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I'm finding it difficult to hold my baby

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StephOh · 22/08/2025 17:02

My son is 3 months old on the 5th of September. When he was weighed at the beginning of August he was 5.8kg and his height was 61cm. I'm 5'3.

For the last 2 weeks or so, I have been struggling with holding him for too long. It doesn't matter if I'm sitting or standing with him. I have tried different baby carriers, but they make no difference. I had to stop breastfeeding and use a bottle because it's too difficult and painful to hold him for that long.

Burping him is difficult as he wiggles around too much and throws his body around in the process. I've tried different burping positions, but it's the same result.

Everything hurts! My knees are killing me and so is my back. I feel like my knees are going to collapse soon. Especially when I'm going up and down the stairs. I spoke with my doctor and he said it's to be expected, but to try and elevate my legs when I can't do and to take paracetamol for the pain. Paracetamol doesn't do much for me.

I have some friends who can help now and then, but not all the time.

When I push him in his stroller it's easier. I try to keep nappies, spare clothing and that I'm different rooms in the house, so I don't have to keep going up and down the stairs

I feel stupid and weak because I'm struggling to hold my baby.

Is there anything someone could recommend?

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Needlenardlenoo · 23/08/2025 09:20

You could do with seeing a post natal physio.

In the longer term assuming it's just weak core muscles, Pilates could be good.

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