I just don't know what to do. If I tell you the pro's and con's, can you please help me decide? (Yes, I know only I can make the decision but I just want a bit of help please)
OK, PROS
DH wants another
I don't feel our family is complete and would love to have three children
DD (3.5) would love a little brother or sister
We've both always wanted a big family
I never thought DS (15 months) would be my last
I love being a parent and so does DH and I especially love babies
CONS
We are pretty tight for money and would struggle financially (i.e. no holidays, not much spending money - not to the extent of being in poverty)
I dread the whole being pg, giving birth and newborn stage (but also kind of relish it!)
Our contracts are both temporary (me 2 years and DH 3 years) so worse case scenario - we could both be unemployed with 3 DC to suppport - but I am 35 and don't want to wait another 2-3 years before TTC
I wouldn't want to work full-time with a young baby but also couldn't really afford not to
We have a lovely happy family as we are and I'm scared of spoiling that (even though I'm sure having another would probably make it even better)
I know this is a bit poncey but I feel like I would be being a bit environmentally irresponsible having yet another baby (please don't take offence if you have lots of DC - I would never think this of anyone else)
Oh gosh, I just don't know - although I do notice that I have put a caveat after almost every con....
Any advice, experience,suggestions greatly appreciated- I am driving myself (and DH) demented with my indecision
Thank you