8 MONTH OLD FELL DOWN THE STAIRS!!! TOP TO BOTTOM!!

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I feel fucking horrendous, 8m ds, just stared crawling, just got a gate and not put it up yet, went to the loo with him,took my eye off the ball for 30 seconds because older ds (8) was sat with him, next min he fell down the stairs, i chased him down but i just wasnt quick enough, he cryed but nothing like i was expecting, ive seen worse when hes fell back on his bum when he trys to pull himself up. he has a lump on the side of his head but its only small. i feel fucking awful, im such a shit mother, im tired and i fucked up. He's alert, chatting,babbling and blowing raspberries.

Do i take him the drs or A and e? Or just monitor.

Im still shaking,please be kind i know im shit.

100% A&E even if he seems fine, 8 months is too young to risk as he won't be able to tell you if he feels unwell. If he's got a lump he's obviously hit his head and I wouldn't be comfortable just monitoring at home without being checked out. Plus if you don't seek medical advice and you end up seeking it later a lot of questions will be raised about why you didn't at the time. Go now.

You are absolutely not shit! There are things I still feel guilty about with mine- but all are happy, healthy adults.
I would say keep an eye on him, if he seems extra sleepy, vomits or just doesn't seem himself, go to A&E or 111.
Best wishes, and, forgive yourself. We are all human x

same thing happened to my eldest at 9 months as he could pretty much walk and thought he’d walk down the stairs! I took him to A and E where he giggled and babbled at the staff with not a bruise on him. I almost had to be sedated though. He was fine.

A&E. Partly because it’s a long fall (imagine doing it yourself) and partly to reassure you. You’re not a shit mum, it happens. DS rolled off our bed in front of me, I just didn’t get to him in time because I was putting my jumper on. He was okay but I was a wreck.

Yikes what a shock. Sounds like he is fine, but urgent care and A&E for a bit of support.

A&E now

Your not shit they are wriggly little thinks my DS has fallen more times than I can count now he's almost 2 but he always fell off the bed at 7 months old to and was fine. If in doubt tho go to a+e

I'd go to A&E for the sake of caution, but as he's alert that's a very good sign. It's not like an adult falling while walking or running.

I'd phone 111. I think they'll then send an ambulance because you have an 8 month old with a visible head injury and possibly invisible injuries.

I expect everything will be completely okay and there's no need to panic, but you definitely want a professional to examine your child.

My DS14 fell down the stairs at 12 months of age - it was bath time and I had 2 toddlers he was suddenly randomly swinging on the open stair gate id just come through and I just couldn’t get to him in time . He was and is absolutely fine . I was told that at that age they don’t resist like an adult would and therefore are less likely to get hurt .

We are all human

Don't beat yourself up,many of us have been there! My 1.5 year old did a somersault yesterday on middle of stairs because my older boy of similar age to yours opened the stair gate?! Although I would say this, don't rely on the elder child to watch them unless they are a teenager or reliable responsible, they don't see danger like we do! I've made this mistake before. A doctor once told me that if they have a lump he's not so worried as if they have a dent! I think you should monitor for any signs such as vomiting, change in cry, colour, consciousness but otherwise probably a wasted trip to A and E. They won't likely do a scan unless there is some other factor such as vomiting.

A friend of mine didn't take her child to A&E when she fell down the stairs (she was a little bit older), a few days later, she realised that her nose was a bit swollen, so took her to the drs. The dr had to do a safeguarding referral due to her not being originally taken to A&E and she had social worker welfare checks for 6 months afterwards.

You should definitely go to A&E

There is either more to this story than you've been told or it's fabricated! Parents are allowed to make judgement calls. Total scare mongering.

Same thing happened to mine at around 18 months. 111 sent an ambulance to us, who said she looked fine but best go to hospital just in case. She was absolutely fine, and you're not a shit mum.

But he isn't a 'proper kid' yet is he? He is a small baby, you should be safeguarded. Buying a stair gate and then neglecting to put it up? Leaving a kid unsupervised upstairs? Come on! Yes, kid will probably be fine but let's be honest, if this was a man who had been in charge of the kid and this had happened, I doubt there would be as many 'there there, you are a great parent' sympathy posts.

Glad you are going to A&E, most likely 100% fine but….if he isn’t and have to tell medics that he fell down the stairs xx days ago and you didn’t seek help it wouldn’t look great.
Newly crawling and walking babies can be surprisingly fast with no/little concept of danger. I remember my LO crawling upstairs only a few days after his first crawl….he was at the top looking around and grinning at me. I was at bottom of stairs and legged it to the top 💩 . It really shook me. Stairs gates went on (until he found ways to climb them 🙄)
I hope all is well, and I understand why you were cautious about going to A&E, there are so many threads where time-wasting in NHS is called out. This isn’t time wasting.

My baby sister fell off a high bed then I chucked her down some stairs (we have a very close relationship now lol). Mum took her to be checked out and they said keep and eye but if the bump is going outwards its a good sign.

Be kind to yourself but no harm in getting it looked at though Im sure its grand

Oh god, can’t imagine how shit you feel right now hoping baby is ok, best to get checked out. Sometimes these things happen, my 10mo ended up with a concussion from falling backwards from standing position and banging his head off laminate flooring (he did not fall from a height, he had been stood holding on to the sofa, let go and fell backwards before I could catch him).

Absolutely this

This exact thing happened to my DS. Literally the entire flight.

He was fine. Went to A&E but no issues found. He's now a strapping teen and getting A in his A levels !

I would definitely go to A&E for this.

I hope your both ok!

Glad you're going to A&E, best to be safe and sometimes you just need a professional to say all is well.

He's alert and happy which is good.

Christ this is insane! You dialled 999...? I understand if the child is unconscious, continuously screaming or vomiting...but that's not what you say. 999 is for genuine life threatening emergencies you realize?

Don't beat yourself up OP, things happen. My ds did the exact same thing at about the same age, top to bottom of the stairs.

I felt awful for ages. Time actually seemed to slow down whilst I was running down those stairs to get him. He had a big lump on his head and cried but was otherwise OK.