Didn't know where to post this.
so my daughter is 10 (11 in September)
this is her second year she has been in 11+ 1-1 tuition.
she has been doing well, we have registered her for to take the exam this upcoming September.
me and my husband have never forced her into the tuition or taking the exam, when we noticed she was quite academic and enjoyed learning and school we talked about grammar school and when she was old enough we asked her if she would like to try the tuition and see how it goes, but that she isn’t being forced and she could stop whenever she didn’t want to do it or felt like it was to much for her.
she has been doing well and this is her 2nd year, the only problem she has is she is quite slow ( takes time to work things out etc) even though she has been doing well with the learning she struggles with managing the time. If I remember rightly in parts of the exam she has about 9 minutes to answer 22 questions, and it has now been changed, they used to do the entire paper at once and now it has been split into sections and some sections only have about 30 seconds to answer the question.
she recently did her first mock test, she only scored 37% and missed out 30 questions. Her tuition teacher didn’t tell my daughter her results from the mock and instead pulled me to one side and said she thought it was best we didn’t tell my daughter because she doesn’t want her to feel “devalued”.
when my daughter left from the exam that day she said she did find it extremely difficult in the sense she really struggled with the time and missed out so many questions because she didn’t have enough time.
my daughter knew something wasn’t right because the tuition teacher told her she would tell her her results but she instead told me.
she asked me to tell her, her results so I did and she got very upset and said she feels like it’s to much pressure and that she feels we are disappointed with her.
it’s been a week since her test and she’s still down about it, she’s been going through a lot at school as well with an issue of a girl being mean. I have been feeling awful but we decided that she would take the next mock test in a month or so and see how that goes. I asked her today to be honest with me and she said that she really doesn’t feel like she wants to do this anymore or go ahead and take the exam, that she’s very tired and she feels it’s to much pressure.
I honestly don’t know what to do for the best, I want to respect her wishes but at the same time I don’t want her to just give up easily. I don’t know whether she should finish the next mock and see what her results are and if she’s still at this mark then to leave it, or because she’s come this far to just let her sit the exam ( she’s due to take it this September). Or whether we should just take her out and not let her take the test and just put her back into normal tuition.
what would you do?
we do live in a area with good secondary schools, that’s not the issue.
she is currently doing a lot, learning Arabic after school 5 days a week for an hour, on top of schooling and then on Saturday’s 1 and a half hours 11 plus tuition. I feel like an awful mum and like this is all my fault for suggesting this.