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Just seen the worst nappy change ever :-(

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Sunfield · 08/11/2008 19:34

Earlier today I took my 3yr old into the changing room in a local precinct, another mum was already there dealing with her young daughter. Her son who must have been at least 4yrs wasnt in a nappy but had obviously just had an accident ! He patiently watched as mum changed his younger sister and I expected her to simply dry him off and change his clothing.

What I didnt expect to see was once she cleaned him up she produced a terry from the changing bag promptly folded it on her knee, grabbed the now nervous 4yr old and despite his obvious distress held him down while the nappy was pinned into place :-(

I've never seen a child so distressed, but from what I could see it was a regular thing after an accident. Mum just ignored any crying or tantrums and before you could blink the nappy was on.

Not a pleasant sight but this mum sure knew how to get a nappy on a wriggler in double quick time !

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SunflowerNeedsSunshine · 25/11/2008 10:21

so, again, what would you have done Sunfield? left the poor child in wet clothes or maybe naked?

lecohen · 26/11/2008 11:20

OMG, what a weird and funny thread, only started browsing as looking for advice re potty training lol

I think what is most important is that we all stop comparing what others do / don't do with what we would do.

skramble · 27/11/2008 19:58

It was in a changing room FFS the only public appeared to be you, you nosey woman.

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Sunfield · 28/11/2008 10:09

You are missing the point Skramble I'm saying I very much doubt there are many mums who would put a 4+ yr old over their knee while they put a terry square on.

Admittedly Anonymouseone and Queenbebe have said they still use a nappy past 4yrs but they probably don't use a terry on their knee while the child struggled !

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breaghsmum · 28/11/2008 17:58

well if it was as public as you say it was, she was hardly going to lay him down on the floor!!!! was she??

skramble · 29/11/2008 00:07

LOL me missing the point, yes dear of course I am .

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SunshinePine · 29/11/2008 17:34

Givethedogabone, no - give the dog a prize!

That's in one statement what we've all been saying.

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Sunfield · 29/11/2008 19:52

I've got no probs with the age of the child, let's face it most children of that age have the odd accident. However I can't see the point of putting a nappy on after the accident.

If (for whatever reason) mum decides to put a nappy on then wouldn't it make more sense to use a 'pull up' or a nappy that could be put on with the child standing ? A terry square that involves the child laying down is hardly the obvious choice in this situation.

How many other mums would put a 4+ yr old over their knee and use a nappy that involved pins for goodness sake !

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MadamAnt · 29/11/2008 19:59

Have come to this thread v late, but to address your most recent post: I would often put DD in a nappy after she had an accident, because her accidents often used to come in clusters. If the mother is a cloth-nappy user, cloth-pull ups are harder to come by and it's difficult to justify the expense if your DCs nappy-wearing days are coming to an end.

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SunshinePine · 30/11/2008 10:30

give the dog a prize again!

breaghsmum · 30/11/2008 14:42

oh sunfield. i really feel for your family, we can switch of the comp and 4get about you and your strange mindset, how on earth have they survived the last 3 weeks listening to this??

TheLadyEvenstar · 01/12/2008 13:10

I have a 14m old and if i have another baby I will use real nappies again...so if ds2 does have an accident and I have no change of undies for him on will go a nappy until i get home. It is hardly going to kill him is it.

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Sunfield · 04/12/2008 09:41

No, it won't kill him, but you probably wouldn't put a 4+ yr old over your knee while you put a terry square on, which is what I'm talking about.

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nuttygirl · 04/12/2008 10:04

So the problem is that she used a terry square with pins?????

FFS what the f*ck do you think people used before pull ups were invented????

VaginaMonologues · 04/12/2008 10:19

Thank God for SolidGoldBrass for putting this episode in its proper context.

breaghsmum · 04/12/2008 18:18

sunfield if your child was 4 or even more and had an accident while you were out. you had an appointment to go to so knew it would be a while before you got home , and all you had with you was a terry. would you leave the child as it was and make him sit through the appointment wet just to save putting the child over your knee???? it sounds like that is what you are saying, and if that is the case, you have issues. but then, we've all realised that by now.

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Sunfield · 23/12/2008 13:35

I think I'd just change his clothing, I don't think I'd put him over my knee and put a terry on at 4+ yrs !

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SunshinePine · 24/12/2008 17:20

So after 19 days you finally felt the need to start up this thread again.

And with a point that's already been mentioned and discussed, what if there weren't any spare clothes?

Would you object as much if it were a disposable nappy?

Ladylighthouse · 28/12/2008 18:56

This is my first posting here but I had to register to reply to this thread.

I really dont see what the op has a problem with here. I did a very similar thing to my 4yr old on boxing day without any hesitation. We were visiting my sis and in a room full of other kids and adults DS isnt reliably dry so although hes not in nappies a lot I do still use them if an accident is likely and will be inconvenient. He normally has a disposable but its not unknown for me to use a terry when we run short. The shops were closed and I didnt have a lot of disps to spare I didnt take any with me and he wasnt in one when we arrived. After a while of play and him being heavily engrossed I decided it was wise to put a nappy on before any embarrassment, sure enough my sis gave me one of her baby daughters terries. No sooner had he seen me folding it when I was undressing him, he didnt enjoy it but it was over in 2 mins and saved any embarrasing accidents later.

And before anyone criticises I put him on my lap and did it in the same room to get it done quick and shock horror I even used safety pins, does that make me a bad mum also.

sunnygirl1412 · 28/12/2008 19:25

Nope, Ladylighthouse - as far as I am concerned it makes you a good mother - one who does her best in the circumstances. Countless people have been on here (including me) to ask the OP what she would have done in the situation - she's very quick to criticise another mother, but (surprisingly) slow to give us any viable alternative!

SunshinePine · 28/12/2008 21:36

Ladylighthouse - I, like many others see nothing wrong with what the lady discussed by the OP did or what you did a few days ago. It is the kindest option in a lot of cases.

sunnygirl1412 - Totally agree with you, Sunfield has been very quick to put down others, especially the terry supporters, but has never suggested an alternative.

hungryhorse · 28/12/2008 22:08

Ok I am very very very worried at this thread!!!

My DD is 4 and only as a last resort would I ever dream of putting a nappy on her.

How can all of you think that it is normal to put nappies on 4 year olds?

And as for the woman who is putting nappies on her 7 and 9 year olds- OMG is this for real????

Do you not think that the reason your children still wet/soil is because you still put them in nappies?

Sorry for the excessive punctuation but I have never heard of anything so ridiculous in all of my life... and the fact that most of you on here agree that its acceptable makes me really wonder why anyone would take advice from MN ever again.

I cannot stress how shocked I am this!!!!