At my absolute wits end. We got in to good habits over the summer of an hour before bed where she could play in her room or in the bath but she's point blank refusing playing in her room without me there.
I love playing board games, cards, colouring, we read, do crafts. But I fucking hate sitting in her messy room playing with dolls. It's boring, everything I do is wrong, and I'm crap at it. I've tried talking to her, getting cross, explaining that if she plays with her toys she's more likely to get good presents at Xmas or birthdays because I only like buying toys I know she'll play with. I busy myself with other stuff in the hope she'll get bored and go off, this occasionally works. She went up tonight while I cleaned the kitchen but came back 10 mins later to say she was bored and had played with everything already
Her responses range from she doesn't have enough hands to do the games with her dolls to straight out shouting NO in my face.
Bedtimes are also horrendous at the moment. We could have a lovely story or bath but the second she is required to do any basic task like go to the toilet, move from my bed where we've read a story in to he room the refusal begins, lying in our bed refusing to move, dragging herself across the floor at snails pace etc, not getting out the bath. The angrier I get the angrier and worse behaved she gets, so I know getting cross doesn't work but it's the end of the day, I'm tired and I want her to go to bed without a massive song and dance.
Some nights DH and I can tag team and when the first person is losing their temper the other takes over, but DH works in the evenings often so this isn't a guarantee.
Nearly every night bed time ends in me leaving DD in bed with me fuming and her in a strop.
Are there any practical suggestions? I feel the bedtimes have declined in line with the lack of independent play. She's 6 and I can still rarely go to the toilet or have a bath on my own unless she's out or watching tv