ok then, goig on the other thread with AIBU re perfect parents.......WHAT DOES make a perfect parent???

[Psychomum5]

emkana askes why there seem to be so many thread professing perfect parenting, but we all have failing in some way or other (or at least, I do), so instead I wonder what it is that would shout to the world that 'this is a perfect mother'..???

for me, it would be a mum who managed to feed her children 100% organic decent food, cooked from scratch, and the kiddies wolfed it down without complaint and sneering....

oh, and one that wouldn;t be pushed to open the wine before the kiddies were in bed, instead of me that starts a glass while cooking many meals for my increasingly allergic and fussy children as I just cannot cope with the stress of knowing that they will all eventually just leave it anyhow!!!!

I am tho still standing up to my own claim that I am perfect, I just got given slighlty warped children.....

of course poncho has a right to her opinion, we all reserve the right to think what we like about others......I just felt it in bad taste on the actual thread IYGWIM.

she should have had her moan elsewhere really......sadly there are trolls about, and we all get supicious of people at times, sometimes some of us quicker than others, and rightly so in some sad cases.......

BUT

she should still have not posted if she thought that ON the thread!!!

and we all still did the right thing by CQ, and I hope to god we would again, regardless of how other people in the past have behaved on MN.

face value intil proven otherwise is always the way to go!!!

(and I still maintain that last night was one of 'MN at its best' moments)

I tried to see her POV but I think she just didn't get it.

Yes, MN at it's finest.

Still in awe of you fab ladies.

I can't remember who posted this but it was something along the lines of being pregnant with your first child and all the "perfect" things you are going to do in the rearing of said child. You give birth and come down to earth with a not so perfect land.

There is no such thing as a perfect parent.

I'm particularly fond of this poem.

They fuck you up your mum and dad
They may not mean to but they do
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra just for you

But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old style hats and coats
Who half the time were soppy stern
And half at one another's throats

Man passes misery to man
It deepens like a coastal shelf
So get out as early as you can
And don't have any kids yourself

mhami......I like that.....

whats a troll?

calm and composed with a (non agressive, utterly reasonable, imaginative, creative) response to every single question, request, demand, need.

thats the perfect mother.
not that i set myself unachievable goals or anything...

Refuse to read a thread that includes the title 'perfect parent'. There is no such thing, thank God. There's only a parent who's good enough for that particular child.

(i never had stairgates. they were all v good at stairs from v early)

and psychomum5 is not a troll!

oh, no-one did? thats alright then [looks shifty]

A perfect parent is one who is happy and has happy children, who's needs are met.

the very IDEA of it.....ME, on ,y own thread, being inferred as a troll.....

hurrumph

I dunno, go out with the kiddies on their st. georges day parade down in bounrmeouth (DD2 is a scout, DS1 and DS2 are now beavers), and I come back to this.....

not happy

and there was I, being the perfect parent of the day (), and now this.....

garrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

!

er.... that was entirely down to me. scan read and got wrong end of stick. sorry about that love!

TUT!!!!

I don;t know....If I didn;t know you I would fire poison darts your way......