If you could choose, would you prefer boys, girls or mix of both?

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Just being nosy really, I have noticed a slight preference amongst my friends and family for having baby girls. I have one of each but thinking back to my younger self I probably would have chose to have all girls.
If you could have chose the sex of your children what would you have picked?

Have two girls and I love it! They want girls too and I've had to break it to them they might get boys...

I have one of each, and I love both. But little boys make me feel broke broodier. Their little welly boots and energy, just reminds me of my son. I always say when women feel disappointed about not having a girl, you could have a girl like me, or like my daughter, who loves mud, mess, swearing, farting and will always look like they were dragged through a hedge backwards!

Before I had my first child, I didn’t really have a preference. But assumed I’d have a girl because I’m from a large family of girls. But I had a boy. And now I have 3 of them.

I absolutely love it and would choose that every time.

Before and in earliest pregnancy I had a bit of a preference for a girl.
But I strongly felt that my baby was a boy, and being proved right and just loving life with boys, if I could make a choice again it would be a boy.

Not big on gender stereotypes.

i think a tiny part of me wanted a girl before ds, maybe feeling that we’d have more shared experiences. I adored him from the second he was born and I found out he was a boy though. I’m now so thrilled to have a son and feel that we have learnt so much together and that maybe I’ve grown more in my perspective on life than with my dd (big age gap).

With dd, I was happy either way - either she was a boy and potentially would have more in common with ds (and dp) or she’d be a girl and I’d have the experience of mum to a girl. I knew whatever happened she’d be her own person and I think that’s the important thing to remember with all kids, their sex is just one aspect of them as a whole brand new person.

dp has said a lot of his male friends wanted boys, I assume to feel they had more in common.

I have 1 girl and I love the bond we have. It shouldn't matter but I love the fact I've got my own mini me.

Before I had my children, I had a slight preference. I didn’t find out when pregnant in case I was disapppinted. When I had my children, the best feeling was not actually caring what they were, but that they were healthy, loved and needed to be here.

I think I’m a bit unusual in terms of what is usually seen on MN and heard in general conversations because I didn’t especially want a girl. I saw myself as a mum to two or three boys.

But what I got was one of each and I now can’t imagine having it any other way.

You could … but that misses the point that for a lot of women it isn’t about the pink and the bows on bald baby girls and the unicorns and rainbows. It’s something deeper than that and very, very hard to explain because when you try to you get lots of ‘well MY ds / DH / brother …’

I did want a daughter, not because I care especially about her interests (at the moment it’s a fairly eclectic range - dinosaurs, Elsa and unicorns all feature and I’d expect nothing less at almost two and three quarters) but I suppose for other, more visceral reasons.

I think most people feel like that in the end.

I have a boy and twin girls. I never had any preferences.

I guess a mix of both because that's what I ended up with.

I didn't want children except for the small window I fell pregnant in, so I have one girl, I only wanted a girl and it never seriously occured to me that I might not have a girl, I just kind of knew she was. But it's not really for any reason other than that I'd only ever had experience caring for girl babies and children, so I felt comfortable with it. I don't doubt I would have been over the moon with a boy if I'd had one.

I know so so many people who also only have one girl.

So do I @usedtobeaylis . I do wonder if they got what they wanted first time so don’t feel the need to have a second.

I always wanted two boys and a girl. Then I had my DD and wanted a sister for her - but my next was DS and then DH decided he was done. I think I will always slightly wish for the third I didn’t have, but I’m happy with my two. They’re great kids. And tbf DS would have made a horrible middle child.

I can honestly say I’ve never noticed this. DH is just as likely to do stuff with DD as I am DS. Tbf neither kid is particularly gender stereotypical!

I have 2 girls and am happy with that, I never had a sister and am very glad DD's have each other.
I do think deep down mums want girls and dads want boys.

I’ve really enjoyed being the mum of 3 boys. I didn’t particularly want girls, really only because I was an emotional difficult child, and I dreaded having a mini me!! My boys have all been straight forward thank goodness.

Younger me would have said girls because I grew up in such a matriarchal family. All girls, dad not around and mostly around aunties and female cousins. I honestly felt like I would know how to parent a boy.

I have 1 of each now and I’ve realised it’s more about personality than it is sex. So mature me would say mix as I’ve loved seeing the difference. And maybe even unlearning some misconceptions I’ve had.

Boys. Source: I’ve met teenage girls.

I have a mix. I adore my sons and daughter all the same, I also never had a preference, but I would have chosen to have a mix if it was a choice.

I would have always had a slight preference for girls but wasn’t really fussed so long as I had one dd. Now I have 2ds and one dd. I am close with all my kids and love them equally and wouldn’t change them but I know I will always be close with my dd, ds it’s not certain and I could easily be an over involved mother in law if my DIL isn’t keen on how close we are and I know I will back off as a MIL should. Dd would never want me to back off, we have too many interests in common and if a man told her she’s too close to her mother her attitude would be he’s not the right man for her

I only ever wanted boys and ended up with 2. They are amazing young men and I've never had a second of pining for a daughter.

I have an older boy and a younger girl and it’s my dream combo.

Not all of us no. Please take a moment to think of what my beautiful much longed for son would feel if one day he reads this 'all' Mums actually want a girl nonsense. He isn't a consolation prize, he his my joy. I had absolutely no preference but my baby doll when I was little was a boy (well it was a sexless doll) but I gave it a boys name and ask my nan to knit blue clothes for it so I must have liked the idea of having a boy when I was a girl.

Nope.

I never wanted a girl just because I'm a woman. I never had a preference.

DH actually wanted a girl.