Just seen the worst nappy change ever :-(

[Sunfield]

Earlier today I took my 3yr old into the changing room in a local precinct, another mum was already there dealing with her young daughter. Her son who must have been at least 4yrs wasnt in a nappy but had obviously just had an accident ! He patiently watched as mum changed his younger sister and I expected her to simply dry him off and change his clothing.

What I didnt expect to see was once she cleaned him up she produced a terry from the changing bag promptly folded it on her knee, grabbed the now nervous 4yr old and despite his obvious distress held him down while the nappy was pinned into place :-(

I've never seen a child so distressed, but from what I could see it was a regular thing after an accident. Mum just ignored any crying or tantrums and before you could blink the nappy was on.

Not a pleasant sight but this mum sure knew how to get a nappy on a wriggler in double quick time !

Its more than just ignoring protests, it's traumatising the child in my opinion

Sunfield - can you tell us here if you are totally objecting to the idea of putting a nappy on a 4yo for this reason or just the type of nappy that was used.

Maybe you could consider that if the child doesn't want to wear a nappy then they will object nearly as much whether it was terry, disposable, or pull up?

And while you are telling us that, Sunfield, perhaps you can (finally) tell us what YOU would have done in the same situation. You've been very vociferous in your criticism but I have yet to see you come up with a better answer to the problem that the mum in your OP had.

It's very easy to criticise but harder to come up with a positive suggestion.

Sunfield I'd hardly call it traumatising, I put him in nappies for a while to ease an otherwise awkward situation, ok he didnt like it but he doesnt always like wearing a coat either yet I still insist on it sometimes.

It was rather painless, he had a few changes, each time I just got on with it as quick as possible. In most cases he didn't even know he was getting a nappy change till after I'd prepared the clean one an warned anyone who didn't want to be present.

Amazingly he survived the ordeal to this day and has now completely forgotten it, told you it wouldn't kill him.

I don't completely agree with what you do with your 4yo but you are putting on his nappy as quickly as possible. I'm supporting you so you can contact me if you like

Children complain at all kinds of things like eating their greens or doing homework, you're not going to let them off those are you!

For those who are telling us that all our bedwetters should be in pull ups - why?
pull ups in my experience don't hold enough and tear easily, plus they are confusing if you have a smaller child. If you give them a pull up it looks like some pants but they can pee in them - how does that help? At least if they're in a nappy I know it's not going to leak or come off.

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