Am I being over the top?

[Elisabeth3468]

My son is starting nursery (he's just over 2) in a few weeks. He will be doing 2 afternoons a week.
I am a bit anxious when it comes to trusting anyone with him and don't particularly want him to go to nursery but haven't got much choice.
Anyway, I do have a fear of choking and I checked that they cut foods appropriately there and asked them to avoid him eating apple and carrot sticks.
This is only because I know he messes around with other children and tends to copy other children (especially if they are being silly). At home I have a firm rule that if he's eating then he should sit down and he knows that.
She said they halve grapes , blueberries and tomatoes.
My son loves grapes but I generally quarter them. Blueberries I halve or squish as they aren't as hard.
I've checked websites and everything says to quarter them.
Surely a nursery should know this? Not just for my child but for others.
I realise I do sound a bit anxious about it all but he's my little boy and I want things to be as safe as they can be for him.
Would you say something? How would you say it?

The carrot and apple thing sounds daft. But if you want to ask them why half’s not quarters then just go for it. I’d be more interested in ratios and first aid training though.

They are all first aid trained.

@TeaKitten and ratios are 1:4 in the toddler room

I think at 2 you are being OTT. Id assume as a childcare provider they will know how to appropriately cut foods. I can't comment on raw carrots because my dc never ate them but I didn't think twice about giving them a whole apple at 2.

If you don't trust nursery don't send your child.
How should staff obey speciel rules for each child if not based on allergies? They don't have time for special treatment of your child.

I'm paying them for a service and they are looking after my child. It takes a while to build trust.
I know a lot of parents don't think twice about who looks after their kid but that's not me.

OP in the kindest way possible… you are massively overreacting and need to relax.

@addictedtotheflats My son had tongue tie , he did get it cut but it did mean he took a while to get into solids. He does eat apple at home and is ok with it.

Don’t be silly, the vast majority of parents care a lot about who looks after their child!

@MidnightPatrol I take your comment on board but I can't help but being worried about it?

@MumChp why would they not have time?
It's a private nursery and I'm paying for a service. Surely they should have time.
That's why they have a key worker.

As others have said, you need to relax. The nursery have a lot of experience of this it's their job! Just relax and little and let him have fun.

I'm guessing he's your first child? PFB?

@MummyDummyNow what does PFB mean?

Why do you think you're the only parent who cares about who looks after their child?

Why not get a nanny instead?

@MummyDummyNow I'm just saying I'm particularly anxious about this subject and others don't seem to think twice (which is probably more normal)
I'm not looking for a debate or an argument.

You are joking?

They are trained to look after children. They'll know all about choking. Choking (actual choking, which is silent - not just a child coughing and spluttering on a piece of apple) is not something they'll deal with on a regular basis I wouldn't imagine, but they'll know first aid and deal with it immediately. Try to relax. Have you ever done a children's first aid course?

These sort of comments are really offensive.

Do you honestly think that all the rest of us don't care who looks after our dc ?

If that was the case then you wouldn’t have been so rude OP

PFB is Precious First Born.

@Cantaloupes Yes I am aware what choking is. Yes Ive done a first aid course and I am also a nurse that works in an acute hospital.

You're paying for your child to have a place at the nursery. You're not paying them for 1 on 1 care.
You want that- hire a nanny.
And your comments about no one else caring about their child as much as you do about yours makes you sound very silly/immature.
I get the feeling you're going to be a handful.

Your two year old is very likely to eat play dough, art supplies, something they pick up in the garden etc. This is a situation where you are focusing on a single risk and hyper focusing on it.

Try and see the carers interactions across the board, tone, kindness, care. It is hard to let someone else be responsible but you need to figure a way to have confidence because I guarantee this will influence your child's relationships there.

@MummyDummyNow Aren't all children precious?
Theres no need to be so harsh. I was simply asking for advice. Not to get attacked and be made out I'm being precious. I wish people would think more about what they type on these forums.