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Is it okay for the mother to leave the home without the children?

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PeachViewer · 08/03/2026 08:34

In need of some advice!!
little backstory:
Was with the kids dad for 7 years. Kids age are 3 and 1.
We split in December 25 and have been living together ever since but he’s mentally draining me. Constantly making nasty little comments about when I go out and see my friends especially males! He doesn’t want to become a weekend parent so Ive been thinking about becoming the weekend parent. He’s a brilliant dad just not a very good partner. I always have been the stay at home mum until recently before we split I had to go to work as he didn’t want to change his job and didn’t see the pit we was in. I was doing part time but have recently taken on full time, I absolutely love work! Right now it’s the only thing that getting me up in the morning. I have something called emotional unstable personality disorder. Which I’m having a lot of bad days where I can’t deal with the kids and I know I’d struggle and crumble like hell.
So I’m stuck on whether I should move out and leave the kids with him, see them every other week and weekend? Or, Do I quit work and become the stay at home mum again and kick him out for good?
Any advice would be appreciated!!

OP posts:
AmandaBrotzman · 08/03/2026 10:36

PeachViewer · 08/03/2026 10:21

He’s is being reasonable, we have both said we don’t want the toxic co parenting.

my family are very much against it. Making me feel like I’m giving up on them and abandoning them when I just want them to have the best and happiest mum possible and right now I’m not that.

Many people will judge you for doing what men do every day and leaving the main carer to be the non resident parent. This is pure misogyny frankly and if it's the right thing for your children then it's nobody's business.

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