General Chat Thread for Real Nappy Users ***PART 2***

[BigBadMousey]

WooHoo! I got here first!

For fleece liners have you got any old fleece blankets you can cut up? If not i bought half a metre of fleece from the market for a couple of quid and just cut it to shape.

thanks, any type?

Lots of fleece liners on ebay

I would say thinner would be better.

sorry about your home troubles rusmum

men can have a sort of post natal depression as well, and I think that going from one to two kids is sometimes harder for them as they don't have the same hard-wiring that women do of instant bonding. They are also often scared that loving the new baby means they love No1 less. My DH certainly felt a bit like that when I was pregnant with DD. His job worries are probably playing a part as well, as he will be feeling the loss of his provider role pretty hard.

I'm sending you three prowraps and an old style tots don't forget....and the fluffle and a couple fo terries if you want them.

4andnotout, you've squeezed an extra one in there though! I was one of four and loved it as a child as our house was always noisy and busy. I'm so glad that DS wasn't destined to be an only one; there was a chance he might have been. Is it another DD you are having? Your poor DH if so .

Yes its another dd
I was told after dd2 that i was infertile due to pcos and dp spent 20 years and 2 marrriages thinking he was infertile now he only has to look at me to get me pregnant again

Lacka thank you at least I have something to look forward to . Maybe I am being too hard on him [
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4and not what a lovely thing that is!!

LOL....my DH has that effect too...even at our advanced age (he 41, me 39). All five of my pregnancies have been first time every time (we lost two though )

When is your EDD then? Mine is 6th November.

colicky babies are hard work as well rusmum; it can't be easy. Maybe the two of you need some "us" time. Can you get a babysitter for a couple of hours so you can go out for a coffee or a drink and have a wee chat? Or even just out for a walk without the kids.

I'll pop that stuff in the post on Monday for you

thanks, am REALLY looking forward to having something new. Is that sad!!!!

It will all work out I know. Just feeling sorry for myself. [embarrassed]

[embarrassed]

why wont that work??
Oh

Im due on the 26th of october, this is my 5th pregnancy in 5 years as we lost 2 babies too, one before dd2 and one between dd2 and dd3. Dp is 44 and im 26.

ALl the best with your new babies, how exiting!!!!!!

where is essie tonight??

Rusmum - I've been there and survived (just about!) DH and I were made redundant just before DD2 was born (our company sold out and they closed all UK sites). I spent the first few weeks of DD2s typing out DHs covering letters, printing off CVs and arranging his interview schedules while trying to entertain a 2yo and deal with a very colicky refluxy DD2 (DH worked away while we tried to find him a job locally). My MIL has died unexpectedly a month before DD2 was born so our emotions were shot. DH did absolutely nothing to help with the DCs and used that exact phrase you mention. We came out the other end though and now have our DS - he got a fantastic job and is much happier than previously. What I would say is that you really ought to make your DH do his share with both DCs. I didn't and just got on with it all myself and that has had some pretty serious repercussions.

I made my own fleece liners too - cheapest option. For prefolds go for the prowrap - they are just as good as rikkis for prefolds but cheaper (no patterns though )

Have a look and see what these cb wraps go for tommorrow.

ilmd - ooohhhh - I'd make him take them all day tomorrow and make sure his mother has other plans!

BBM thanks, i feel al ittle better. appreciate everyones kindness.

Think i will make own.

Ha! Loads of X posting.

Rusmum- lacks is right about the DH depression thing. Loss of job plus new baby hits men hard - he still has to pull his weight though IMO. If you can get time together then that will help loads. Try to encourage him in a positive way - I get DH to wind DS in his own special way which works well, it makes him feel he can do something to help in what often feels like a helpless situation

again thanks, dont know how i would have coped without Mn and you guys to 'talk' to.

Can i BOOST with a face flannel?? If i put on liner- pre fold then flannel before wrap??

flannels often get used as boosters - just make sure the wrap still fits well over the extra bulk. Micrifibre dishcloths are even better - thin and absorbant (cheap too)

Ah not thought of that. just for night time (when she decides to sleep) lol

Ah not thought of that. just for night time (when she decides to sleep) lol

Are you nippa-ing yet rusmum? I'm sure that will make a difference too.