If you could choose, would you prefer boys, girls or mix of both?

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Just being nosy really, I have noticed a slight preference amongst my friends and family for having baby girls. I have one of each but thinking back to my younger self I probably would have chose to have all girls.
If you could have chose the sex of your children what would you have picked?

I’ve also noticed a massive preference for girls, but I’ve only ever discussed it with women - suspect most men would prefer boys so would even it out.

I always wanted a mix and have one of each so feel very lucky. Now pregnant with DC3 and genuinely have no preference, though interestingly both DS and DD would like a brother.

I wouldn’t care but it must be the same sex. All boys or all girls. I think kids bond better with their own sex and with one of each you are in danger of doing separate things as a family.

2 girls here. It’s fine and only one person asked me if I was disappointed when the second was a girl (DM fairly predictably)
They have very different tastes so not as much clothes sharing as I had hoped and we’re often split doing completely different activities with them both.
I suspect it’s not that dissimilar to having one of each tbh

Strongly disagree. ThThe only way you are in danger of doing different things as a family, and of reducing your dcs' ability to bond with each other, is if you enforce gender stereotypes or show favouritism. That's simply parenting.

I’ve got one of each and my Ds was definitely easier. The drama that comes with teenage girls is on a totally different level! I do appreciate that not all boys are easier but the general consensus between myself and my friends who have at least one of each leans towards boys.

I also disagree @Applecup - just because your kids are the same sex doesn’t mean they’ll like the same things? My sister has 3 boys and they all do different sports from each other (one of which my DD does, but my DS does not). Conversely, both my DS and DD love music and drama and I’ve been able to send them to the same holiday clubs since the younger one started reception. It’s totally personality dependent.

It goes without saying I love youngest DD but I do think a DS would have been easier with two DSs already. Now they are all getting older, the differences are getting more noticeable.

Having said that my DSs are quite different so maybe it wouldn’t be hugely easier.

Mix of both

I have a mix but would have loved all girls!

In nearly 20 years of being on here, I have never seen a ‘gender disappointment’ thread when the babies in question are girls.

Never.

Have one of each, happy with that, would have been happy with 2 girls, would have found 2 boys “not ideal” but mainly because I come from a massively female- heavy family line - my family was very matriarchal- so I had no experience of male children really before I had DS. Even when I was a kid myself I only had close male friends when I got to 16 or so. It wasn’t that I think boys are lesser but that I didn’t really understand them.

I wouldn’t care. I have both but I just wanted children with my partner. Boys or girls, they were always going to be the best people ever! 😅 They’ve always been really close to each other and all think of each other as their best friends now they’re older.

When I was younger I definitely wanted boys as I’ve always naturally bonded with boys better, but as I got older I wanted girls.

I now have 3 girls.

I know Boys aren’t all the same, but when I go to kids parties, the majority of boys are going absolutely wild. Jumping on things they shouldn’t, bashing into each other, pushing each other, running around 100mph & generally being far more boisterous, as you would expect. Obviously not all of them though, but that’s why I’m glad I don’t have boys

I have two of each and they are fab.

Before I had children my ideal was 2 girls and a boy. I ended up having 2 boys and I wouldn't change anything, am so lucky that they were them. Of course, am sure I would have loved whatever combination I had.

A mix, which is what I got!

You're going to get all for girls on mumsnet, if you ask the dad they all want sons.

How weird to think this. My 4 are young adults and love doing all sorts of the same thing and always have. We've never gone for gender stereotype bollocks though.

I have two boys and one girl, happy with my lot but if I could I would just have one boy and one girl, three was too much for me.

Absolutely disagree. I have two boys and one girl, the girl and one boy are very close

I dont have kids but if i did and could choose id want boys only.

Have One of each , perfect for me

my son was a very calm toddler and not boisterous at all ... my daughter on the other hand is definitely more of a handful

I always thought I’d like all girls (probably because I’m from a family of girls). Having had girls and boys, I’d choose both!

Genuinely had no preference and I ended up with one of each. I’ve been through multiple miscarriages and IVF so just felt lucky to have two healthy babies honestly, but even before IVF I never dreamed of having a girl or having a boy in the way some people seem to.

So true.