Toddler refusing to wear nappies

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Toddler is 2yr8 months.

She doesn't know when she needs to poo or pee, she usually tells me when she's done a poo and wants a clean nappy, but sometimes won't tell me and I don't realise for a while. Other times I can smell it, ask her and she may Sat yes, but she may say no.

She went through a stage of protesting nappies, been generally OK the last few months, but today refused to wear it, then fell asleep on sofa, so I had to shove a blanket under her, in a hope it would save the sofa..

On waking, refusing nappy.

We got a potty a few months ago, which is a game to her. She sat on it a bit for fun, sometimes did a poo, then pulled down nappy to sit on potty, so poo fell on floor

Although she doesn't know when she needs to go, I'd have said she's still not ready.. am I wrong?

We have a 16 month, so not sure how to navigate potty training now or in the future, as a potty can't just be left out

Any help or advice please x

What makes you say that? Doing it blocks 1-4 as per the book. Block 1 atm, naked, watch like a hawk and move to potty when start to go. Tho, today on day 2, 4 times she's taken herself to the potty to pee.

But, I am moving potty around lots to which part of the large (open plan lounge/kitchen/diner) room she's in and garden. And when i see her cues, prompting her. But, loosely following with the blocks and cues and no nappies except for bedtime

If it helps you can get waterproof stretchy covers for sofa.

Thank you. I ordered puppy pads, put a few on the sofa yesterday evening. She likes to sit on them when I say they're her "special seat". I figured these would be useful go put in car seat and pushchair too 🙂

Day 3 - bad start. On waking up, potty was outside her door and I told her to take trousers and nappy off and use potty. She got very upset and said no etc. I half pulled nappy off, full & fresh pee, told her it's dirty and needs to go in the bin* *and we can't go downstairs with nappy. Lots of protest, getting very upset etc.

Carry her downstairs, still v upset until TV on (she usually has TV til baby comes down). Potty is right by the sofa, but a bad start

My eldest had severe bowel problems from birth and I had gotten used to taking the travel potty everywhere with the bags.

So when a few days post 2nd birthday, my youngest dragged me to the lounge to show me she had peed on the potty, I took her shopping to choose pants and another potty (always good to have one in every room/ major area of the house).

And we took the travel potty everywhere. Those things are so good I even used it once when at a festival

She regressed when in new places or situations. We just got on with it.

You can't be precious about furniture and carpets when having children. Mess and wee etc sort of comes with the territory.

Maybe just tired and cranky from just waking up, or maybe she had peed in the nappy when she was awake and knew she was supposed to go in the potty during the day and was a bit embarrassed.
Anyway don't lose hope, hopefully the rest of the day will go well!

So today, day 4. Again, got very upset taking her nappy off after waking up. I put trousers on (no pants), under protest. Pulled trousers down to sit on potty When prompted but didn't go. Then took trousers off.

Didn't pee for 2hrs. 2 potty pees. Then trousers on, she peed, realised and sat down with trousers on, got angry when I was trying to pull them down. Then ran around for ages soaking wet, not caring. Whilst I cleaned pee. Finally got her pissy trousers off

Went quick playground trip in the drizzle. Got back 20min later as rained heavy. And her trousers were falling down showing lots of bare bum haha, oh dear! Got home and a few mins later noticed pee in & by potty, but possibly from pre park trip...

Nursery tomorrow! I think their policy is 3 accidents and then revert to nappy. I think with trousers on and distracted playing she'll likely have 3 accidents by early afternoon

Where you can (appreciate its not always appropriate) try skirts for a while. They feel less like pants and nasty be a good half way house. Or she may need to be naked bottom half gor longer (which I appreciate doesn't really with etc nursery). The tricky thing here is that she decided to train, so you haven't been able to block out a week or something, and she's got to get it quick.

If there is any way you can keep her off nursery for a few more days it's better than them putting her back in nappies. I appreciate that might not be possible with work though.

My grandson has proved a nightmare to potty train .
I am mother to 4 and a childminder .
I have never come across a more determined stubborn child .
It is soul destroying .
No advice ......just good luck and empathy .

There's been another pee in trousers, she was calm this time and took trousers off after she'd peed. I'm going to keep her naked bum for the rest of the day.

I emailed nursery this morning, no reply yet. I know dome nursery's insist on undies, which we don't have yet anyway. So I plan to send her in with lots of spares and just see how she does. She's only in nursery Wed & Thurs anyway, will do bare bum from fri again. Tho we have a soft play party saymt, I will have to do knickers with a nappy over the top for hygiene reasons