To think DH is abusive towards the kids

[Bestmummy2]

DH is stay home dad but I think he is abusive towards the kids ages 4 and 6 yrs. Many times slaps them and shouts at them. I earn a great wage but recently stretched resources to get a 30% mortgage, so things will be a bit tight for a month or two. I pay the mortgage, bills and have a nanny to help out with kids due to aggressive behaviour. It breaks 💔 when I see the way he treats the kids, I am sure its worse when I am at work. I work long hours most of the time. 've told him to find job but doesn't want. Wants me to to get rid of the nanny but I have refused, done it before he was constantly complaining that he was going everything round the house. Told him to leave but he doesn't want to go. I would like to hear some positive experiences of stay at home dad s. Is his behaviour normal or me doing something wrong?

You are already paying someone else to look after the children while you work. He is contributing nothing.
Don't ask him if he wants to leave, tell him he has to! Otherwise as far as your children's welfare is concerned, you are not much better than he is.

Well I think you’re doing the right thing moving overseas. He is abusive and shouldn’t be given joint custody. He may try and prevent your move. But given lack of a job, good luck to him with that. I agree though that fact he can’t afford private school shouldn’t be an issue given they could attend state. Hopefully you won’t have a battle on your hands

@Bestmummy2

It's 3 months later now, how have things been ?