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19.5 months - no words at all - not even mama

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Ringatingg · 28/01/2026 11:48

Hi all,

Just come back from HV assessment and very worried about my son. He’s not ‘bad’
Enough to be referred for speech therapy as he signs and communicates through gestures and pointing but he is not saying or attempting a single word.

He seems so with it in every other way but doesn’t not want to even to try to
Make an animal noise yet will happily do the signs.

It’s great he has signs and that he can communicate in his own way but I do worry as each month goes by and still no words that it’ll be so hard to ever catch up and therefore affect him socially and emotionally.

I’m also worried there may be another condition like axpraxia or selective mutism…. But it’s so hard to tell at this early age.

Anyone else have a child who simply didn’t say any words at all at this age.
He also can be very shy in front of other people, likes to take his time with stuff, can be sensitive to loud, sudden sounds such a laughing and screams a high pitched shriek if this happens.

When we go to playgroups and classes he enjoys interacting with other kids in his own way and focusses well on any of the activities, copying any of the physical actions etc… he also starting to enjoy imaginary play

OP posts:
NJJT · 04/06/2026 23:00

@Namingbaba yes I really need to stop that..although my algorithm serves me up plenty and it is really getting in on me.
@ExplodingSmittens thank you for the sensible advice.

AsparagusSeason · 04/06/2026 23:03

I have 2 nephews who were 3 before they spoke and even then, it was incomprehensible. I also have a great nephew was selectively mute until 6.

All of them caught up and developed perfectly normally.

ExplodingSmittens · 04/06/2026 23:09

NJJT · 04/06/2026 23:00

@Namingbaba yes I really need to stop that..although my algorithm serves me up plenty and it is really getting in on me.
@ExplodingSmittens thank you for the sensible advice.

No problem. Can I give you a bit more? each month I sit down and actively curate my SM. So search for things that are positive, like and follow. Whether that’s things like “easy activities with your toddler”, “Montessori at 21 months”, “things to do outside with your toddler”. Just google anything that isn’t about ASD basically and try and focus on enjoying your Summer together. You can still fill in the Ages & Stages and talk to your HV but hopefully curating your SM will stop you going down a rabbit hole in the internet and distracting you from the pleasure of the here and now Flowers

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