Holiday with teens. Feel so alone.

[ItsNotLoveActually]

Am on holiday with two teens, one being my DS. I might as well be on my own. They don't get up til way gone midday, own room. DS's g/f acts like she resents I'm there at all. It's impossible to organise any trips due to their lateness/ignoring me. G/f sent my drink flying over me, my sunbed and dry clothes, didn't apologise and didn't even attempt to help clean it up. Nor did DS. I eventually got up and came back to my room, to cry.
I feel stupid for thinking this holiday was a good idea. I want to just say to them I'm done, do what you want and I'll do what I want but that seems childish. Argh, any ideas how to handle this?

What a horrible girl. I don't get the 'it's natural they want to spend time together, what did you expect' comments - yes of course its natural and of course they do, but if you resent your boyfriends mum being on holiday you either

a. suck it up and be polite (particularly if they've facilitated the holiday in any way) and recognise that on a holiday with one other person it's really fucking rude to exclude that other person. Or

b. don't go on holiday with her

You don't go on holiday with her and treat her like she isn't there.

And the drinks thing is a whole other level of rudeness.

Has she acted like an entitled cowbag at home as well OP? Have you or are you going to say anything to her at all? Not even 'are you not going to help me clear up your mess?'

A lesson learned. Either go alone with DC or you bring a friend too. For this holiday do your own thing.

Joan and Brian, are the grandparents surely. 😂

I wouldn’t have gone on holiday with just my ds and his gf, especially at their ages. But if I had I
would be making my own plans during the day if they weren’t being sociable, and leaving them to it till the evening. She sounds very rude, hopefully your son will outgrow her soon if she doesn’t improve her manners. It would be the first and last time I did this though.

She controls what he does at home, why would you (or he) think she’d be any different on holiday?

why is he allowing her this control in his life?

and why don’t you give her a piece of your mind for her rudeness?

She sounds very unpleasant, however I think expecting excursions was probably not going to happen with most kids that age (obviously not all but you already had reservations presumably). As a previous poster suggested, eating dinner together every day seems a good option.

I’d have told the girl that was unacceptable and if she acted like that she can pay her own way from now on or leave. Yes that would piss off your son but I’d look him in the eye and say you really think this is ok? You can go too. Really atrocious.

tbh if you get the impression she doesn't like you anyway, and she is already isolating him from friends?

Tell him that when you get back.,

@concertinacornflake "If the OP was not happy to be alone, she needed to ask a friend to join them."

If the son and girlfriend didn't want to spend any time in the OP's company, then they shouldn't have accepted a free holiday with her. Life is a two way street. Being 18 years old doesn't give you a free pass to be bloody nasty and unkind.

I'd book some excursions for yourself and view it as a mostly solo holiday. It's not your fault.

You are thinking of England. Most Scottish schools are on holiday at the moment for example.

As others have said OP this is a weird holiday dynamic unless you have a relationship where the gf is like a daughter to you - which clearly is not the case from her side! It's basically taking you mum on a romantic first couples holiday in their eyes.