Does anyone else feel judged no matter what they do?

[Neurodiversemom]

Whether it’s screen time, bedtimes, food, or routines...it feels like you can’t win. How do you stop it from getting under your skin?

Yes, I definitely feel judged and it's not surprising. Mothers are judged constantly. If you keep your eyes and ears open you will see that judgement of mothers is literally everywhere.
The posters who are saying "no, I don't feel judged, and if you do then you need therapy" are either oblivious or just don't care about other people's opinions (which is great for them). But being aware of the constant judgement of mothers definitely doesn't mean you need therapy!
There's nothing wrong with you OP, and you're not imagining things. But remember that people will have opinions no matter what you do, and this realisation is very freeing: you can do whatever you think is right, and you don't need to explain, justify or provide scientific evidence for it.

No, what are you doing that means others judge you?

Only when I tell people about these things, stopped talking about them - stopped feeling judged,

I don't think anyone except my husband knows anything deep about my kids bedtimes, routines, food or screentimes

It’s mostly DH’s side of the family. They’re close enough to see how we parent, but not always supportive, and that’s where the judgement tends to creep in. It’s often subtle comments framed as “concern” or “advice” but it still lands as criticism.

My own friends and family don’t judge, but the in-law dynamic can be a very different story.

Thankyou, I think this is what I really needed to hear.

With kindness, who is judging or who do you think is judging you? I don’t think anyone would know mine and my LO’s routine or screen time or what food they eat.
In my experience the people who are passing the judgement are the people who are the least secure in their own decisions.

No, actually. I’m sure people have opinions about my parenting, but I’m confident that I’m a good mum, raising good, happy, kind kids the best way I know how. That’s all that matters to me.