Moving 8 week old to own room or keep beside me?

[SpookyTeacup]

I'm torn. DD is 8 weeks old and sleeping through the night. I've been contemplating moving her into her own room as I feel like I'm disturbing her. Shes in a next to me bed with the sides up, but migrates towards me during the night which results in her smushing her face up the fabric side and I'm awake all night terrified she's gonna suffocate herself. No matter how many times I move her back to the middle, or the opposite end, or put her at an angle, she manages to find her way back. She sleeps through the night and is able to self soothe back to sleep if she does briefly wake up. No crying, just some leg kicking and a few grunts.

She slept in her own room last night (with her grandma) and stayed in the middle all night and happily slept through. I'm wondering if I'm interrupting her sleep and if she'll be better in her own cot, but then the guidelines worry me thinking I'm going to kill her if I put her in there under 6 months.

Either way I feel like a bad mum.

I wouldn’t move her, but find an alternative.

Can you fit the cot in your room temporarily?

Can you put a mattress in her room for you to sleep on?

Its a full size cot and our room isn't big enough. There's a single blow up bed in her room currently that grandma slept on last night

I have a 9 week old and I personally wouldn’t move them into their own room unless I’m sleeping in the same room.
Does her cot fit in your room or is there room for a spare bed or something similar to go into her room for you to sleep on?

Would she still be able to shuffle around but without you being aware?

She’s tiny. I wouldn’t. You’ve said that she settles back to sleep so imo it’s better to disturb her by moving her back.

I absolutely wouldn’t move into own room at 8 weeks unless you are also going to sleep in her room, risk of SIDS in own room vs a disturbed nights sleep in your room is a no brainer.

I wouldnt, sharing a room is shown as one of the things to prevent SIDS. And honestly that night sleep won’t last-you want to be in the same room to get to her when she starts waking more! Could you use a full size travel cot instead?

I definitely wouldn't.

And I don’t see how you’re disturbing her if she sleeps through? If she’s disturbing you; wear earplugs.

I really really wouldn’t put a baby that young in their own room. Also my third baby slept through the night week 2 to maybe 18 weeks old and then transitioned to more normal baby waking sleep. So just because she can sleep through the night now doesn’t necessarily mean she will continue to do so

8 weeks is too young. She won't necessarily sleep through the night from now on and the recommendation is 6 months due to SIDS risk as already stated^^

I know it's not recommended and when I read your title I said fuck no. But then I remembered that our twins were discharged at just over 7 weeks and went straight in their cots next door, as we couldn't fit a cot in whatsoever. I know fine we'll there's great guidance around this though. As a parent now, with an even smaller bedroom, would I do it? No I don't think I would

I had something similar with my son - I actually just moved the cot a couple of feet further away and it seemed to calm him, I think he could jsut smell my milk

There's been times I've moved her and woken her up. I also think shes moving as she can smell my milk.

Im open to suggestions! I can't move her cot further away (its already against the only wall available; bed is against one, one has a radiator and one has a fitted unit) BUT I can try swapping sides with DH, see if that stops her pushing her face against the side of her bed. There's also the suggestion of me moving into her room on a blow up bed.

I do pump during the night so she is constantly monitored throughout the night.

I’d be put off my the risk of SIDS. and it sorry OP but it probably wont be long until a sleep regression hits and baby is no longer sleeping through the night!

Nope I wouldn't at all.

Swapping sides with your Dh seems to be the most sensible solution

If you want to be in a different room then let the dad sleep in room with baby.

Moving into her room with her is the only decent option. It’s better to have bad sleep than to increase your risk of SIDS by moving her into her own room alone.

OP one of the theories about why being in a room with a parent is protective against SIDS is precisely because the baby is disturbed/can sense the parents’ movement and breathing and it stops the baby from falling into a deep sleep. Your baby is behaving completely normally for an 8 week old. It’s obviously your choice but the guidance is there for a reason and it is very clear that babies should not sleep alone until 6 months.

Next to you. She's sleeping through; the fabric is breathable. If it's bothering you, swap sides with DH, but it may be that she's sleeping through because she can smell you and feels safe...

But keep her in with you. She needs to be there for a pretty long time yet, she's still using your breathing and heart sounds.

Or swapping sides with DH makes sense too, I missed that one, why not just do that?

Isn't the SIDS risk not just about you monitoring the baby but that your breathing helps to regulate theirs?

An 8 week old sleeping through is so rare. Keep her close to you, she’s meant to wake here and there. Don’t move her away from you. Such a bad idea.

Keep next to you. You are disturbing her and that’s important - it’s the constant engagement with your sounds/smells etc overnight that prevents SIDs.

Op could you but her crib at the bottom of your bed?

I really wouldn't put her in her own room. You've brought back memories of my DC2 waking me up being sick. He never cried but some how I heard him. I'd never have heard him in another room. DH asked why I rocketed out of bed, he was oblivious to baby being sick.