Will my friend be allowed around my kids??

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hi basically my friend has had all her children removed due to her past relationship around DV.
i was wondering would this stop her from being allowed around my children or anything????)

This. I would think of it as if she can't make good choices for her OWN children why would I trust her around mine?

In my small town there was a single mother who always had a line of kids following along behind her that looked like a set of those Russian nesting dolls — maybe five little kids, each a year younger than the other going down in size.
People cruelly called her “twinkle toes,” because the toes on both her feet turned upward, the result of some sort of natural defect. She obviously didn’t receive the medical care that could’ve treated her for that.
The mum was rumoured to be mentally disabled, but I don’t know - I never spoke to her.
Then I heard that the county social services people had intervened and taken her children away and given her an operation to prevent any further pregnancies - and I never saw her again.
OTOH - she very easily could’ve just moved.
Looking back, her kids were always clean and always dressed in clean clothes and decent shoes.
Different doesn’t have to mean MNHQ EDITED disabled or whatever people call it. It just means different.
She’d be in her 70s now - I hope she’s okay and I hope her kids are okay too.

Your friend put her own children at risk. Why would you want her around your children? You can meet her without your children being present.

sorry that happened to you but not sure how it’s relevant to the current situation?

Most posters who are objecting have said it’s because they feel this woman put abusive men ahead of her children and has put them at risk.

If you don’t have kids this clearly doesn’t apply.

I doubt it would mean she can't be around your DC when you're there too but I wouldn't be trusting her to babysit or anything

It depends on the situation you're thinking of. You're responsible for safeguarding your children. Are you thinking of sending your children round to her house for her to babysit (and her new partner, who you haven't met, may come round while you are not there)? She's shown too little judgement to be trusted in that case, surely.
Could she come for coffee with you at your house while your kids are there? In that case, you personally are responsible for managing the situation. Your friend is there to see you and is only briefly greeting your kids. You are there so you know that no other adults are present and would deal with any emergency or judgemental situations.
I hope you and your friend are ok.

Assuming she is always supervised, there wouldn't be an issue. It's very unlikely she has any rules in place banning her from contact with children at all, unless she lost her children due to child related criminal offences. So in normal life it's probably fine legally for her to see your kids supervised or unsupervised.

The problem would more be that if an issue did arise and Social Services became involved with your family, she might be someone they banned contact with going forward (if they had a good reason to believe she is a risk to your specific children).