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At a loss for what to do, co parent retracting consent for flu jabs for 3rd year in a row.

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Fluwtf · 15/10/2026 09:15

Hi, hope you can offer some advice. I have 2 DC (5 and 7) and co parent 50/50 with my ex. Medical appointments and the like are always left to me to sort and that’s always been the case. Today for the 3rd year in a row, my ex has called the kids primary school to refuse consent for the flu vaccine for both children. When the form came out in July to consent for the flu jab, I text ex (as I have done every year) and asked for a conversation about why I think they should have the vaccine. I was ignored and I never followed it up with him so I consented a few weeks later to them being vaccinated. I had a call from the school this morning (vaccination day) to say Dad has phoned last night and doesn’t want them vaccinated. What can I do. I am immunocompromised, I have an elderly parent with many health issues, this doesn’t just directly benefit my kids to have the vaccine but so much wider family too. I can take them to get it done through the GP but they will tell their dad and all hell will break loose.

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LizandDerekGoals · 18/10/2026 12:44

ApiratesaysYarrr · 18/10/2026 11:02

In most cases for immunocompromised individuals the advice is for them to have the flu vaccine. I prescribe a lot of immune suppressing medicines and we advise our patients to have the flu vaccine yearly. Even people having chemotherapy are advised to have the flu vaccine, although a specific time in the chemo regime may be recommended.

My immunocompromised chaeomtherpay patient dad had all the vaccines. He couldnt be around my children for a couple of days when they had theirs though. The nurse phoned me every year to remind me.

JohnofWessex · 18/10/2026 13:58

Following on from a comment I made that orders on divorce should carry the enforcement mechanism may I suggest that there is a case for changing the law so that either parent can consent to vaccinations etc & while the other parent can still object the process needs to be more involved and not just 'No because I say so'

Mandaxx25 · 18/10/2026 16:10

The flu jab does nothing. All the information is out there so maybe, look at it? It protects you from nothing but has a whole host of side effects that can affect you and your kids for years to come. It won't do anything for your immunocompromisation.
I'm tired of people ignoring everything they've been shown.

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Tryagain26 · 18/10/2026 17:04

Mandaxx25 · 18/10/2026 16:10

The flu jab does nothing. All the information is out there so maybe, look at it? It protects you from nothing but has a whole host of side effects that can affect you and your kids for years to come. It won't do anything for your immunocompromisation.
I'm tired of people ignoring everything they've been shown.

Don't be ridiculous if course it offers protection and I don't know anyone who has had side effects from it

AlwayAnxious · 18/10/2026 17:46

Mandaxx25 · 18/10/2026 16:10

The flu jab does nothing. All the information is out there so maybe, look at it? It protects you from nothing but has a whole host of side effects that can affect you and your kids for years to come. It won't do anything for your immunocompromisation.
I'm tired of people ignoring everything they've been shown.

Ofcourse it offers protection

Lemieux7 · 18/10/2026 18:38

Mandaxx25 · 18/10/2026 16:10

The flu jab does nothing. All the information is out there so maybe, look at it? It protects you from nothing but has a whole host of side effects that can affect you and your kids for years to come. It won't do anything for your immunocompromisation.
I'm tired of people ignoring everything they've been shown.

What’s your peer reviewed evidence for this?

ElonAteMyHamster · 21/10/2026 22:54

Mandaxx25 · 18/10/2026 16:10

The flu jab does nothing. All the information is out there so maybe, look at it? It protects you from nothing but has a whole host of side effects that can affect you and your kids for years to come. It won't do anything for your immunocompromisation.
I'm tired of people ignoring everything they've been shown.

How are people like this allowed to vote?? 😩 Fuck me the ignorance is terrifying 😳😳

CatSquirrelDuck · 22/10/2026 10:48

Mandaxx25 · 18/10/2026 16:10

The flu jab does nothing. All the information is out there so maybe, look at it? It protects you from nothing but has a whole host of side effects that can affect you and your kids for years to come. It won't do anything for your immunocompromisation.
I'm tired of people ignoring everything they've been shown.

Clueless, absolutely clueless

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