How would you feel if your son/daughter was gay?

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How would you feel if your son or daughter was gay?

I've had several friends make comments which imply that this would devastate them, which I find really odd. Why would people feel like that, in this day and age? Is it just homophobia?

It has also devastated a family I know who have found out that their 20 year-old daughter is gay.

Personally if dd was a lesbian, the only thing that comes to mind is 'thank goodness she won't get pregnant by mistake.'

How would you feel and why?

It wouldn't be what I would choose but if they were happy then I would be happy too!

It wouldn't bother me. Except the fact that he might come across prejudice. I'd like to be a grandma one day so I'd probably bug him about 'you can still have children, you know'. A gay friend of mine has fathered a baby due in about six weeks and is sooooo excited (and relieved that he gets parenthood without lack of sleep).

Rreasllywouldn't care less (unless all of them were, and thenonly from the grnadkids being less likely perspective)

my parents also would not care, dh's would but would have to deal with it.

We have gay friends stay over, and would have taken them to the Mrdi Gras in Cardiff yesterday if we hadn't been busy

I wouldn't mind, but until I'm in the position I don't really know. Through experience it's so easy to say 'oh O'd do x or Y' and when you're there, living it, it can be a very different reality.

Sitting here now I can say, hand on heart I wouldn't mind, as long as she was happy.

BUT
Lottie has Down's syndrome so very, very unlikey she'll ever have children
So if Eve turned out to be gay AND decided she wouldn't have children, then I would be gutted.
Selfish I know, but I hate the thought of boith my girls never having babies of their own. That may be selfish but I also think it's quite batural to want to be a grandparent one day. The actual gay part doesn't bother me though.

I don't think it would bother me at all, it's a bit different so something to talk about at the tennis club too, would make a change from "mines got 10 A'levels, gone to Uni, getting married" etc can just see their faces if we said ours are all GAY

My brother is gay and I know that initially my mum and dad found it very difficult to get their heads round, very quickly they understood that he was happy, he is in a long term, settled relationship and has a great lifestyle - 4/5 holidays a year, nice house, fantastic social life (he works in theatre design) in fact lots of the things I don't!!

my best friend from school is also gay, so as long as my dd's are happy then fine.

Lucycat I would have loved a son or brother who works in theatre design, how exciting !

oh it all gets a bit luvvie and dramatic sometimes

He sounds right up my street, I bet he's goregous too !!!

unfortunately not! that makes me sound terrible doesn't it!

he did get the green eyes and long eyelashes though!