Do any of you think a child is rude...

[Shybaby]

if you say hello to them and they ignore you?

Before anyone jumps, not a troll post. An honest question. I'll tell you the full story in a moment!

yes I do

Depends how old they are.
DS1 is 2.6 and can say hello to people, but gets shy with some people and I wouldnt call that rude...

depends on the age of the child

depends on the age of the child

It would irriate me but I would wonder whether they had sn

come on, what happened then......?!!!

Depends on the age and if they had SN.

and older , NT child, then yes.

Not in the slightest.

DD doesn't cope well with people saying hello to her at times. She clams up and hides.

She is nearly 5.

It has sod all to do with manners. I have friends who say I should "make" her.

(sorry, subject close to my heart)

yes!

I would say usually yes, although I would make allowances for older children if they are terribly shy - but you can usually tell the difference between shyness and rudeness, I find.

For the terribly shy child, I think it is horrible to force them to speak - if anything I feel it just makes the problem worse.

flame, poke your 'friends' in the eye

NOt if I didn't know the child, however I get increasingly irrate about saying hello to my nephews and they either ignore me, stick their tongue out or worse, the olderst one is 8

subject close to my heart as well.

It would depend on the reaction of the parent.

People talk to dd2 and there is absolutely NO WAY she will answer (in fact, doc tonight was nearly ringing 999 as she had obviously lost her voice - um... no, she just won't talk to you )

I always tell the person who has addressed dd2 that she is shy and won't respond. If I also ignored the person saying hello, that would be rude.

And these people that say we should make our children speak - even if it were something we wanted to do (which in my case it isn't) how do they suggest we make a child talk?

I suppose if you know the child then it can be quite rude, but some children are very shy.

My husband took our youngest into a shop and he was wearing a football shirt. A chap said hello and spoke to him but our son didnt reply, to which this chap said "what a rude little boy".

My husband explained that we had told him not to speak to people he did not know - stranger danger and all that - and then the chap apologised and said he understood!

yes,depending how old

they should be encouraged to say hello by the parent

under 3-4 I'd let them off

I wouldn't think rudeness.....I would just shrug it off as a quirk of certain children.

some of mine at times don;t respond to people greeting them....either they don;t know the person and therefore, why should they?, and other times they are in shy moods or even poorly. I can often encourage them to respond but at times they don't and I will say hello for them or just say "sorry, they are not in the mood/poorly/shy etc"

also, I have known flamechick since birth and know why she doens;t and so think meybe that is also the reason for another child!!!

my lil girl wont say hello to a particular woman.....she says to me she doesnt like her!
i admire my dds honesty!!sod politeness

and I understand shyness up to a certain age.

I think a shy child should still be encouraged

4 years old. I was firmly put in my place this morning. (I think ) and I wasn't really expecting it. I hadn't actually considered it before (was rather embarrassing tbh).

DD can alternate - sometimes she will glare, sometimes she will hide, sometimes she will happily say hello.

I normally try to encourage once, and if she still refuse say to the person that she isn't going to say hello.

As Psycho says, she has known her since birth, and she will rarely say goodbye to her.

People get unbelievably offended that a child won't speak to them.

does your DD KNOW the person who was expecting a response???

who put you in your place shybaby? the child?

depends on how old they are, how shy they are, if they have definitely heard me, if they have sn,if they are alone or with adults.
So no coz generally it's for one of the reasons above.

why should a child speak to an adult tho???

ok yeah, respect to your elders and all that, but still......no one person in this world has to speak to another, and a child less so, especially if it is a stranger as it then goes against everything we try to teach them about stranger danger etc.

Hmmm, I have been trying to teach my (newly) shy 2 year old that it's friendly to smile when people say hello, and you can say hello back too. At the moment (this is a new one for me) she says MUM and clings to my legs and smiles shyly and says 'too shy a talk a him' .

I think the 'problem' is that often we don't model it ourselves, people say hello to children more than they say it to us so they don't get to see us being friendly to strangers. I try to be smiley and say hello to shopkeepers and busdrivers to make the point.