Morning! I have a brilliant 10 year old boy and I wanted to ask for some honest, unfiltered feedback from others and how I can manage this stage better.
Hes a very sporty boy, quite bright, has some good friends. But is incredibly irritable, can often be rude, bad tempered and unkind to his sister. He will lose his patience regularly and doesn’t like things not going his way. This will result in a bit of a shouty, stompy few moments but it’s over very quickly. We’re always very clear that rude, unkind behaviour is not acceptable or a good way to handle things. We will discuss, try to repair etc but it’ll happen again.
he can be incredibly kind and thoughtful. He’s very sensitive and thinks a lot but does come across as disinterested and quite unfriendly a lot of the time. For this reason I worry constantly about how he is perceived or if he will say something that offends or upsets. I’m very aware I worry way too much and am also aware that my worries probably rub off onto him which I struggle massively with.
hes so very different from his older sister. At the moment I find the way he talks to us, his lack of willingness to make an effort at school etc very draining. It makes me sad that all he really wants to do at home is play on his PlayStation or watch YouTube. He is regularly out at various sports but when he’s home I can’t get him interested in anything else.
i worry about him a lot. Whilst he has friends at school he’s very rarely invited on play dates etc. I think other parents don’t especially warm to him which makes me sad.
i find parenting him very very difficult. 😞 he dows have autistic traits and we have gone back and forth over the years about whether to get an assessment but I feel that, for him, I don’t think it would be a positive thing. I may be wrong about that but I’ve always felt that just understanding him and helping him understand himself will work better than a diagnosis.
anyway, not sure what I’m asking but I just wanted to know if any of this feels familiar. thanks for reading x