DD 10 has been looking at porn.

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I'm devastated. She did an innocent search after dh had downloaded a new browser (mozilla). Found out she has been looking at horrible stuff.

Dittany, I think there is an important difference between being shown porn by an adult and encountering it for yourself. If a child is shown porn by an adult that is extremely inappropriate behavour, just like if an adult gives a child alcohol. If an inquisitive child finds some porn then it's important not to make a huge great big deal out of it, while making sure it doesn;t happen again.

Dittany: the OP's posts imply that the OP is regarding this as something awful and traumatizing, which it isn't. I don't know what your experience was and am not asking you to discuss it any further than you want to, but children sometimes see stuff they shouldn't see, whether that's porn or violence/trauma/tragedy, and it's up to the adults in carge of caring for those children to make sure that it doesn't do them lasting damage.

you're right dittany, she obviously is worried/confused/upset about it which is why she is describing it as bad thoughts.
However we don't know what she saw and if its something relatively tame, taxi should be minimizing her worries and not blowing this out of proportion.
making her think she has seen something really bad (if it's not) could be very detrimental.
(this is all based on assumption btw as there really isn't enough to go on)
It's worth noting, that according to Taxi's post of 00.33 she actually went onto to do a second search so might well be in a different place to you emotionally when you saw porn.

well, she could be more sexually precocious.
As I understand it, she saw something in comic form (still sexual I presume) she was interested in, so went back again to look.
I assume you came across porn unexpectedly and weren't actually seeking it

its unfortunate - but it happened. How you handle this situation is key.

i think that internet without parental controls is like leaving chocolate for a 3 year old and telling them not to eat it

its your fault - not theirs.

i think you must reinforce that sex is natural and good and beautiful between two people who love each other over the age of 16.

i think walking around with a tortured face back of hand on forehead = looking for councelling to assauge your feelings of guilt = for a trauma that you are expecting - and so dd might be willingly giving you ( drama lap it up dd) would only serve to underline in bold with great big stars what is really a small unfortunate event.

make sure you are not putting any of your secual hang ups on your dd.

dittany - you are so over playing this.

Dittany: When I was a kid (about 8/9) I went on a school trip to a museum and one of the exhibits was of mummies, including a mummified baby. This upset me and gave me nightmares; I told my mum and she was very matter-of-fact about it and the nightmares stopped. If she had made a three-ring circus out of it I would have had more nightmares and felt much worse - looking at something, whatever it is, is not a big deal and should not be made a big deal.

I first saw porn when I was 7.

Someone had left a magazine in a phone box on our street.

It was left there and all the local kids went in and had a look.

Eventually an adult went to investigate all the interest in the phone box and it was removed.

It was all a bit of a giggle really! The image that stuck in my head was a woman sitting on a wicker chair with her legs akimbo, shaving her muff off....

Also we found some in some woods and had a good browse before it was hastily removed by an adult.

Once again - no lasting trauma and only remember a policeman theme!

At 9 I read Hollywood Wives....

Taxi and AD did your DDs mean to search for porn or were they sent links by email and innocently clicked on them not knowing what they were?

I also found porn in the woods about that age - where did it all come from?

From what I can gather, you're all over reacting to this. If you can get her to look at pictures of sandwiches, stoves, Cillit Bang and racial hate propaganda, she'd be the perfect catch for any respectable white male like myself in a few years time.

It's good news. Honestly.

I think this is quite a preposterous claim from MrBoombastic (what does that name refer to anyway!?)!

Obviously it is horrifying that this little girl is watching something as sinful as pornography. With a lot of praying and spending a lot of her time in church, then maybe she could be salvaged from a sinful life that she will no doubt lead unless mesures are taken as soon as possible.

She has lost her innocence and this is not far from having sex at her age. Obviously the browser has nothing to do with this: it is easy for even a 10-year-old girl to filter out what is a reliable site and what is not these days. I have to question the parenting of this child: why do you let her use the computer without your supervision if you cannot trust her not to look at porn, in this horrendous manner!? This is shocking me at the very least. I shall be parying for this child, but I fear it is not enough.

Parying? Hadouken, mofo, parry that shizzle.

MrBoombastic is even further disgusting me here. I beleive that sort of "black" language is not at all appropriate for this kind of forum, or even appropriate at all in fact! You should be ashamed of yourself MrBoombastic.

Barking, truly barking

I'm far more offended by NappyAddict. Surely scat shouldn't be so rife on a website such as this?

Ooo, do I get to say trip trap now?

OP, I agree with others that you shouldn't make an enormous fuss. Calm her fears, tell the truth, and don't worry too much.

Have I entered the twilight zone? Who are you guys and what have you done with my mumsnet?

BoF, I think it's probably the same person, employing balloon sharp wit in an inappropriate place.