Update to 'I don't want my five year old'

[icann]

I thought I'd start a new thread because the other one had 800 plus responses and I think the limit is 1000

Anyway we started a private assessment with a strong suspicion of autism and possibly PDA. And maybe even ADHD. We've had the first assessment. We were going to be waiting too long on the NHS and our in laws helped us out with the costs. We've checked its a recognised society and it will be accepted by school.

We had a massive issue which is why it's taken too long for a reply. She broke her arm. She refused to go to school and we have been pretty much dragging her to school. I need the break..unfortunately she threw a cup at my 3 year old and she required stitches to her face.
I reacted way too slowly to stop it. I should have seen it. My 3 year old was bleeding a lot, apparently face injuries bleed like crazy. I had grab my 5 year.old and I am not ashamed to say I physically locked her in the living room so I could phone my husband to get home now. She trashed the entire living room. Her arm needed re casting as she broke it. My 3 year old needed stitches.

We've reached breaking point now and this second assessment can't come any quicker

Hope your Christmas went well op! Tomorrow is a new day… and the start of term!

We had a very small win today. We managed to have a day in the snow as a family of 4 and we only had one tidy incident where she went to pull her sisters hair and then stopped herself.
I'm taking it as a win.

She is not looking forward to school tomorrow but it is what it is. Let's see how it goes

That's actually a huge win. Well done. School is a massive trigger for her though from what you've said. Decompression time between fetching from school and going home can help if that's possible, e.g. a playground or library or going for a drink/ice cream for half an hour with no demands. Hope she is OK tomorrow.

That’s awesome! It may feel small but there have probably been times when you felt you would never have a day like this so it’s a huge win! Good luck tomorrow

Congratulations

That is actually a huge win. She stopped herself from doing something unkind! Well done her, and well done you all. I am glad you could have a good day, and may there be many more.

I hope tomorrow goes OK. Carry the happy thoughts from today with you.

That’s brilliant OP! Can she control her impulses better outdoors? I know my Autistic child can, unless he gets over excited.
What's your plan for support to deal with school going forward? There are some good advocates that aren’t expensive to help you draft emails etc. Have you tried SENDIASS at all?

Yes, this.

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@icann just wanted to say that I think of you and your little family often. I hope there has been some little steps of progress. We’re still having a very tricky time of it. You’re not alone.