8 MONTH OLD FELL DOWN THE STAIRS!!! TOP TO BOTTOM!!

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I feel fucking horrendous, 8m ds, just stared crawling, just got a gate and not put it up yet, went to the loo with him,took my eye off the ball for 30 seconds because older ds (8) was sat with him, next min he fell down the stairs, i chased him down but i just wasnt quick enough, he cryed but nothing like i was expecting, ive seen worse when hes fell back on his bum when he trys to pull himself up. he has a lump on the side of his head but its only small. i feel fucking awful, im such a shit mother, im tired and i fucked up. He's alert, chatting,babbling and blowing raspberries.

Do i take him the drs or A and e? Or just monitor.

Im still shaking,please be kind i know im shit.

I don't know how to edit but just wanted to add, he was absolutely fine in himself once he'd stopped crying. Eating/drinking as usual and no change in his demeanour. No pain etc (other than a stinking headache I imagine!) It's always worth a check.

Nobody second guesses themselves when a baby, A BABY, has had a major fall like this. Very irresponsible on two counts so far this morning. To the post that I doubt the sincerity of the story.

Thanks for that

He's probably fine, but I'd take him anyway.

She came to ask advice. Not for a casual chit chat.
Not everyone has a mum/sister/friend/partner they can refer to at times of confusion. When my 8 month year old somehow accidentally touched a hot iron 26 years ago I was so distraught and confused and discombobulated , I didn’t take him to AE until the next day. I regretted it for years later but my partner was abroad and I didn’t have the right advice from anyone around my at the time.

So her some slack, please. Parenting is hard enough as it is.

My daughter fell off my double bed, she was way younger than that, I had never seen her even roll over, let alone drag herself across a metre to the edge of the bed. I was just wheeling our suitcase out of the room. I was aghast, she didn´t cry or anything, she looked so surprised. She had a slightly red mark that faded pretty quick on her head. I monitored her and she seemed fine, no drousiness or eyes doing funny things, so I didn´t go to a&e or call doctor, but I think in your case it is a worse fall with an injury, so yes, I would take her. And you´re not a shit mum. Accidents happen. It just shows how unpredictable they are.

Happened to me. I took my toddler out of the bath and he scarpered from me and because he was slippery I couldn't catch him and he fell from the top to the bottom of the stairs. It's like I watched it happen in slow motion. He was absolutely fine. I was the wreck. If you're worried ring 101 and get medical advice.

Situations like this ask yourself if I do nothing and then there are consequences, can I live with that. If not. Hospital. No point GP.

Look into a first aid course or at the very least get a book then you will have more knowledge.

Just to add, I've noticed that you say he has a lump. So he obviously hit his head. Probably worth a trip to a&e just to be on the safe side.

That exact scenario happened to me with DS - and we had insanely steep stairs (terraced house) at the time.

He cried (with shock) but then settled… I immediately dialled 999 and we were blue-lighted to the children’s hospital. Luckily all the tests & checks came back 100% fine…. But please don’t take any chances - ring 999 xx

Omg ignore this and absolutely take him to a&e

If you are that exhausted that this happened (and accidents do happen) how can you be sure you aren't missing any signs? He can't communicate with you. Get him checked.

Call 111. Any signs of dizziness, vomiting go to A&E immediately.

What a nasty nasty thing to say to a distraught mother.

Happened to my littler girl and she was totally fine.
Ring 111

It sounds like he’s fine, but I would go to A&E for a check. These things happen so quickly don’t they and you just replay it over and over in your head!

DD did that at probably around the same age, I didn't even realise she could climb the stairs until I saw her fall down them!
Luckily babies tend to bounce whereas adult tense up and hurt themselves that way.
We've both fell top to bottom in most of the houses we've lived in, dd's always been fine, I've had the bruises, bumps and grazes! Accidents happen but at that age I'd get her checked out just for reassurance, as you say they are acting normally so that's a good sign.

Take him to A&E because you never know. And for your own sanity so you don’t regret it later.

But don’t hate yourself. It happened to me once with my baby. Head first down the stairs. I was distraught but he was fine in the end. Accidents happen.

Do get him checked out by a doctor today though. Just to be safe. Fingers crossed for the little one.

Straight to A and E. Most have a paediatric route so there is minimal waiting especially for a head injury. Definitely do not leave it or don't go because there is a risk of hairline fracture.

This does not warrant an ambulance.

OP, are the stairs carpeted?

These things happen. Maybe try calling 111, or take him to A+E as a precaution if you can.

Oh wow, I bet that was scary for you both. You're not a terrible mother. At least he's ok.

Just go A and E for a check up.Its nothing to them ,they see it every day ! You are not the first or last .Just forgive yourself and make sure stairgate in place in future

I would go to the hospital though and just have him checked.

As a nursery nurse we were taught ‘the first time is an accident, the second time is ignorance’ - it happens, you’re not a shit mum!
How is he doing now?, has he been sick? Is there a large bump? Is he moving normally? Is he eating laughing and being himself?

Go to A and E to be sure or ask your GP for advice.

Do not persecute yourself - it’s happened and you will try to ensure it doesn’t happen again !

I will never cease to be amazed by how utterly shitty some humans can be.

I really hope this twatty smug comment made you feel good about yourself.

The poor woman came here for advice.

I'd probably call 111 - I did this when my DD fell on her head and had an immediate huge bruise but she was otherwise fine. I was just told to keep an eye on her.