owners of GIRLS do oyu feel underpressure fashion wise

[FluffyMummy123]

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when dd started school i mentioned to dh that dd was the smartest dressed in her class. it almost looked like too much effort on my part, but not iyswim.
shes coordinated, ironed,clean and hair brushed, the majority arnt.
its no pressure to send her like this, i do make note of fashion items and steer clear if too popular, the boden spotted jacket is everywhere.

My dds are gorgeous
Actaully they are both blonde and blue eyed.
Strange when dh and i are darker haired.

Anyway, dd2 has recently started to choose what she wears and can look odd at times. She is 4. She likes t shirts and crppoed trousers. Sometimes dresses but not frills. Likes wellies a lot. And her baseball boots.

Dd1 is 7 and likes jeans or cropped trousers.
And t shirts.
She doesn't really like pink but everyone presumes that as she is female then she should wera pink .
She likes brown and green more. And blue.

Don't feel under pressure. Except from dd1.

Neither of them wear character stuff.

No more than with DS, but then she isn't yet 2. In fact usually she wears DS's clothes. But then if I'm honest I am rather glad that we have a stock of plain jeans and she doesn't have to wear horrible, horrible "jeans for girls" with yucky purple bits on them - do any of us wear jeans with purple embroidery?

To answer your op I don't want dd to look the best, but I want her to look as nice as her friends.

It can start early with girls. I remember when dd was about 3 or 4 that a girl told her she didn't want to play with her because she didn't wear pretty dresses. Dd was upset about it. The child's parents are lovely and would have been shocked to know their dd said that.

4 years later, dd and the other girl are still mates!

The thing is, I'd hate my daughters to wear pretty frocks and so on and so forth and look all cutesy-matchy. I love the fact that they look really quite scruffy-boho.

My DD is gorgeous (obviously)

BUT very scruffy and untidy looking regardless of what I dress her in. SHe is only a toddler though

Other little girls of similar age look neater and prettier in their pastel colours and pretty dresses (I've given up on pale colours and delicate clothing - it just gets ruined).

But DD has mad hair, a snotty dirty face (I do wash it) and invariably food stains on her clothes (v messy eater)

But my DD has puts on a mother's rose tinted glasses..the most personality

Yes, I know what you mean. Dd has one, maybe 2 summer dresses but fortunately the style she and her friends seem to have adopted is I think is called the skater look (?)

Ds likes his new school uniform but doesn't really care what he wears as long as he doesn't get too hot!

MI, dd2 has that dragged through a hedge backwards look but still manages to look good whatever she wears.

and my dd's are all gorgeous of course

i love dressing my dd up
she is 14 and generally looks rank atm until i get my hands on her
its like having a dolly

I spend lots of time and money on my daughter's look - but I also spend lots of time and money on my stepsons' look. I want them all to look gorgeous (and they do).

Frankly, I feel that as a harassed 45 year old I personally need all the pricey help I can get. My five and seven year olds have youth and loveliness on their sides. If anyone's going to be enhanced in the Inferiority Complex, it's moi.

I'm harassed and 46 and beyond even pricey help. So spend it on dd instead. And boy was that girl born to shop.

When my daughter was 4 she went out in pink socks with coloured dots, a pink skirt with white dots and a spotty cardigan another time she wore lots of different shades of pink with many patterns, nothing matched but she looked cute as she was 4.

MI - that's it entirely. They don't need expensive clothes to look gorgeous! Gorgeous kids look gorgeous in anything!

A bit at Anna8888's 'daughter's look' - my kids don't have a 'look' as such, they just wear whatever! THey still look beautiful.

i love buying clothes for dd, she's 3. and she mostly looks fabulous , even when she chooses her own clothes as most stuff pretty much goes together. i like buying clothes for me too. she isn't as keen on shopping though...

Can't be arsed to read the whole thread, but surely the whole "looking nicest" thing is subjective.

I dress DD in what are IMO the nicest clothes (usually vintagey / slightly hippy stuff). I think she looks divine as she cavorts around with her messy hair and hand-knitted jumpers.

Parents who like to dress their DDs in Bratz t-shirts and denim mini-skirts and white socks with patent-black shoes probably think their daughters look like the bees knees.

My dd1 went through a really annoying pink/barbie phase at age 3, before that I had dressed her in more tomboyish stuff, jeans and combats, cute t-shirts and practical dresses and leggings etc. -

Thankfully now she is 6 she has returned to her tomboy roots, and loves jeans and army trousers, and always looks a lovely gorgeous mess ! She has long blonde hair and wears glasses, and has a very cheeky little face.

Dd2 never ever liked pink girly stuff thank god, and is now 4, and insists it has to be jeans or shorts. I love taking them to h&m and letting them choose what they want cos it is all really lovely in there !

I know some mums of girls who dress them in pale pink pretty stuff constantly, not just for nice occassions, which puzzles me, particularly with toddlers, surely you have to stop them having fun and getting dirty to keep them looking that pristine ?

My DD is gorgeous, and I feel under NO pressure fashion wise- she is a little girl, not a model.
I do care about her appearance- hair neat (usually tied back for playing/eating, it's just easier); clothes without holes; clothes that fit well etc.

We do-
No pink
No logos
No character clothes

She's too young for tartz r us stuff yet, but she won't be wearing any when she is!

I on the other hand will have to scrub-up once she starts school... I would hate her to be embarrassed by my appearance, which is unkempt to say the least most days.

Hell yeah, DD always looks dapper but then so do I... I don't know how I will cope finanically when I've got two. (Some years away yet though)

This is a great thread.

Now, I know everyone on this thread thinks their dds are gorgeous, but mine really are. No, really. They are!

DD1 (8) has decided she is a tomboy. It's great. She had a non-uniform day today and went in black 3/4 length jersey trousers and a khaki t-shirt. I thought she looked cool! Her hair is very thick and wavy (blame me) and halfway through last year she had her long ash-blonde locks cut into a short (up to the hairline) bob. She loves it (and doesn't cry when it's brushed any more). It looks mad a lot of the time (I LOL-ed at ProfYaffle's post earlier - that's what DD1 does with hairbands too) but it suits her (she's a bit mad!). I am a fashion no-hoper, so there is no chance of her keeping up with the trendy kids at school (whose mums are at least 10 years younger than me too), so I'm glad she seems to be developing her own style.

DD2 is 6 and more girly. She likes party-dresses and bunches. I am hoping it's a phase and will pass! At least she has more manageable hair (straight) than DD1.

Mostly I don't care what they look like as long as they are vaguely clean. I try to encourage them to avoid clashing colours, but that's about it.

Anyway, it doesn't really matter what they wear because - did I mention? - they are both just naturally gorgeous...

I do take a lot of pride in Dd's appearance. probably more so than Ds's.
And yes i do feel smug when she lokos smarter/prettier/better dressed than her peers.

Actually, I've realised, I pretty well let my daughters dress themselves. I still have a fair degree of control over what they actually possess in terms of clothing, although I cheerily accept loads of hand me downs in any case (I did ditch the pink furry gilet). I've pretty well given up murmuring 'that doesn't go with that' in the mornings (they don't wear uniform to school, so choose their own clothes every day). And if I do, in any case, I tend to get an earful from DD2 about how SHE CAN DRESS HERSELF THIS WAY IF SHE WANTS TO.

Mostly, though, I like what they end up wearing. And in any case, my absolute smug assurance that they irradiate every room they enter with their own loveliness kind of overrules any possible qualms about the packaging of that loveliness.