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"My children are my whole life"

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emkana · 28/04/2008 20:32

What are your first thoughts on hearing those words from a woman (if you ever do!).

Does it make a difference what age her children are?

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TotalChaos · 28/04/2008 20:34

One is meant to think OMG what a boring cow, won't she get a shock when they leave home. However in my case it is pretty close to the truth.

Desiderata · 28/04/2008 20:34

It always sounds weird, but you have to balance it with the opposite sentiment, I suppose.

As a child, I know which I'd prefer!

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emkana · 28/04/2008 20:35

It's totally true in my case, TC.

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rookiemater · 28/04/2008 20:35

I feel somewhat sorry for her children, it would be rather exhausting being someones whole life. If however any one of them is less than a year old, I'd probably forgive her and blame it on hormones.

hatrick · 28/04/2008 20:35

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pedilia · 28/04/2008 20:35

I would think she needs to get out more

Seriously I think that is quite a sad statement, I strongly believe that we all need our own time/space/hhat do hobby/outside interests.
what on earth do these women do when their children leave home?

giraffeski · 28/04/2008 20:35

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cazzybabs · 28/04/2008 20:36

i hope they are young kids.

mind you this bit does worry me...all my friends have kids - will we be friends without the kids?

VoluptuaGoodshag · 28/04/2008 20:36

It depends what context you take it in. I could say the same at the moment but it wouldn't be because I was an earth mother, more because I've a 3+4 year old and I don't get a minutes peace as much as I'd like to.

donbean · 28/04/2008 20:37

devoted mother i would say immediately.
kids come first to her......

FAQ · 28/04/2008 20:37

right now I'd probably think someone else was going through what I'm going through, recent marriage break-up, and depression thrown in to boot, and right now some day my children are the only reason I keep going..........

TheFallenMadonna · 28/04/2008 20:37

Sadly, I've only heard it used in a negative sense (as in 'there has to be something more than this')

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emkana · 28/04/2008 20:37

What if she doesn't want to get out more, is just perfectly happy with life as it is?

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Hulababy · 28/04/2008 20:37

I wouldn't take it literally. I'd just assume that her children were the most important people in her life, either along with or wothout a DH/DP. That they come first, etc.

janeite · 28/04/2008 20:38

I'd think she needed to find a job/social life or something else outside of the family. My children are certainly (along with dp) the most IMPORTANT thing in my life, but they are not be whole life and I'd probably go insane if I didn't have work and other things in my life as well.

saadia · 28/04/2008 20:38

I wouldn't believe it, I don't think anyone can truly live like that, just for their children. It suggests that all other relationships (with husband, siblings, parents, cousins, friends) are not that important.

gingerninja · 28/04/2008 20:39

That she's either found her vocation in life and is happy or has no friends or family close by so her family are all she's got. I don't think it matters what age her children are if they're all happy what does it matter?

FAQ · 28/04/2008 20:39

sorry saadia, didn't mean to tell lies

Tutter · 28/04/2008 20:39

would assume she has 2 dsses, one 2.11yo, the othe 9mo

and that she is exhausted

Earthymama · 28/04/2008 20:39

In my experience you never lose that sense of your children being the centre of your lives. I have hobbies, passions and interests but if they need me I would drop everything to be there for them.

Luckily they reciprocate!

pistachio · 28/04/2008 20:41

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CarGirl · 28/04/2008 20:42

If it is an only child (and unlikely to get a sibling) I really really worry for the child what an awful position to be in, to be completely smothered etc

TBH when you have 3 or more young children they become pretty much your whole life by default because apart from keeping on top of domestic chores there is not much time for lots of socialising etc.

MadamePlatypus · 28/04/2008 20:43

I have only ever read it in magazines usually by somebody like Angelina Jolie before discussing her latest film role. I think for many people with very young children its not far from the truth, whether they like it or not. At some point I think its best to have some non-child related interests though so that you don't become the most annoying MIL on earth.

saadia · 28/04/2008 20:43

apologies FAQ, posted before seeing your post. I do understand that definitely in certain circumstances children are everything, and in some ways I can really relate to that myself.

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