Is this teacher banter ok?

[cheesysitwots]

My friend’s daughter was spraying perfume in class. The teacher jokingly said “come on now put it away, no one cares what you smell like right now”. I think the teacher was managing the situation without a power struggle but my friend thinks differently.

what are your thoughts?

And? That's it? That's the end??

@friedeggrunny you're telling everyone they we all have to agree and come to terms with the teacher being a dick.
Unless you mean ‘except’. 🙂

That’s not banter - just stating a fact. Nobody is interested in what she smells like. She should be ticked off by her Mum for messing about with it in lesson time.

Nothing wrong with what the teacher said. The daughter was in the wrong for spraying perfume in a lesson. I'm guessing your friend will be telling off the teacher not her dd though 🙄

And the issue is what exactly?

What did your friend expect?

Am I missing something ???

What kind of parent thinks it's OK for a student to be spraying perfume/ body spray in a classroom?
It's worrying to have that level of entitled parent.

Is it the first time in her life that the kid had been told not to do something?

She must be traumatised.

I pray for that teacher's sake (and all his/her colleagues) your friend doubles down and pulls her DD out to homeschool, because I guarantee the dd and your friend are absolute nightmares.

My thoughts are that this isn't "banter" at all and an entirely innocuous way of reprimanding the child. Spraying perfume in class is very poor behaviour and that would be what I suggest your friend focusses on rather than the precise phrase used by the teacher to intervene. I should think a lot of teachers would have been a lot crosser with her and less conciliatory in their response.

Why is a child wearing perfume? It's not needed as long as they're washing each day and have clean clothes.

I wouldn’t call this banter and yes- sounds completely normal thing for a teacher to say.

Good grief. Is your friend seriously questioning this? Why aren't they stepping up and being a responsible parent and telling their child they should be concentrating in a lesson rather than messing around with perfume and disrupting other people's learning? Or is there some massive drip feed?

Is the mum worried her DD smells bad and the teacher was referencing that? Otherwise no idea what could be wrong with it.

Now if they had said that's lovely perfume Ann, come to my office after school and you can tell me all about it, with a wink. It would be worth discussing!

Exactly the same here! 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣

OP- it’s a complete non-issue.

🤣

That's acceptable.

Haha, our teachers would’ve said exactly this, but we’re not allowed to say things like this anymore 😀

Why did she even take perfume to school? In a glass bottle? Ridiculous.

Oh yeah wow sack the teacher!
Spraying perfume in class (I remember it well from school) is one of the most antisocial things you can do and the teacher was being very restrained.

What precisely is your problem with it OP? I’d have been far far harsher on this undoubtedly stupid teenage girl.

Standard response

What’s the problem?

I sincerely hope your friend isn’t going to kick up a fuss. Teachers need to teach, not deal with justifying perfectly acceptable interactions when a child is behaving poorly and without consideration to others.

Nothing wrong with this comment. I am a teacher. Far better to say this than berate her for having perfume out. The original comment would have the desired effect, whereas telling her off could result in.conflict. I'm a teacher it's tiring having to flip from person to .person with.personalised reactions. One size does not got all.

Same.