumpier little boy, but sure he will sleep at nighttime! Why did u even start this post QoQ? Just to tell us all you're going to being a bad mammy?

hannahboo, please tell me you are joking. You lock a four year old in teh loo with you? I think that's actually far more unhealthy than leaving a sleeping baby safely in its cot for a few minutes. Blimey.

"It would be so much more sensible to keep him awake for an extra half hour and take him. Sure u'll have a grumpier little boy, but sure he will sleep at nighttime!"

Why should my DS2 have to be unhappy for 5hrs before bedtime (he goes to bed at 8pm) for the sake of letting him sleep as much as he needs to??? And "no" he won't sleep any better at night - he's an excellent sleeper - but if he doesn't get enough sleep during the day he's harder to get to sleep as he gets OVER tired.

AND FWIW the time it would take to have DS2 with me would be the same as if I went on my own - as I'd carry him round and back again

QoQ you make me giggle!!!

I can't believe anyone takes their children to the loo with them!

Do you all sleep with your eyes open aswell

I'm not even sure if all 3 of my children & me could actually fit in the loo at the same time...

The 5yo would literally start climbing the walls, probably nick a toy off his 3yo sister just to annoy her. She in turn would start screaming blue murder & probably bump her head on the basin. The baby would cry because he wasn't allowed to stick his fingers in the loo while I was using it (or at any other time, really).

I'll take my chances letting them run amok in (or even outside) the house while I have a private moment with my private effluents, thank you.

yes I do, we live in a large 5 bed house with bathroom on 3rd floor so why would I leave her on bottom floor alone?

i only take jess to the loo with me if im going for a poo and thats only because i obviously cant get up and go as quick if she needs me!

At four years old, and even at two years old, I would say that your child does not need to be taken to the loo with you, and I'm gobsmacked that you think it's a necessary precaution. But I'm not going to be as rude to you about it as you've been to QoQ. I didn't agree with what she's planning on doing, but at least I didn't feel the need to question her parenting skills in the process.

And in fact the more unbalanced the views on this get, and the more it turns into an "I'm a better parent than you are" fight, the more inclined I am to support QOQ. At least she can justify her arguments without resorting to criticising other posters. Given the choice of doing what QOQ is planning on doing, or being so over-protective of my children that I have to take a 4 year old to the toilet with me, I would say that QOQ has the more balanced view.

well obviously we all have different views on how to parents our children

should add that jess is only 11 months old!

Turning this around a little bit...

If your employed a nanny to care for your children, and like QueenOfQuotes your nanny left DS2 asleep at home, while taking DS1 to school... would those of you who feel it is right that QOQ does this, also feel that it would be right for the Nanny to do so?

I have to say, as a Nanny, my Insurance would be invalidated if I left a child alone in this manner.

well thats your option to leave your 11 mth old outside when u use the bathroom. I can't really lock the front and back doors when I go upstairs as we have a gardener and housekeeper who comes and goes as they please throught the morning and early afternoon and if one of the kids got out onto the road, I wouldn't ever forgive myself.