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If you could choose, would you prefer boys, girls or mix of both?

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Aintitfunlivingintherealworld · 24/03/2026 19:12

Just being nosy really, I have noticed a slight preference amongst my friends and family for having baby girls. I have one of each but thinking back to my younger self I probably would have chose to have all girls.
If you could have chose the sex of your children what would you have picked?

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Endofyear · 24/03/2026 22:32

I never had a preference, I have 5 boys (men now!) and they're lush, my favourite people in the world ☺️ I'm sure I'd have been just as happy with girls or a mix of both though!

1990sMum · 24/03/2026 22:33

I have 3 of each, which in my experience is perfect

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 24/03/2026 22:34

Starbri8 · 24/03/2026 20:59

My husband was thrilled when we had girls. He was proud as punch taking them out in their pram , I hardly got a look in I used to try and wrestle it off him 😂 he used to joke go and get your own !

😆 That sounds so cute! 😘

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LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 24/03/2026 22:35

1990sMum · 24/03/2026 22:33

I have 3 of each, which in my experience is perfect

Ooooh, big family Christmases! Grin

whomadethatmess · 24/03/2026 22:44

Mix of both. I think it would be better for everyone if we all grew up in mixed families.

thirtyfourpercent · 24/03/2026 22:46

I always wanted boys and had two. Not once have I wished otherwise.

AnxiousBoo · 24/03/2026 23:32

I’ve said boys, but I feel I’m cheating as I know that they are the world’s best kept secret. ❤️

TheMoonAndTheSun · 24/03/2026 23:34

I have 2 boys and 2 girls, whilst I am happy and people always tell me how lucky I am, secretly if I had it my way I would have had all girls.

Jambags · 25/03/2026 00:04

After my mum died when I was a teenager I just knew I wanted a daughter in part so we could create memories in the way my mum did with me but because I wanted to see the mother daughter relationship from that lens.
Now having our DD Before we found out her gender though I did really have to do alot of inner work to try and push back as much of the potential gender disappointment as I could and be realistic that even if it was to be a son I was still so blessed. But finding out she was a girl was one of the most cathartic moments of my life. Now having a daughter though I have thought if it were to happen again I'd love a son. We shan't try especially however 😂

Usernamenotfound1 · 25/03/2026 09:33

BurningOutt · 24/03/2026 20:57

@Usernamenotfound1 I also have one of each and generally speaking there are differences between little boys and little girls - of course not every child will fit the stereotype and of course parenting does play a role, but there are innate differences and they are apparent in every group setting where there are large numbers of kids of both sexes, and it’s not really helpful to say that there aren’t.

There is no way to tell what behaviours are innate and what is socialisation. Yes as children get older there are differences and those differences become more obvious. Children form groups on commonality, so do split into boy/girl.

we subconsciously treat boys and girls differently right from conception. I remember saying something about my bump and someone saying “that’s boys for you”.

my girl was my second child. She had a lot of hand me downs, and very little hair, so was usually assumed to be a boy. The amount of times I got told that she was “such a boy” for doing x or y, and that boys all do that, etc etc. those behaviours clearly weren’t “innate” to boys, because she wasn’t. People just assumed.

The bbc gender experiment shows how we treat even very young babies by gender, even when we think we don’t:

Listlostlast · 25/03/2026 09:36

If you’d have asked me and said I HAD to choose before I had children, or after my first, a son, I’d have said I’d choose all boys, but that ultimately I didn’t give a fuck, I just wanted children. Then I had my daughter, and she’s fucking fantastic too, unsurprisingly. So the no preference stance was genuine I guess!

FallenNight · 25/03/2026 09:37

I would have said one of each originally. But have two the same, never had any disappointment they are both utterly brilliant and totally different in both character and appearance. One advantage is passing down school uniform. But can't pass down other clothes as their tastes are so different. As are their toy choices and activities.

raretulip · 25/03/2026 09:40

middleagedandinarage · 24/03/2026 21:48

I have 2 girls and am happy with that, I never had a sister and am very glad DD's have each other.
I do think deep down mums want girls and dads want boys.

No not true, I also know Mums who had girls first, who wanted a boy second time round and I also have known Dads who wanted a daughter second time around. I would say one of each is the most sought after in my experience.

DemonsandMosquitoes · 25/03/2026 09:51

For me, one of each. Though, having had two the same now 23 and 21 this has absolutely been the best outcome for them as individuals.
Interestingly, men are more likely to leave the family unit if their offspring are solely female. A male forum would read very differently.

TinselandTiarasRightNow · 25/03/2026 09:52

Wanted a boy and had one. Many boys i know do more for their parents than girls. I grew up with an unpleasant mother and sister so I wanted a boy!

Vez79 · 25/03/2026 11:54

I have two girls but I honestly, hand on heart, had absolutely no preference. I was excited at the prospect of having either sex - just a child! All combinations have their qualities.

YourSassyPanda · 25/03/2026 15:58

DemonsandMosquitoes · 25/03/2026 09:51

For me, one of each. Though, having had two the same now 23 and 21 this has absolutely been the best outcome for them as individuals.
Interestingly, men are more likely to leave the family unit if their offspring are solely female. A male forum would read very differently.

Anecdotally all the single parent families I know have girls only. Clearly not a study in itself however!

MyMilchick · 25/03/2026 15:59

I have one of each and I love that, they're both great

Rituelec · 25/03/2026 16:21

TheMoonAndTheSun · 24/03/2026 23:34

I have 2 boys and 2 girls, whilst I am happy and people always tell me how lucky I am, secretly if I had it my way I would have had all girls.

Yep. This! I hope I get lots of granddaughters but would love them all regardless.

nopenotplaying · 25/03/2026 16:41

I have 3 boys and 2 girls, they are all different and none of them fit some of the stereotypes people describe. I hate this type of question, it’s like asking which child do you like/love more. Some people struggle to have one child I don’t think they would care about the sex!

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