Teen nursery parents….just being nosey!

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Last year I noticed at my DDs nursery in her class (babies) that one of the children’s Mums was a schoolgirl (dropped her off wearing her school uniform, looked 15/16).
This year she no longer wears a school uniform and picks up her child everyday with her boyfriend/the child’s father. I am guessing they are both 17ish based on finishing school last year and that they look very young etc. I am completely judging here (awful I know!) but based on how they dress/act, I would ASSUME they don’t have a lot of money/money for nursery fees. I would also query what they do for work as they are both coming to pick her up at 4pm 3 days a week, often in pyjama like wear.
Yes this is just awful and judgemental and really not very kind behaviour but I’m just curious/nosey as to whether you get free child hours etc if you don’t work…..maybe you get it if you continue education (they could be in college)?
Again, judgey and awful. But I’m more judging the government than the parents.

Just be honest it's the age you have the issue with.
Would you make a thread blaming the government for unemployed looking parents in their forties getting the 15 free hours? I highly doubt it.
You also have no idea whether they are really unemployed and doing nothing you've just assumed that because they are young and sometimes wear pyjamas. Maybe dad works nights which is arguably a lot harder than working regular shifts and really fs up your circadian rhythm

Are they working nights ?

But if they're at 6th form or a local FE college they won't be wearing a uniform anymore in most schools or colleges

It's highly unlikely they haven't gone on to FE because they'll be given lots of support

I meant

It's highly unlikely they HAVE gone on to FE because they'll be given lots of support

And for the record yes you are of course abd I quote from you OP 'very awful and judgmental'

I mean coming on MN to wank on about what these 2 young person deserve or not is just shitty

My niece is 15. Three girls in her class 14/15 are pregnant and keeping their babies.
I was horrified when she told me, what the hell is this world coming to?

I know 3 former teen parents well.

Two were 14 and one was 16.

One of the 14 yo's children is now a professional and the mum has always worked after finishing school.

One of the 14 yo's is now 16 and taking her GCSEs while she has a 2 year old.

The 16 yo is now nearly 30 and also a professional.

It's not always doom and gloom if they have family support.

What are you on about "What is this world coming to?"?

Teenage parents have always been a thing. Always.

I would even hazard a guess that there are probably far fewer teenage parents nowadays than there ever used to be.

There's probably someone you could report them to.....

1. that word is perfectly acceptable here, and appropriately used

2. I'm not sure this thread qualifies as an adult conversation. Most of us have grown out of this sort of juvenile mean-spirited gossip by the time we leave school.

Mum had her when she was a teen she might have a support worker helping her through things so child will be entitled to free nursery!
Not that its your business.

Unnecessarily rude. If you don't like a question, scroll on.

You sound awful and judgemental. It's none of your business how they pay for their childcare!

I think you lost the moral high ground with your frankly judgy "just wondering questions" about how your taxes are spent.

MYOB

Young girls have been getting pregnant since the work began, they were just hidden before! Sent to workhouses, had their babies taken from them etc.

Did you prefer that system, because it was hidden?

I was a teen mum at university during day, working in the evenings to pay for the childcare - it’s possible they are doing the same! Good luck to them

There is a lot of government support for young parents in education. I had my dd at uni and finished with a first. It was possible due to having a parent that could help and a grant for nursery fees.

My guess is that something similar exists for younger parents in education. Normally for some having a kid young (well for me anyway) you switch on and spend your days building yourself up. I worked part time and studied - maybe they do too. Who knows?

Agreed. Dire.

Great blueprint.

Sometimes if a child is involved with social workers a child is placed in a nursery for free / huge discount to benefit the child and help the parent/s

My cousin had a son at 15. It was a shock but all the family rallied around. I was 12. Her parents were very supportive and paid nursery fees so that she could continue education (they were only in their 40s so both working). This was a long time ago so I imagine, before the free hours of nursery care. Father disappeared. My cousin also lived with her parents with her son. She completed education, got a good job, got a mortgage and ended up marrying a lovely man in her late 20s. She then started up a small business - cafe/sandwich bar with her sister and made a very good life for herself and her son. Son is now 30, he has a very successful career and is married with two young boys. It's not a life that I would want for myself or my DC, but my cousin made it work for her and her son and I'm very proud of her.

Also agree with @goingdownfighting

@Spotty8 well done you. I'm sure your children will be very proud of you.

I was 19 with my eldest, technically a teen but also legally an adult.

Do you know what the nursery mums did when I was working and couldn't attend nativity songs or class parties from time to time?

Took pictures of my DS, sent me them, made sure I was able to be as involved as possible whilst not being there.

This thread makes me even more grateful for those wonderful lasses!