I’m broken my 6month old is up every hour:(

[Tinydancer35]

My baby was ok sleeper until she turned 4 months and since then she is up every hour. I can no longer function and can’t be the parent she deserves. I feel so guilty, I struggle to play, interact and I have no energy to leave the house.

Anyways, it’s been going for two months now and it doesn’t look like anything is getting better, in fact it looks like it’s getting worse.
I know the issue is that she can’t independently fall asleep and is breastfed to sleep at the moment.

What do I do? I have reached out to HV but they couldn’t care less about the sleep issues and I’ve been told that NHS doesn’t support sleep training.

Can anyone please share some tips or positive stories? I’ve never left so desperate and low in my life.

Thank you all! It is comforting to know I’m know I’m not the only one going through this, all mom friends babies wake-up max 2x so I feel like my baby is broken.
Many good suggestions I will try out ❤️

I must say she hit all her developmental milestones earlier than expected, so not sure if that would have any impact on sleep. It’s probably just a coincidence but she often comes out with something new after horrendous night sleep.

There's a theory that children who are naturally advanced/smart tend to sleep less so you could well be right

Sounds so tough. One thing we did with bottles was to use the ready made ones when my husband was doing a feed. So there was almost no faffing time getting the bottle ready coz he just had to pour it into the bottle. He slept with the ready made milk in the bed so it was warm and didn’t need heating.

I don’t think bedtime routine actually makes a massive difference. I think it’s just age that makes a difference and also being able to night wean. That was when mine started sleeping more but he was over a year before I night weaned.

Solidarity. It was so hard.

This is unfortunately completely normal at 6 months. It’s the combination of developmental changes, probably starting teething and beginning solids (which contrary to what your mum will tell you often leads to worse not better sleep). You just have to power through and do whatever it takes to get as much sleep as possible. You haven’t done anything wrong or created bad habits and there is nothing you’ll need to ‘fix’ later as a result. This is how babies sleep, as horrendous as it is for us short term. Absolutely co-sleep, have your partner do the settling one end of the night or the other so you can sleep as long as possible, have your partner get up at say 5sm if she’s waking early while you get an extra 2 hours of sleep, co-sleep all naps together to catch up on a bit of sleep, etc. Literally just do whatever it takes to sleep as much as you can. It will pass.

We had this with ds
He eventually was waking every 20 mins by 10 months. Was hell
I stopped feeding him at all at night and then tried everything. The only thing that worked was to let him cio. He hated the patting/or being next to him or co sleeping.

First night he cried for 20 mins, second for 5 last for 1.
He then slept through and I could actually be a nice parent in the day time.

20min is horrific, we had couple 30min wakes and it’s the worst.
I see some moms said that sleep got better around 15-18months. I will be returning back to work when she is 11months.
Maybe things will change but unfortunately I’ve lost any hope and I think we might have to do some sort to CIO.
How long did it take you to sleep train?

Teething? Have you been giving pain relief?

When DS was 8 months old he was waking up so often I was destroyed. I had followed Taking Cara Babies on insta for a while and used her feed, awake, sleep - he would settle with a dummy. However though the night he was waking and wanting BF or some kind of comfort to get back to sleep. It got to a point where me and my partner were exhausted and I wasn't up for co sleeping personally. I used the Taking Cara Babies sleep training and it took just 2 nights. First night he cried for 15-20 mins, the second night even less. It took 2 nights. He would sleep until 5:30am from 7:30pm in his own room. He's now 2 and does 12-13 hours no bother. I know people say it's natural for babies to want to co sleep and want mum all night and that's great for some, but your mental health matters too and sleep training worked for us. We were all much happier with better sleep, including DS. Babies adapt and learn very quickly. I hope you find something that works for you. Good luck xx